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My ex moved from Southern California where he was born and raised to rather remote Montana. They have a small airport but the flights there are often more expensive. He didn’t move for a job, he moved because he built a “6.5 million dollar house”. He actually still has his second wife fly back to California to work every two weeks because she makes good money here. He did all this right as our son started freshman year. It was so selfish but that’s him. Now it’s been a year of constant him threatening not have my son visit him because the cheap flights aren’t available on days my kid can go without missing school or summer football camp. He could have him for 4th of July but he doesn’t want to spend the money flying him for a short visit. He won’t shut up about how much money he has and all the things he’s buying (boat, 100k car, two weeks in Hawaii) but keeps making it clear money is what’s keeping him from having my son visit on a time schedule that works for my kids stuff as opposed to his dads “cheap flights only” schedule.
It’s so frustrating because he complains how much it is to fly at the holidays and I want to scream, how did you not foresee flying your son to visit at thanksgiving and Christmas was going to cost more?
I can see the texts and he’s constantly telling my son he has to miss camp to come visit and if he can’t come for longer visits he can’t come at all. It feels abusive and manipulative. I don’t think the courts get involved at this level of conflict, although he is in violation of the order because he’s supposed to be paying for flights and half the camps, which he is refusing to do.
I’m also not sure if I should have encouraged my kid not to play sports so he can see his dad over the summer. I was just tired of my kid saying he wanted to do stuff but sort of living his life on pause because he has to keep his schedule free to visit his dad (who used to have 50:50 custody and they were very close until he moved).
It’s an ugly situation and as much as I despise my ex I love my kid more and I feel very heartbroken for him. I feel like his dad is making it clear the cost to see him is too high and he needs to spend his money on other things. If you have had a similar situation I’d be curious how you handled it.

I got pregnant 16 years ago and I always had a high tolerance for spice, but while pregnant I could no longer taste heat. It’s been many years and I still can eat incredibly hot foods without issue. My husband calls it my weird useless super power. I always thought it had something to do with pregnancy but I’d also been diagnosed with MS right before getting pregnant so it’s equally possible a lesion in my brain is the issue. Curious if this ever happened to anyone else in either case. I can eat Thai hot at the spiciest level or reaper wings and my hairline sweats a little. I register it’s hot. But I don’t really feel it as pain or need water or anything. If I get it in the very back of my throat I cough and it’s uncomfortable. But otherwise, it’s basically a fun party trick.

I hear good things and want to try it, but I’m not sure what to buy or where to buy the serums and cleansers. I also use retinol on my face so I don’t know if I need to take a break before I try using it in the face. I was at least going to try my neck first. If people are allowed to post links to products that have worked for them please do. I’m a chicken and it’s even sitting in the box for 6 months. But I’m ready to try anything to help with this neck I screwed up with Kybella years ago. Sigh.

Got up early and went for my MRI on a Saturday so I didn’t have to miss work. Made the mistake of telling them I took a single Benadryl because one time in 15 years I got an itchy throat from the dye and they freaked out and said I needed a ride home. Umm ok Benadryl is over the counter and literally people take it for allergies every day but I called my husband to pick me up.
Then I’m sitting there in the scrubs waiting to get started and they tell me that’s not enough. I have to pretreat for 14 hours prior with multiple medications including steroids (which I avoid like the plague and don’t want to take). So they can’t do my mri, I need to get all these meds from my doc, and reschedule. Mind you, this is the same hospital where when I had the itchy throat once and they said if they have me a Benadryl I’d need to have to stay for 4 hours after so didn’t I want to just tough it out and finish the mri? (Answer, I did).
My doc said oh next time just take a Benadryl before you go, which I have been doing successfully for YEARS.

So based on this BS I now have to go back. I have to miss work. I have to make my husband miss work to drive me. And even if they order all those meds I’m not going to take them. Fuck you MS. And F the radiologist that is dictating what medications I need to take when it’s not what my doc told me and has worked for me for years.
I’ll lie my ass off in the future if they ask if I pretreated. I’m so mad. At the disease and the radiologist that vetoed what my doc said.
Sorry this is just a rant. I feel like I have no agency over my body and life. I probably won’t even get my mri this year.

I’ve found lots of used shoes with the torn up soles, I’m curious how the forever red soles wear. I can’t find a photo. Thanks!

Sometimes I think about being 12-15 and being driven home by clearly tipsy dads after an evening of babysitting and trying to make awkward conversation. It was always the dads that drove me. There was lots of wide turns and occasional curb rash when they dropped me off. It was always people from my parents church I babysat for and I never thought to tell anyone because I don’t think I even understood because my parents didn’t drink. I really hope parents uber to dinner these days and uber home their sitters. Such a wild time those 90s were.

