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Depressed after SA

I’m 16 yrs old and a girl. I was SA’d by my ex boyfriend and my best friend cut me off a couple months ago. You can check my acc for my story.

I’ve been feeling really depressed and it’s hard for me to do school. I can’t find the motivation to do simple class work and homework. I keep having thoughts that if god were to make a deal with me and let me kms and redo my life I would say yes. Im walking slower, Im really tired, I care less about things, Im more angry and sad and I don’t know what to do. Also I sh’d which I’ve struggled with in the past and tried to stop doing. My school therapist told me to get over it and stop wallowing and learn to be an adult. She also told me I can’t call it SA because she wasn’t there (like I’m lying or something 🫩.)

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u/Ok_Society_4464 — 2 days ago

Depressed after SA

I’m 16 yrs old and a girl. I was SA’d by my ex boyfriend and my best friend cut me off a couple months ago. You can check my acc for my story.

I’ve been feeling really depressed and it’s hard for me to do school. I can’t find the motivation to do simple class work and homework. I keep having thoughts that if god were to make a deal with me and let me kms and redo my life I would say yes. Im walking slower, Im really tired, I care less about things, Im more angry and sad and I don’t know what to do. Also I sh’d which I’ve struggled with in the past and tried to stop doing. My school therapist told me to get over it and stop wallowing and learn to be an adult. She also told me I can’t call it SA because she wasn’t there (like I’m lying or something 🫩.)

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u/Ok_Society_4464 — 2 days ago

trauma response? after SA

i’m 16 yrs old. i was SA’d a couple weeks ago by my bf who i broke up with (i made posts about what happened so if you would like more context u can see on my profile.

i’ve been thinking of the SA nonstop, little things remind me of it and i have to shake my head “no” to myself to snap out of it. when i see him or im next to him my heart starts racing and my stomach drops. my chest is tight all day at school and sometimes at home. i have to be listening to house music or hype music to not think about it and i can do my homework. i have mood swings, it’s hard to focus, a couple nights ago i started shaking while being half asleep. ive had panic attacks and almost had panic attacks. i’m so paranoid that he’s around me and ive started wearing less revealing and more baggy clothes. i want to be younger again, im not excited or motivated about school starting. my whole behavior is off.

i am four days into junior year. i am in madrigals with my ex and see him everyday. even tho i asked my teacher not to put me next to him, she continuously forgets or dosent take it seriously and makes me stand one person away from him. she then tells everyone something along the lines of “this arrangement isn’t permanent so don’t text me complaining” or “this is madrigals, if i put you near your ex boyfriend you have to be professional.” i told her we used to date and that something traumatic happened but she’s not taking it seriously.

standing next to him and even having class with him makes me scared and triggers me, especially when i smell his cologne. my mom will talk to the teacher soon, but im worried about myself

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u/Ok_Society_4464 — 6 days ago

trauma response? after SA

i’m 16 yrs old. i was SA’d a couple weeks ago by my bf who i broke up with (i made posts about what happened so if you would like more context u can see on my profile.

i’ve been thinking of the SA nonstop, little things remind me of it and i have to shake my head “no” to myself to snap out of it. when i see him or im next to him my heart starts racing and my stomach drops. my chest is tight all day at school and sometimes at home. i have to be listening to house music or hype music to not think about it and i can do my homework. i have mood swings, it’s hard to focus, a couple nights ago i started shaking while being half asleep. ive had panic attacks and almost had panic attacks. i’m so paranoid that he’s around me and ive started wearing less revealing and more baggy clothes. i want to be younger again, im not excited or motivated about school starting. my whole behavior is off.

i am four days into junior year. i am in madrigals with my ex and see him everyday. even tho i asked my teacher not to put me next to him, she continuously forgets or dosent take it seriously and makes me stand one person away from him. she then tells everyone something along the lines of “this arrangement isn’t permanent so don’t text me complaining” or “this is madrigals, if i put you near your ex boyfriend you have to be professional.” i told her we used to date and that something traumatic happened but she’s not taking it seriously.

standing next to him and even having class with him makes me scared and triggers me, especially when i smell his cologne. my mom will talk to the teacher soon, but im worried about myself

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u/Ok_Society_4464 — 6 days ago
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trauma response? after SA

i’m 16 yrs old. i was SA’d a couple weeks ago by my bf who i broke up with (i made posts about what happened so if you would like more context u can see on my profile.

i’ve been thinking of the SA nonstop, little things remind me of it and i have to shake my head “no” to myself to snap out of it. when i see him or im next to him my heart starts racing and my stomach drops. my chest is tight all day at school and sometimes at home. i have to be listening to house music or hype music to not think about it and i can do my homework. i have mood swings, it’s hard to focus, a couple nights ago i started shaking while being half asleep. ive had panic attacks and almost had panic attacks. i’m so paranoid that he’s around me and ive started wearing less revealing and more baggy clothes. i want to be younger again, im not excited or motivated about school starting. my whole behavior is off.

