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Where can i find someone who can interpret dreams ?

I am someone who dreams alot, mostly nonesense, or dejavu kind of dreams, but sometimes i get some repeated dreams that isn't something my brain makes up, either it is a sign, or it is something i feel and is interpreted in the dream, this much i know.

So who can i ask about the meaning behind some of the dreams i find concerning

Edit : This also rises another question: Why when i look up dreams meaning on the internet you find explination for men as one answer, and explinations for women as, pregnants, married, widow, singles i don't know what else ???? Why ???

I’m really looking for advice because I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore. I’m so tired of dealing with acne.

I’ve had acne since I hit puberty, around 11–12 years old, and I’m now 23. That’s basically 12 years of acne. I know some people have much worse acne than me, and I’m not trying to compare suffering, but honestly, after 12 years of constantly having new pimples, whiteheads, and brown marks, I’m just exhausted. I really want to be able to have clear skin for once.

My skin is combination skin — oily T-zone but normal cheeks. I have pimples basically all year round. My period is very regular, so I don't really notice any obvious hormonal irregularity.

My current situation

I started my current skincare routine around May 15, so it has been almost 3 months.

The weird thing is that some aspects of my skin have actually improved. My skin is much smoother, maybe a little brighter/lighter, and some of my brown acne marks have faded.

But my active acne is still bad, and I've been having another particularly bad flare-up over the last 2 weeks.

Right now I have around 7–8 pimples just on my chin, and new ones keep appearing before the old ones even disappear. Some are painful and red, and my entire chin is becoming red. I’m also getting pimples on my forehead.

This isn't the first time my acne has gotten worse — I've had periods like this throughout the years. It's just extremely frustrating because just when I think the breakout is starting to calm down, another one appears.

My routine

Morning:

\- Eucerin cleanser

\- Anua Niacinamide 10% + TXA 4% serum

\- CeraVe PM moisturizer

\- Beauty of Joseon sunscreen when I go outside

Night:

\- Eucerin cleanser

\- Anua Azelaic Acid 10% serum

\- CeraVe PM moisturizer

I recently started adapalene about 2 weeks ago. I started with 2 times a week and then increased to around 3–4 times a week.

I also use The Ordinary Salicylic Acid serum.

I NEVER use adapalene, azelaic acid and salicylic acid together. I rotate them, so on a night when I use adapalene, I don't use azelaic acid or salicylic acid, and the same with the others.

I've also used a face gommage/exfoliator, because I keep thinking that maybe I'm not exfoliating enough and something is getting trapped under the skin.

I have already seen dermatologists

I've actually gone to dermatologists twice before.

Both times I was basically told the same thing: that the acne around my chin could be hormonal.

One dermatologist recommended that I stop eating certain foods, including things like chicken. And honestly... I'm a gym girl 🥲. Completely cutting out chicken is pretty much impossible for me, especially when I'm trying to get enough protein.

The products/treatments that were recommended to me previously also didn't really work.

Another dermatologist gave me SO many different products to use that my routine became huge and complicated. I personally prefer a simple, lightweight skincare routine, especially because my skin is oily in the T-zone but normal on the cheeks.

The weirdest thing I've noticed

I've actually noticed that my acne seems to change depending on my environment/life circumstances.

At one point, I quit a previous job, and for maybe two weeks my skin suddenly became clear.

And another time, I travelled abroad, and my skin was literally CLEAR. Not one whitehead. 😭

I'm used to waking up and finding a new whitehead basically every morning, but during that trip I had three weeks of completely clear skin.

So now I'm wondering:

Is stress actually causing this?

Because if stress is the problem, then this is ridiculous 😭. My acne itself is probably the biggest source of stress in my life. If I'm stressing because of acne, and the stress causes acne, then I'm stuck in an infinite loop.

And apparently I'm stressing about every little thing then. 😂

What I really want help with

I don't just want something that makes my skin smoother or fades my scars. I want something that actually prevents the acne from forming in the first place.

I know the basics of how acne forms, and I've tried exfoliating because I thought keeping the pores clear would prevent oil/dead skin from getting trapped and forming pimples.

But even with salicylic acid, azelaic acid, adapalene, gommage, etc., I STILL keep getting new acne.

I was previously recommended COSRX BHA Blackhead Power Liquid as an exfoliator, and also Anua Heartleaf 77 Clear Pads as a gentler option.

I couldn't find either of them anywhere. I even asked family members abroad to look for them, and they couldn't find them either. Some websites also don't ship to my country.

