u/Ok_Necessary1912

It’s come to the point where it’s not even enjoyable anymore. I (32F) can’t seem to moderate it either. Once I start, I can’t stop. I have adhd too and I feel like my mental health has deteriorated since I started using my phone so much. But the problem is when I put it down, I can’t take the internal voices and thoughts in my head. So I’m stuck in a horrible loop of wanting freedom from my phone but also not having to deal with the adhd voices. Has anyone else dealt with this and what did you do with it?

I also have hobbies btw- sewing, painting, drawing, embroidery, any sort of craft or scrap booking

But the phone addiction makes it hard for me to get into them… my Brain is hooked on chasing dopamine. I did force myself to go for a walk today and actually enjoyed the nature. I’m alone and lonely as well so that’s another reason to use my phone so much. But it’s damaging me in the long run.

I’m (32F 5’ 5” and 225lbs) trying to lose weight for the millionth time. I used to be slim and athletic until I was hit with grief and then depression. I ended up gaining 50lbs. Every time I go into a calorie deficit, I get intense cravings and feel like binging on sugar. Low carb made me so lethargic and anxious I couldn’t sleep. So now I try to eat a balanced diet of low gi carbs, protein and veggies. I’m also tracking my calories using a food scale. This time I decided to take note of what was actually happening in my body and mind. I’m getting really bad food noise and it’s making it so hard to continue. The mild fatigue. The intense sugar cravings as well. The desire to binge. That’s when it clicked in my mind- is this all due to insulin resistance? So does that mean that I just have to push through and hopefully it will get better as I lose weight? I never used to have food noise when I was younger 😢

Also are there any supplements that can help with insulin resistance?

I’ve 32F been struggling to stick to my calorie deficit and keep on eating more! Because of this I haven’t lost much weight in the last 10 weeks. I’ve lost just 3 lbs and I have 50 lbs in total left. So I’ve been struggling because of intense cravings and I have PCOS/PMOS too. Like cravings that I can’t ignore. Also I can’t cut carbs because it gives me severe anxiety and panic attacks. I also lose my sleep. I try to stick to low GI carbs at 40% of total calories. And carbs make me sleep better! I have been eating some sugar recently. Not crazy amounts but definitely eating desserts and icecream with family, brownies, chocolate etc could that be why I’m having so much cravings? Also I’m quite stressed out- does that also increase cravings? Please help me figure out how to deal with the cravings and reduce them. I need to lose weight so badly 😭

I’m normally an optimistic person but these days my mental health has deteriorated and I’m just not feeling happy go lucky and optimistic. But everyone around me still expects that! God forbid i snap at someone, or start crying or say something negative and everyone is freaking out? It’s like I have to be happy for everyone else! It’s so draining and depressing me even more. I hate the stereotype that I have to be happy all the time. I just want to express myself how I want to express myself whether I’m feeling happy or sad. Rant over.

Hey everyone 👋🏼 , ENFP here and first time posting here so please be kind 🥹. Okay so I’ve read that INTJs are the most introverted of all the types but is that actually true? If so then how do you navigate socialising? Especially large groups of people or meeting new people in general? Do you take a while to warm up to them? Personally, I’m an introverted extrovert so I do fairly well with socialising and meeting new people. I get bored and depressed if I’m on my own for too long. But in a world where frequent socialising is seen as normal and necessary, how do you guys manage?

I’ve been told my whole life that I’m an introvert (i became introverted due to being bullied throughout school) but then I discovered that I’m an quiet extrovert (ENFP) but now recently I’ve gone back in my shell. I’m depressed and have agoraphobia. I literally dread going out of the house and facing people because I’m not doing anything with my life. If I hang out with the old people in my community I don’t know how I’ll face them. I’ve also gained 40 lbs due to my depression. This is another reason that I can’t face anyone and if I do then I feel uncomfortable. So yeah I’m home most of the time and I’m soooo depressed! I don’t feel happy yet when I think about socialising then I get anxiety. I’m in therapy at the moment. I’m 32 and still live with family. My sister said that I’m an introvert but I don’t feel happy alone. Her argument is that if I am an extrovert then I would want to socialise but like I don’t want to socialise because I hate it the way I look and I feel anxious and depressed. I used to love going out, being somewhat spontaneous, feeling happy in my body. I used to love buying new clothes and feeling good in myself. I’ve never been really loud but I do feel better when I have some company around. Surely if I was an introvert I’d be happy alone…?

Just when I was so fed up of dieting, I decided that I’m just going to focus on something small. Im normally one to stick to a diet for a few months then quit. This time i realised that I needed to make it a lifestyle change. My aha moment was when I cut down on oil/buttee. That’s it! I only use 1 tsp of ghee to cook my eggs and I measure 8g of butter for my toast and it STILL TASTES GREAT. I didn’t want to cut out any of my favourite foods because lm a foodie as well but omg I can’t believe how easy it has been! I’ve saved 100s of calories just by reducing oil/ghee/butter! I’ve lost 5 lbs and I look slimmer already. I do eat vegetables, whole grains, meat, fruit etc so a balanced diet but I was eating way too much fat. You can’t lose weight if you’re eating way too many fats and carbs. I decided to keep the carbs and cut the fat and it’s worked! What did you do that was simple but helped you to lose weight?

Edit:
THANK YOU all for the amazing responses! I didn’t expect my post to blow up and I can’t reply to each and every comment but I appreciate all the tips and tricks on how to make weight loss more simple. I also hope this post can benefit even one person to start their journey to losing weight in a simple manner.

I was typed as an INFP for many years (like 14 years) and then changed to an ENFP as I came out of my shell at the age of 32. But there are still people who keep telling me that I’m an INFP sooo here I am again, asking for more information. I’ve studied the cognitive functions too and I know I’m more extroverted (due to my Ne) but I’m not very loud and talkative all the time but I get energy from just being…around people I’m comfortable with. I’ve been told that’s an introvert thing? Now I’m overthinking my whole personality again. So is this true? Like I can spend hours upon hours with my people and leave feeling energised.

I want to ask actual INFPers, what’s your social battery limit? How much do you happily socialise (I’m not talking about forced socialisation such as a work event or something).