u/Opposite-Iron-2868

im femme4all with a preference for femmes. im also tall so i prefer women over 5'6 at least. I am only interested in cis woman in terms of dating. id love to be ina relationship but i know things like that take time and right now id prefer making friends. super lonely and its been like this for years. i do struggle with depression so i might not respond everyday but i am willing to put in the effort into getting to know someone. i work as a server and i am a philosophy student. outside of work i spend half my day in a coffee shop journaling or drawing. im def more of a creative and have an interest in filmmaking even though i never made one. i think about it a lot however. i spend a decent amount of time outside bc i hate being home. i drive around my town and look at houses guessing what kind of people live inside and what they do for a living. i have also been someone who is very curious and i used to be embarrased bc other people my age dont seem to care about the art of getting to know someone and why they are the way they are. im tired of hiding my curiousity and i try to ask as many questions as i can.

i have never been in a relationship or had sex. i dont even remember my childhood due to my brain injury but there wasnt anything good to remember anyways. also due to my brain injury i am behind in school. im still taking highschool courses in college because of the credits. its called earned admissions so im still earning my way through credits into the college. its very depressing and its on my mind everyday.. i really think i couldve been great by now if i was given a fair chance at life from the beginning. i didnt even think id live this long actually.

my life consists of work and going to the local cafe here in town. as much as i love travelling i despise driving. i do not find it fun at all so i stay in town with the same routine. i spend my sunday mornings swimming but other than that everything else stays the same. i spend a few hours in my truck at the park sometimes reading or listening to music, i go to the gym whenever i feel like walking on the treadmil, and i buy a hot chai latte but since its been 90 degrees this past week i did switch it up and i started buying boba tea.

i am a woman of color

decided to post on here because i had an online friend for over 6 years who randomly went M.IA since the ending of last year. he was my best friend and would talk aboutt any and everything. the last time i heard from him he told me he loves me and that was the end of it. im not blocked on anything bc it says that my messages are sent whenevr i still send one but its almost been a year since i heard from my only friend. i know it takes time to build a friendship to that level but that is what i am looking for.

i prefer to talk to anyone over the age of 21, thanks

Ive only been with more masculine presenting women but during all my relationships ive wondered what it would be like being in a relationship with a femme. Im femme4all and i am interested in all lesbians but ive always had a preference for femmes. Feminine women always catch my eye in public and when i go to cafes or outside and i see really feminine women who are probably straight journaling or scribbling on their ipad i think to myseld wow theyre so beautiful and i wish i had a femme girlfriend who i can be femme with and be really girly and lesbo. I imagine being in a femme4femme relationship is really fun and i hope i get to experience it. I wanna hear your experiences as well!

Im new to the restaurant industry and i recently got a job serving. Before this job i barely ever had interactions with men and also i have always found men scary and too aggressive. I never used to make eye contact with them either until i got this job. I quickly learned that a man going out to eat alone is there to just flirt with the server and make me uncomfortable (90% of the time). Its worse if they have a ring on their left hand.

I am someone that likes to talk bc i grew up very sheltered and would go days without speaking as a kid bc there was no one to talk to most days so now that i work i try and talk as much as i can to customers. I actually work two jobs just for human interaction. My paychecks look good but i care about human interaction slightly more than the money. Anyways i noticed i was getting the lowest tips from guys who i would talk to and laugh at their jokes whatever even after they were the one calling me over just to chat and purposely staying at the restaurant for over an hour. The thing is i noticed a pattern: i talk to them about random stuff just normal conversation, they make a sexual comment, ask me out, i say no, they continue to stay amd talk to me, then when its time to pay they leave less than $5 top for around an hour of my time. Last night i was speaking to a male customer for an hour and 30 mins bc he kept saying he cant decide on what he wants so of course i was telling him about the menu and then he asks if he can take me out on his motorcycle to golden corral -_-. I said no and he left a $3 tip.

Confused on why the tip was so low when i thought we were having a regular conversation and he spent almost $50 on food for himself. i posted in the server subreddit asking this question and most of the comments from women were telling me i was sending the wrong message by talking to them. I just feel really bad about myself lol. Im not sure how a regular conversation means i want to fuck or go out with you. Some days at the restaurant its slow so i have time to talk a little bit longer but i was under the impression that if i make the customer feel seen and not ignore them then id get better tips but its literally having the opposite effect on older horny men. Im so irritated. I just want to talk to people myself sometimes. Men are so disgusting and foul i don't understand why they are like this. Absolutely nothing appealing about them.

My manager also tells me he goes out to eat to look at the server and flirt maybe get her number so i thought if i just act like myself and be social id get nicer tips. Idk im just feeling awful and i have nobody to share this with. Not too mention getting attention from other queer/lesbian women is like pulling teeth but just existing as a women will get you all the unwanted attention from guys. And no matter what you do everything is "sending the wrong message"

Too keep this short: im a younger female server and too often i have older men ask me out but before they do they tell me either that they thought i was younger and/or that im the same age as their son/daughter... why would you want to date someone the same age as your child who is over 20 years younger than you?? This job is getting weird. Not too mention the guys that ask me out always end up tipping the least and call me over to ask me questions about my personal life for the next hour. I used to sit and talk to these guys for an hour or so when they were interested in hopes for a bigger tip but stopped once i realized how broke these men were. Last night i entertained a guy for an hour and 30 mins since he ordered $50 worth of food so i figured since its slow and hes asking me all these questions i guess i could sit down and talk to him. Of course he asked me if i wanted to go on a ride on his motorcycle and i said no. When it was time to pay he left me $3. For an hour and 30 mins of my time. Lol last time i entertain these types of men.

Title basically. Going on a date 2mr with an older masc and im curious what are the first things you look at or notice when going on a date? Just wondering if it would make a difference if i do my nails.. super nervous 😓 prefer to hear from more older lesbians

I have no one to tell this to but my parents have been the cause of my suffering and pain since a very early age up until now in my mid 20s. Always making sure i know im a burden. Ive thought about suicide for years and soon i will do it. Im finally ready for everything to be over. I have never been loved. Not sure how i made it this long but the day i do it and end everything i just want someone to know it was really my parents that killed me. I just committed the final act.