So I'm honestly open to anything at this point.

If you've had long-term acne like this, especially acne that keeps coming back despite having a decent skincare routine:

What actually worked for you?

Should I change my routine?

Should I continue with adapalene?

Should I add benzoyl peroxide?

Is this actually hormonal even though my period is regular?

Could stress really be causing this much acne?

Could something in my environment/diet be triggering it?

Should I see another dermatologist and ask for a different treatment?

And if stress really is contributing, please tell me how I'm supposed to stop stressing about acne when the acne itself is what stresses me out 😭😭😭 because am basically getting acne in happy occasions, sad occasions, stressfull occasions, vacation, menstruation time, ovulation and all phases of the monthly cycle, i am suspecting even being happy gives me acne at this point 🥲

I'm honestly willing to try whatever is reasonable at this point. I just want something that will actually prevent these breakouts from constantly coming back.

Please help a very tired 23-year-old who has been fighting acne since 11–12 years old. 😭

I am trying to understand why the rulings seem different between men and women regarding intimacy.

There are hadiths saying that if a wife refuses her husband’s request for intimacy without a valid reason, there is a severe warning against her (such as angels cursing her until morning). From what I understand, simply not feeling like it or not being in the mood is not considered a valid reason.

But if a husband refuses his wife, it seems there is not the same warning. I also read about الإيلاء, where a man who swears not to have relations with his wife is given a period of four months.

Why is there such a strong warning for a woman refusing, while a man is given a longer period? How do scholars explain this difference?

Please provide evidence for your answers from ahadith or quran..

Edit: please only comment if you have something to add up that can answer my question, or a question in common with my post, if you just want to diss the hadith or the whole situation then do not bother to comment, thanks.

On the Day of Judgment, the Qur'an and many authentic hadith describe what awaits people, including sinful Muslims—such as the punishment for certain sins, how people will cross the Sirat, and other details.

We also know that Allah has sent down only one part of His mercy (rahmah) to this world and has kept 99 parts for the Day of Judgment.

My question is: Are the punishments described in the Qur'an and hadith already taking those ninety-nine parts of Allah's mercy into account?

In other words, when Allah tells us that some sinful Muslims will be punished for certain sins, is that description already after His immense mercy has been applied?

Or is the ninety-nine parts of mercy referring to something else, such as sins being forgiven before judgment, sins being erased from our records, or other forms of mercy on that Day?

If we already know that the prophet محمد صلى الله عليه و سلم will intercede for us on the day of judgment, why are we going to the prophet adam then nuh.. عليهم السلام as the hadith says .. for intercession ?

Why are we not going directly to the prophet عليه افضل الصلاة والسلام?

I recently went to a police office to collect a legal certificate.

I had been told to come on Monday between 12:00 and 2:00 p.m. I arrived around 12:00, but I was told the document hadn't been signed yet and that I had to come back at 3:30 p.m. It was frustrating especially sine it was too hot i was sweating a whole, but I returned later.

When I came back, the interaction became very uncomfortable. i stated that i came for the document and he said it is available but I didn't hear clearly, so I asked him to repeat i said : what ?, and he answered with same question, i got confused and asked again: what ? and he did same, it was like he was mocking me but then after a moment i said i did not hear what you said, that was when he repeated the correct answer. He then asked me what I needed the certificate for, things were so weird i thought he was just keeping the conversation going, so i said for some people, he asked who i said for my card as in ID card. that is when he asked me: is it for consulate? I was confused, so i did not reply, he asked again and i just nodded because i wasn't sure what the place you submit for the id card was called.

Somehow the conversation turned into him accusing me of lying, that it was for the id card but I WAS THE ONE who said it is for consulate. I kept telling him that I hadn't said what he was claiming I said, but he repeatedly insisted that I was lying. Another employee joined the conversation and supported his version.

What hurt me the most was that he brought my religious clothing into it. I wear abaya and hijab, and he said words to the effect that I wear a khimar yet still lie. He also said that just by looking at my photo, he knew I was a liar.

What would i gain from lying in this matter ????? i was so shocked when he kept accusing me that i kept only looking at him in disbelief.

At one point, he even told his colleague not to give me the document. I became overwhelmed and angry. Eventually, I apologized - not because I believed I had lied, but because I wanted the situation to end. After I apologized, he gave me the certificate.

