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I’m so fucking embarrassed. This is going to be all over the place because my brain is scrambled (yet, numb?)

I think I have a problem. Actually I know I have a problem but I don’t want to admit it.

I have gambled ALL my money away. It doesn’t matter where the money has come from, I gambled it away. I’m not good at math and I can barely keep track, I’m actually impressed by the ones who know exactly how much they’ve gambled away.

Today was bad, and I can’t even tell you how much I threw away. Maybe it was $3,000 or maybe it was $5,000? I literally don’t know. I just know I have NO money now. I sat in the parking lot and got a loan, went back inside and gambled it away within an hour.

My guess is around $30,000 this year alone and I only make $60,000/year.

I’m at the point where taking out loans and cash advances on CC’s is just whatever and almost normal to me just so I can keep gambling and my debt is becoming suffocating leading me to feel a way to justify the gambling as to “pay it back”

I literally don’t even know if I *can* pay it back. I might literally not even make enough money.

I feel so HOPELESS. Like I can never recover from this. I’m going to be paying back debts for YEARS after a few BAD nights gambling. The long haul of consequences doesn’t bother me or even really occur to me while I’m losing tons of money. It’s only hours later when I can’t sleep that I realize how bad it is.

No one in my real life knows how bad this is. Not even close.

I’m suppose to buy a car and I literally cannot. How tf do I explain this to someone?!

Even if I never gamble again, I’m still going to be in debt for years at this point. What’s the point of anything 😭😭😭😭

Please, someone. Idk what to do.

I’m talking committed, boyfriend/girlfriend the full exclusivity.

I know a lot of people ask what’s too soon, what’s average, why it hasn’t happened yet or whatever but I genuinely want to know what everyone’s max timeline is for exclusivity before you’re truly just done with them for good.

Bonus question: at what point does it just become the classic case of a “situationship” ?

For me, I have a hard time letting go of someone if I’m enjoying the person, situationship or not but I do prefer the exclusivity and title of girlfriend so it’s a hard line I’ve had to walk in the past where I maybe don’t get what I want or deserve for fear of losing them as a whole. Anyone else?

Curious on your guys thoughts.

I follow them + watch all of the episodes but one thing I keep wondering about that no one seems to talk about is why Steven Sr. hasn’t filmed since season 1 really at all…

Obviously I’m up to date on his legal troubles and him going to prison. I’m assuming this has to do with it but what I’m curious about is if this is something he decided regarding filming or his legal team told him not to? Or was it a network decision? The family deciding for him? Did I miss an announcement about it somewhere?

It’s odd to me that the show keeps going but he is so MIA after so much screen time the first go around. Especially considering how much they are trying to make Masha (his gf?) a thing. You’d think we’d have seen some of him even if he wasn’t the main focus anymore.

It’s reality trash TV after all, I feel like they would want him being interviewed and talking about it for the extra added drama. But nope, we’ve gotten almost nothing from him besides like a shot or two of the back of his head for a split second.

I don’t know, am I missing something here??

So, I’ve been fantasizing about solo camping (or really any camping) for a while which has completely come out of left field for me. I have not camped since I was a kid. I have nothing. No gear, no experience, no equipment of any kind. (I DO have a cooler, does that count? LOL)

I wouldn’t even know where to begin choosing a place to camp. I imagine just googling “camping spots near me” LOL 🤦🏻‍♀️

How did you guys get started? I feel so silly for even wanting to try camping, let alone solo but truly I’m fairly introverted and alone in real life (aside from family) and I wouldn’t really have anyone to go camping with anyways.

I just yearn for some peace, some nature, some time away from home that doesn’t include what I’ve been doing (I live in a party city where we drink/party/go out-out/spend money, etc.) but I know for a fact there would be some good camping spots within a few hours drive or maybe even closer. Definitely need to do some research there.

I do have a cat who is extremely social and comfortable in all settings (I’ve taken her with me on road trips, stores, the park, etc.) so I would consider bringing her but maybe not the first time?

Any advice/tips for a girl who reallllly wants to try something totally new! Obviously I want my safety to be a top priority but do you guys have suggestions for me as far as what I need to do to prepare in general? Must haves? Anything!

Thanks ladies!! (And men if you’re hanging out here 😅)

I met someone off a dating app and we instantly hit it off. I think he’s genuinely nice, super sweet and caring and attractive! We’ve seen each other consistently within the last 6-7 weeks and have been on more dates that I can recall right off the top of my head (I’d say at least 6 by now probably more?) He does travel a bit for work but it’s clear that seeing each other is a priority when our schedules align and we always have a great time together.

For what it’s worth we also communicate well and often through text daily and several phone calls/FaceTimes a week. It honestly feels like we’re both giving it our all and it’s going really well.

Even though we’re both attracted to each other (it’s not a secret, we’ve communicated this to each other) we have never found the right time to be intimate. I know everyone has their own timelines or will say go for it when it feels right but genuinely we would have likely slept together way sooner if given the right opportunity/time. I wasn’t overly worried about it not happening yet because I have been enjoying getting to know him. We’ve kissed/made out plenty of times and we’ve otherwise been very affectionate toward each other, just no sex…

FAST FOWARD to a couple nights ago and “it” finally happened. Without going into detail (or maybe it’s needed in which case I can add later) the sex was truly “meh” at best for me and it’s really eating me up 😔 I like this guy A LOT, especially because we’ve been hanging out now for over a month and a half so the feelings have gotten stronger over time. There’s a lot of good here and I think we are compatible but sex is SO important for some many reason that I’m asking myself all these questions and having doubts about him now and how I can continue dating him in good faith.

Am I being too harsh here? Could this be superficial of me? Maybe the way he treats me otherwise is good enough and I can be happy with mediocre sex. I know it was our first time but honestly any other firsts I’ve had were wayyyyy better so idk if I’m even hopeful it would get any better? Even if it did get a little better that still would be “meh” for me. I don’t even know how to communicate this to him because I do not want to hurt his feelings or make him feel some type of way, I can imagine it being hurtful regardless of how nice I approach the topic.

Any advice? Has this happened to you? Is this exactly what they mean by settling and maybe in this case it’s okay to settle for less of a good sex life if everything else is great?

Would love others thoughts and opinions here. Thanks in advance!

TL;DR I realllllly like a guy I met but the sex is bad and I don’t know what to do!