My instructions say soft food til 3pm and then start prep at 3pm and next bottle at 5pm. Surgery isn’t til following day until 11. Most these posts have people staring a modified diet sooner than a day ahead, including not to be eating right up until you start prepping. Also seems like last bottle is quite a while before the scope. Does this seem reasonable? It says the “day before” modified diet til 3pm but now I’m wondering if it’s not meant to be the day before I do the prep?

I have a weak right side from a spinal lesion. I’ve always felt myself overcorrecting on my right, but I noticed in the mirror the other day the top of my femur now sticks out and my right thigh is noticeably bigger than my left. My husband said it’s noticeable and felt the bump of my femur sticking out and wants me to see the doctor. That’s fine, but I’m actually not sure what type of doctor to see. I suspect it’s related to MS but I suppose it could be from age. Reading a lot about femur movement and overgrowth in women in their 40s and it’s not that uncommon. It says it can be caused by spinal injury and neurological conditions but maybe it’s age. Has anyone else had this? Was it MS? Should I start with my neuro or GP? Honestly my insurance is shit right now and I only want to go to the most direct route of who can help. My neuro is hard to get in with but also the most effective when it comes to referrals.

Loyal companion pass user for 8 years. Every time I use Southwest since their reinvention they continue to fail at every turn. They fixed one mistake and make it so A List boards in group 1. But now they’ve accidentally unlinked our reservations so I don’t board with my husband. “It’s not supposed to happen” but they also “can’t do anything” to fix this at the gate. We are on the front row. I gave them an extra 30k point yesterday for this. But nope, the agents are so good now at like shrugging and being like “well there’s nothing we can do for ya.”
And right before this flight I thought they mailed a bunch of drunk coupons. Haha no, they’re tickets you’re supposed to hand out to crew so they can get some accolades. Gee thanks SW, glad you took the time to mail me tickets to get your agents an atta boy while basically tying their hands from helping you or fixing your mistakes. Love that the guy behind me also thought they were drink tickets but he brought them on the flight to try and use. Cmon, why would SW mail you anything nice for using all their credit cards and spendings hundreds of thousands of dollars to be a loyal customer. Just use American. At least they don’t have a million layovers to get placed.

I started this show years later after getting sucked in watching RHSLC. I’m so obsessed and watching from the beginning. It’s hard because I’m five years late to chat, but damn I hate Bugsy and Malia. Objectively thirsty girls willing to step over your dead body to get ahead. I also can’t stand Sandy. Raging micromanaging narcissist. I’ve had one boss like her and it was mental torture. Every compliment is backhanded. Every move is a chance to comment on your choice and make you live in heightened state of fear. If anyone else is only recently watching, feel free to come discuss with me. My cortisol level is so high I want to quit mid season 5. All the cool people are gone and I don’t much care what happens to anyone else. Rip Keiko too. Nice guy taken down by toxic leadership.

FFS I finished the season and now I’m watching this train wreck of a reunion. Sandy is the literal worst and can’t admit any fault and continues to cut people off and talk over them.

This is truly the weirdest thing I’ve noticed. I love massages and pedicures. I’ve had issues with my right side from a massive spine lesion for years and it’s made me numb and clumsy, but it’s not really painful. But in the last year every time I get a pedicure I cannot let them hold the toes on my right foot without my leg spasming and toes shaking and makes me want to crawl out of my skin. Like I writhe around in the chair and press my foot down to keep it from shaking violently so the poor woman can paint the toes on my right foot.
I have no idea how to solve this. It’s getting worse and it’s already intolerable. I don’t want to stop getting my toes painted. It’s so silly in the scheme of all the shit I deal with, but every two weeks it happens and the pain lingers for hours. I’m venting but I’m also looking for suggestions.

I don’t know how to frame this exactly, but I’ve been diagnosed since 2009. Over the years being fairly open with my diagnosis I’ve met and made some amazing friends with fellow MS warriors/women/whatever you want to call us. Like truly some of the best people in my life have MS too and we speak on a whole different level than my other good friends about some serious shit that no one but us will ever understand.

Which leads me to my other experience. A few times in my career I’ve had clients complain about weird parent/in law/sibling. That they’re awful and they cut contact or they try to. And when I ask why (I’m a lawyer so it’s sort of my job to ask) they say well my mom had MS and it changed her personality, or my brother in law had MS and he’s a dick.
It freaks me out and makes me super paranoid. I have MS. I trend negative on outlooks and just life. But damn I don’t want to be the mom my kid says he doesn’t speak to and it’s because MS made me awful to be around. I sometimes feel like the more I age the more short tempered I get. MS has diminished my filter in a lot of ways. Can I stop this from happening? I don’t want to be a drag on my relationships. It feels crazy when people tell me they cut someone off because they have MS. The other times I worry that’s going to be me causing the damage and it’ll be fair when someone ditches me. Does anyone else have these thoughts? Can it be avoided?

I noticed there were more four tops available than two tops. I’m hoping someone booked a four top and has two extra seats. Let me know, we’re super fun people to sit with!