I said supposedly if I did mistake what the reason for the certificate was, i apologise for that, but i still felt so wronged, if i had the slightest doubt of what i said was wrong i would have apoligized first hand, but i am sure of what i said, to begin with i had no business with the consulate whatsoever.
Not to mention accusing me of lying multiple times, and swearing it, the disrespect left me speechless, i was not expecting that at all.

Looking back, I regret apologizing because I still believe I told the truth. I only apologized because I felt cornered.

I know public employees can be under pressure, especially later in the day, but I don't think stress justifies repeatedly accusing someone of lying, making personal comments about their religious clothing, or refusing to hand over a document that had already been issued, not to mention supposedly i did by mistake say it is for something else, wouldn't people first assume i made a mistake instead of accusing me straight of lying ??

I filled an online official complaint, not because I want revenge, but because I don't think anyone should be treated that way when simply collecting an administrative document, and it is sad that when it comes to dealing with legal things your word would never be above theirs unless you have a high status and connections to get your things done the way you want it.

I have already left the matter to allah, to get my justice in both this and the afterlife, I have never felt such humiliation and disrespect in my life, when i left the station i felt so wronged i couldn't stop my tears, which i hated even more because i felt so weak. and i regret apologizing the most, it wasn't worth it

Do you think I'm overreacting, or would you also consider this unacceptable conduct?

I went to apply for a residence certificate and needed an attestation that I'm not working.

The place near the police station charged me 20 DH for what was basically a pre-written document where they only added my name and CIN number. That's it. If I had known, I could've typed the exact same thing myself and printed it for 1 DH.

On top of that, they rejected the ID photos I had just taken specifically for my national ID, so I had to pay to get another set. The photographer who took the first photos showed me that they matched the required dimensions and said they shouldn't have been rejected.

Lah yakhod lhaq f shefara

60dh mshat f walo

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله تعالى وبركاته

I would like some good companionship from fellow sister in tangier, so we can help each other get closer to allah, memorize quran together, and remind each other..

If you are from tangier that would be perfect, if not we can still be online friends (girls only)

Just as the title says, why do most mem prefer girls shorter than them ?

Althought there is a hadith about people in heaven having same height as our father adam peace be upon him

"يدخل أهل الجنة الجنة على طول آدم ستون ذراع"

"The people of Paradise will enter Paradise at the height of Adam, sixty cubits"

And height is always seen as something positive so why would men like shorter girls ?

Do they not feel confident if the girl was taller or same height?

Hi everyone,

I wasn't sure where to ask about this but i thought maybe i could have help here.

I have a question about nutrition and growth.

Is it only the total amount of nutrients (protein, carbs, fats, vitamins, minerals, calories) that matters, or does the actual food you eat matter as well?

For example, since childhood I've been a very picky eater. I almost never ate fish, organ meats (like liver or heart andalmost anything), or most meats in general. I only ate lean meat occasionally and mostly chicken breast.

Could a diet like that have affected my growth or prevented me from reaching my full genetic potential? I'm a 23-year-old woman, quite short and small.

If I start eating a much more varied, whole-food diet now (fish, different meats including organ meats, eggs, vegetables, fruit, etc., while avoiding ultra-processed foods), could it still make a noticeable difference in my body size, strength, health, or appearance? Or is it too late to affect anything other than general health because I'm already an adult?

For context, my parents aren't tall, but I do have tall relatives on both sides of my family.

I'd appreciate any science-based answers.

Thanks!

I have given up alot for islam, things that were part of me, and i still haven't found alternatives and i feel like i lost a big part of me especially since i see no improvement with my life.

- I used to play basket ball, and it was and still the love of my lofe although it's beeb years since i last played, few yeats ago i started wearing hijab and abaya, so even if i wnated to go back to basketball i can not for modesty reasons, and this was the biggest part that shaped me ever, and i was good at it, you can tell just knowing that i am short and was alwaya the first among the starting lines.

- I used to draw, but as i grew up i started to drift away, especially since i used to draw people's faces the most and it is not permissible.

- I loved dancing, as in street dancing, and obviously i stopped.

Eventually i never got to study what i like, now here i am almost a year unemployed, after 5 years if studying some stupid computer science that my father wanted.

It's been years now, i used to tell myself i will just find better alternatoves that do not go against my religion. And until today, here i am, lost my ambition, my positive vibe, my aura..

My life and empty shell

So i would like to know, i wear hijab and abaya, but i rarely wear pants underneath, i wear shorts most the times, as in real shorts, not legging/shorts or whatever, like short pants, shorts.