i am four days into junior year. i am in madrigals with my ex and see him everyday. even tho i asked my teacher not to put me next to him, she continuously forgets or dosent take it seriously and makes me stand one person away from him. she then tells everyone something along the lines of “this arrangement isn’t permanent so don’t text me complaining” or “this is madrigals, if i put you near your ex boyfriend you have to be professional.” i told her we used to date and that something traumatic happened but she’s not taking it seriously.

standing next to him and even having class with him makes me scared and triggers me, especially when i smell his cologne. my mom will talk to the teacher soon, but im worried about myself

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u/Ok_Society_4464 — 6 days ago

trauma response? after SA

i’m 16 yrs old. i was SA’d a couple weeks ago by my bf who i broke up with (i made posts about what happened so if you would like more context u can see on my profile.

i’ve been thinking of the SA nonstop, little things remind me of it and i have to shake my head “no” to myself to snap out of it. when i see him or im next to him my heart starts racing and my stomach drops. my chest is tight all day at school and sometimes at home. i have to be listening to house music or hype music to not think about it and i can do my homework. i have mood swings, it’s hard to focus, a couple nights ago i started shaking while being half asleep. ive had panic attacks and almost had panic attacks. i’m so paranoid that he’s around me and ive started wearing less revealing and more baggy clothes. i want to be younger again, im not excited or motivated about school starting. my whole behavior is off.

i am four days into junior year. i am in madrigals with my ex and see him everyday. even tho i asked my teacher not to put me next to him, she continuously forgets or dosent take it seriously and makes me stand one person away from him. she then tells everyone something along the lines of “this arrangement isn’t permanent so don’t text me complaining” or “this is madrigals, if i put you near your ex boyfriend you have to be professional.” i told her we used to date and that something traumatic happened but she’s not taking it seriously.

standing next to him and even having class with him makes me scared and triggers me, especially when i smell his cologne. my mom will talk to the teacher soon, but im worried about myself

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u/Ok_Society_4464 — 6 days ago

was this SA and what do i do to cope with loss of innocence?

im 16 yrs old. i told my first bf that i wanted to go slower on intimacy because of some past trauma with boundary pushing from my nanny and bc it was just my first time. however, contrary to his words that promised me he would slow down, he would pressure me to make out, even sometimes when i pulled away from him multiple times. additionally, one day near the end of our relationship (when i broke up with him), he started making out with me and i said i was tired and later that i was anxious. he did slow down for a little and then sped back up and asked to touch my ass. i was like uhhh and then yeah i think and he basically asked until i said yes (though he was creating a lot of pressure.) he was also making out with me and pushing me to go faster as i was actively pulling away from him and saying i was tired.

then the next day, i texted him in the morning before i saw him to slow down bc i was getting overwhelmed with the pace of our intimacy.  he said he would slow down, but then as soon as we got in my room he started making out with me and was touching my ass and kissing my chest without asking. i fell off him slightly and he put me back on him. then later i told him i needed him to slow down on the ass and chest thing in person. he then left my house bc i had a zoom meeting and came back to watch a movie, during which he was going slower in the beginning and then sped up a lot near the end.

a couple weeks after i asked him to seriously slow down on the touching and kissing me in that area, he sent me a reel saying he wanted to sleep with me and then texted me that next time he saw me he would touch my ass and make out with me.

ALSO, HE TOOK MY TEDDY BEAR THAT IVE HAD SINCE 3 YRS OLD AND PRETENDED TO LICK ITS ASS, AND DID IT THE NEXT DAY AFTER I TOLD HIM TO STOP. he would also put the teddy bear over his private part and ask me to lay on him, which made me so uncomfortable..

admittedly, one time when we were making out, i did like it because i was ovulating. but many times he was making out with me without proper consent and did not take my signals where i was pulling away from him and did not listen to me when i said i wanted to slow down. additionally, he never asked if he could kiss my chest until later

i know it wasnt that bad, but it made me feel like i was constantly under pressure and anxious, and it made me feel like i lost some of my innocence.

also, i don’t want to wear the top that he was doing some of these things in, and i’ve cried with my teddy bear multiple times times and have had two panic attacks about it since.

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u/Ok_Society_4464 — 17 days ago

i feel like i lost some of my innocence. what should i do to process?

im 16 yrs old. i told my first bf that i wanted to go slower on intimacy because of some past trauma with boundary pushing from my nanny and bc it was just my first time. however, contrary to his words that promised me he would slow down, he would pressure me to make out, even sometimes when i pulled away from him multiple times. additionally, one day near the end of our relationship (when i broke up with him), he started making out with me and i said i was tired and later that i was anxious. he did slow down for a little and then sped back up and asked to touch my ass. i was like uhhh and then yeah i think and he basically asked until i said yes, (though he was creating a lot of pressure.) he was also making out with me and pushing me to go faster as i was actively pulling away from him and saying i was tired.

then the next day, i texted him in the morning before i saw him to slow down bc i was getting overwhelmed with the pace of our intimacy.  he said he would slow down, but then as soon as we got in my room he started making out with me and was touching my ass and kissing my chest without asking. i fell off him slightly and he put me back on him. then later i told him i needed him to slow down on the ass and chest thing in person. he then left my house bc i had a zoom meeting and came back to watch a movie, during which he was going slower in the beginning and then sped up a lot near the end.

a couple weeks after i asked him to seriously slow down on the touching and kissing me in that area, he sent me a reel saying he wanted to sleep with me and then texted me that next time he saw me he would touch my ass and make out with me.

