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He broke up with me. He told me he didn’t want to leave his cat and was taking him with him. A few days later, he said he is leaving the cat with me.

How can he do this

My partner of 5.5 years left me out of the blue about 3 weeks ago.

The weirdest part to me is that when we initially broke up he told me he was going to take the cat he had before we met. We have two cats but one we got together. I was obviously upset but understood. He started moving out two days later and I asked him to wait to take the cat so I can say goodbye. Then he said “oh I might get you to keep him” and when I asked why he said “my new apartment is small and he loves you and <other cat>”. I left it at that.

Also important to note he has left a bunch of stuff at the apartment, like his computer, PS5, and other expensive things.

I haven’t talked to him since that day because I’ve asked to go no contact

What is happening I need help

My partner of 5.5 years left me out of the blue about 3 weeks ago.

The weirdest part to me is that when we initially broke up he told me he was going to take the cat he had before we met. We have two cats but one we got together. I was obviously upset but understood. He started moving out two days later and I asked him to wait to take the cat so I can say goodbye. Then he said “oh I might get you to keep him” and when I asked why he said “my new apartment is small and he loves you and <other cat>”. I left it at that.

Also important to note he has left a bunch of stuff at the apartment, like his computer, PS5, and other expensive things.

I haven’t talked to him since that day because I’ve asked to go no contact

What is happening I need help

My partner of 5.5 years left me out of the blue about 3 weeks ago.

The weirdest part to me is that when we initially broke up he told me he was going to take the cat he had before we met. We have two cats but one we got together. I was obviously upset but understood. He started moving out two days later and I asked him to wait to take the cat so I can say goodbye. Then he said “oh I might get you to keep him” and when I asked why he said “my new apartment is small and he loves you and <other cat>”. I left it at that.

Also important to note he has left a bunch of stuff at the apartment, like his computer, PS5, and other expensive things.

I haven’t talked to him since that day because I’ve asked to go no contact

What is happening I need help

My ex partner (M31) broke up with me (F30) after 5.5 years together. It really took me by surprise. A few days before we were planning summer vacations. He said "I love you" that morning. He continued to do all our routines (e.g., tucking me into bed, making my lunch). He was the most attentive and loving person I've met. He constantly cared for me. We live together. We moved across the world together and then moved back. We have two cats together.

I am absolutely crushed. When he approached me to break up, all he said was "I think we should break up". I asked if there was anything we could work on or anything I can do. He said no he just wants to break up. During this time he mentioned he wanted to take the one cat that was his before we ever met. I was upset because I didn't want to lose this cat either.

Flash forward a week and he mentioned he found an apartment and was starting to move his things out, I asked him to not take the cat that day, as I didn't get a chance to say a proper goodbye. He responded with "Idk I might get you to keep him". I asked why and he said "apartment is small and he loves you". I didn't push it but he literally loves this cat more than anything else. He is his best friend.

It's been about 3 weeks, he still hasn't moved everything out. I still have his gaming PC, PS5, and a bunch of other things.

I don't even know what advice I need. I just needed to vent and also try to understand what is happening and why my world is crashing. I guess I also want to know if he even is an avoidant.

I looked at an apartment on Russell Street (one of the buildings between Patrick and Kent street.

Looking for info on this area/these buildings if anyone has any?

I really need someone to talk through my break up with me. Anyone willing to listen?

My boyfriend of 5.5 years told me he thinks we should break up on Friday out of the blue. I wasn’t really expecting it.

I’ve given him space and time, not communicating since then. I’ve asked to talk tonight.

I desperately need advice on what to say, I don’t want to overwhelm him but I also want him to know that I still love him