So my question is, when it is very windy 🥲.. the abay obviously gets stuck to your body which results in defining your body, i mostly just keep pushing the abaya away from my upper body, but for the lower body it gets between the legs and so on, something everyone who wears an abaya has exeperinced even men.

This happens even when i wear pants underneath.

But shorts leaves the calfs exposed so when the abaya sticks it may be more defined than wearing pants.

Is it wrong to wear the shorts underneath?

I just feel more comfortable with shorts and with the global warming it is hot most the time around the year..

I know they say the wind is soldier of God's soldiers, and that you are not sinful about it, but does wearing shorts instead makes me falling short on my part?

So i would like to know, i wear hijab and abaya, but i rarely wear pants underneath, i wear shorts most the times, as in real shorts, not legging/shorts or whatever, like short pants, shorts.

So my question is, when it is very windy 🥲.. the abay obviously gets stuck to your body which results in defining your body, i mostly jist keep pushing the abaya away from my upper body, but for the lower body it gets between the legs and so on, something everyone who wears an abaya has exeperinced even men.

This happens even when i wear pants underneath.

But shorts leaves the calfs exposed so when the abaya sticks it may be more defined than some pants.

Is it wrong to wear the shorts underneath?

I just feel more comfortable with shorts and woth the global warming it is hot most the time around the year..

I know they say the wind is soldier of God's soldiers, and that you are not sinful about it, but does wearing shorts instead makes me falling short on my part?

How do you manage to take all your macros intake for the day in this hot weather?

I can barely finish the food i am used to devouring, it is too hot i only feel thirsty never hungry, and it is too much to force eat it all.

Other than supplements how do you manage?

I genuinely would like to know as a muslim how do i know if i am having it easy or hard ?

For example they say if you look at those who are poorer than you they have it harder, the richer have it easier, so you should thank god for what you have no matter where you stand between those poeple.

For me not necessarily about financial situation, but in life in general, mentally especially.

I spend my days feeling empty, but if i were to see it from a 3rd person perspective i would say it is not that bad, but i still don't like how it is for me, but at the same time i do not know if it's because it is actually hard or if I'm just beeing spoiled (not in the literal meaning), used to having it easy.

For example, i am used to moving on things quickly even if they hurt me or are hard in general, but most things i went through i wouldn't say it is that bad, if i tell people about it some may just go with it since they wouldn't know especially since i would be telling them as in.. meeh.., others may think it was hard and i still moved on quickly, but in the end i do not know.. i moved on quickly so "was it actually that hard ?"

This is the thought i get whenever things go bad.

It is also like when you have a terrible day everything goes wrong but at the end of the day 1 small gesture makes up the whole day, and you think, today wasn't that bad, but in reality it was.

Do you get it ??

So i really want to know how can you tell if i am having it hard??

Currently reading:

(GL) Taming The White Tiger

I Refused The Male Lead And Got Claimed By His Triplet Sisters [GL]

Forced To Marry The Heiress (GL)

Elysium: Desired by the Cold-hearted Princess [GL]

I would like some similar recomendation, not too long, i have read I Will Create a Good Ending for the Yandere Villainess i liked it but it was long i stoped reading it.

So i would like something not too long to catch to

Assalamo ealaykom wa rahmato llahi taeala wa barakatuh.

I have some dreams that sometimes i seek meaning of, in hope it does have meaning for my current situation. But i do not know who to seek.

Does anyone know if there is an imam who explains dreams i can contact, or a website that is trusted for this where you send your wuestions and they answer you, or something similar ?

And what i am seeking is good news from those dreams, so if it was a bad dream i wouldn't ask about it, but if it was perhaps something from allah then i would like to know to gain more hope.

Today the men can go out whenever they want for unnecessary things, travel, have fun and stay out late however they like. But how come when it's a woman she shouldn't go out unless necessary, and she should always stay in check, can't travel nor any of that things ?

I could see it happen before in the time of the prophet, men spend time out with purpose and still the prophet always made sure to spend his time with his famillies.

So why is it nowadays that we have all ways of fun (i do not mean haram) like traveling going out doing activities... how is it men can do anything without being questioned but then you see those very men want their sisters, mothers wives and daughters not to leave home unless necessary?

Oh especially the travel they appose to ut as she can not go alone, yet they would never make the effort to go with them, ironic how they like to set the rules on woman but never accompany them so they can actually enjoy as well.

And do not tell me it's dangerous becauae today it is dangerous for both males and females, i would actually like to see men's comments for this.

Because i do not see this fair.