ALSO, HE TOOK MY TEDDY BEAR THAT IVE HAD SINCE 3 YRS OLD AND PRETENDED TO LICK ITS ASS, AND DID IT THE NEXT DAY AFTER I TOLD HIM TO STOP. he would also put the teddy bear over his private part and ask me to lay on him, which made me so uncomfortable..

admittedly, one time when we were making out, i did like it because i was ovulating. but many times he was making out with me without proper consent and did not take my signals where i was pulling away from him and did not listen to me when i said i wanted to slow down. additionally, he never asked if he could kiss my chest until later

i know it wasnt that bad, but it made me feel like i was constantly under pressure and anxious, and it made me feel like i lost some of my innocence.

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u/Ok_Society_4464 — 17 days ago

how to cope with this? thoughts?

im 16 yrs old F. i told my first bf that i wanted to go slower on intimacy because of some past trauma with boundary pushing from my nanny and bc it was just my first time. however, contrary to his words that promised me he would slow down, he would pressure me to make out, even sometimes when i pulled away from him multiple times. additionally, one day near the end of our relationship (when i broke up with him), he started making out with me and i said i was tired and later that i was anxious. he did slow down for a little and then sped back up and asked to touch my ass. i was like uhhh and then yeah i think and he basically asked until i said yes, he was also making out with me and pushing me to go faster as i was actively pulling away from him and saying i was tired.

then the next day, i texted him in the morning before i saw him to slow down bc i was getting overwhelmed with the pace of our intimacy.  he said he would slow down, but then as soon as we got in my room he started making out with me and was touching my ass and kissing my chest without asking. i fell off him slightly and he put me back on him. then later i told him i needed him to slow down on the ass and chest thing in person. he then left my house bc i had a zoom meeting and came back to watch a movie, during which he was going slower in the beginning and then sped up a lot near the end.

a couple weeks after i asked him to seriously slow down on the touching and kissing me in that area, he sent me a reel saying he wanted to sleep with me and then texted me that next time he saw me he would touch my ass and make out with me.

ALSO, HE TOOK MY TEDDY BEAR THAT IVE HAD SINCE 3 YRS OLD AND PRETENDED TO LICK ITS ASS, AND DID IT THE NEXT DAY AFTER I TOLD HIM TO STOP. he would also put the teddy bear over his private part and ask me to lay on him, which made me so uncomfortable..

admittedly, one time when we were making out, i did like it because i was ovulating. but many times he was making out with me without proper consent and did not take my signals where i was pulling away from him and did not listen to me when i said i wanted to slow down. additionally, he never asked if he could kiss my chest until later

i know it wasnt that bad, but it made me feel like i was constantly under pressure and anxious, and it made me feel like i lost some of my innocence.

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u/Ok_Society_4464 — 17 days ago

was this SA?

im 16 yrs old. i told my first bf that i wanted to go slower on intimacy because of some past trauma with boundary pushing from my nanny and bc it was just my first time. however, contrary to his words that promised me he would slow down, he would pressure me to make out, even sometimes when i pulled away from him multiple times. additionally, one day near the end of our relationship (when i broke up with him), he started making out with me and i said i was tired and later that i was anxious. he did slow down for a little and then sped back up and asked to touch my ass. i was like uhhh and then yeah i think and he basically asked until i said yes, he was also making out with me and pushing me to go faster as i was actively pulling away from him and saying i was tired.

then the next day, i texted him in the morning before i saw him to slow down bc i was getting overwhelmed with the pace of our intimacy.  he said he would slow down, but then as soon as we got in my room he started making out with me and was touching my ass and kissing my chest without asking. i fell off him slightly and he put me back on him. then later i told him i needed him to slow down on the ass and chest thing in person. he then left my house bc i had a zoom meeting and came back to watch a movie, during which he was going slower in the beginning and then sped up a lot near the end.

a couple weeks after i asked him to seriously slow down on the touching and kissing me in that area, he sent me a reel saying he wanted to sleep with me and then texted me that next time he saw me he would touch my ass and make out with me.

ALSO, HE TOOK MY TEDDY BEAR THAT IVE HAD SINCE 3 YRS OLD AND PRETENDED TO LICK ITS ASS, AND DID IT THE NEXT DAY AFTER I TOLD HIM TO STOP. he would also put the teddy bear over his private part and ask me to lay on him, which made me so uncomfortable..

admittedly, one time when we were making out, i did like it because i was ovulating. but many times he was making out with me without proper consent and did not take my signals where i was pulling away from him and did not listen to me when i said i wanted to slow down. additionally, he never asked if he could kiss my chest until later

i know it wasnt that bad, but it made me feel like i was constantly under pressure and anxious, and it made me feel like i lost some of my innocence.

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u/Ok_Society_4464 — 18 days ago