u/Ordinary_Trip4098

I utilize the food pantry when I can. I want to apply for food stamps, it would really help us. We are both on the lease. We have one child. But he thinks the city will force him onto child support if I apply with both of our information, because that’s what happened with his first child. (I know that won’t happen but there’s no convincing him otherwise, he does not trust it).. but idk what else to do. There’s no way to apply using our lease.. with his name on it.. without them asking for his financial information. Just want to see if I’ve exhausted my options. (And yes i am looking for a new/better paying job)

I’m the poor one in the friend group. My friends aren’t wealthy/rich by any means but they have decent paying careers. We all just entered our 30s.

-He said: “I need you to lock in, we’re all supposed to be up by now”

At first I took it as a joke but i genuinely think he’s just out of touch.

Let me paint the scene.

We all went to high school together (public school, inner city), their parents were middle class. Mine were upper poor/lower middle. We weren’t struggling bad but there were also some things we didn’t have/do. By senior year, they all had cars, whether hand me down or bought. They all went to college (as did their parents, mine did not). Got into their careers right after.

Most live with their parents as of today (during college-dorms/roommates, after a few had their own apt for some years). So not only do they had good paying careers, they also don’t have house bills. My parents are divorced and both I would say on the poor side now. I can’t live with them, and if I did I would still be paying house bills.

I don’t use my past or things as an excuse, it’s just the truth & explains why I’m not “up” yet like they are. I also had a child 6 yrs ago & before that I was severely depressed/s*****l/very dissociated from life due to hating family home life, I couldn’t keep or job or focus on being an adult.

They’re all single men. (Me—a woman) So yeah.. I don’t have the same time you all have even with a partner lol. On top of that we don’t have a village, so it’s just us, making it work, working opposite schedules to avoid needing babysitters. I’m learning everything as I go, which is hard to do working full time, having a child, being poor. I have to be strategic. I can’t make mistakes. I don’t have a family home to fall back on if things don’t work out, it’s this or the streets. So sorry for living in survival mode a bit (especially in this economy!!). I am looking into online schooling, something to get me into a career. I’ll get there but it’s just gonna take me a little time. Idk it’s just the end part where he said “up BY NOW”.. like damn I guess I just been being lazy all these years sorry bro.

Sorry for the rant, thank you if you read it all. Have a great night 🤘🏼💕

TW: depression/shoeicide

Sometimes I wish I chose not to go through with the pregnancy so I could decide at any moment that I’m done. But now I have to do something with my life to give my child a good one. I hate feeling like this because I love my child deeply. But life is so hard & exhausting.

Management claimed to be informed TODAY that we have to work Saturday 5/23 (a schedule that is already made btw! And does NOT include us working that day) to process the truck because we can’t work Monday (they don’t want to pay the FT assc. time & a half because payroll).. we all said we literally can’t work that, plans are already made.. manager said “well you guys will have to figure it out” LOL yeah see ya Tuesday good luck with that truck management.

Anybody else get annoyed at the guy’s tiktok who is a merchandiser 😭 He post a lot of his nice merchandising photos/videos. It’s mostly the comments that are annoying but sometimes he replies as if he agrees. But the comments are always saying how this should be standard & he needs to train everyone… there is a standard lmao. It’s supposed to be neat & organized (yes even clearance!). There’s a whole merchandising packet! NOT treasure hunt vibes— the treasure hunt is going to find nice brands & cool things at discount prices not rummaging through disorganized shelves. The problem is most stores are understaffed & don’t have consistent payroll to keep up with the standards.

I feel embarrassed lol but also not 100% at fault?

I got my oiled changed 3 weeks ago. A week later, the “min. oil light” came on. I checked my oil and it’s very low, so I take it to the same place. Here’s where I messed up and take accountability, when i walked in I just said hi I have an appointment for oil change. Got checked in, I didn’t mention anything I guess I just assumed I’m already in the system & they can see my history right. Well they change the oil, they come out & I ask if anything was wrong & they said no and they thought it was odd that I asked for an oil change and they guy was like yeah they were just here weeks ago & they assumed I had a reason to ask for an oil change. Apparently you can just top off your oil :) I had no idea (there’s also another issue here with the sensor maybe a leak, but that’s not the point of the story). I pay & I leave. I tell my partner & he immediately takes me back up there & questions them about their procedures and the guy agrees the fault on their part & offers a refund. I feel bad because they still did the labor, I just felt like they could have said something when they saw there was nothing wrong with my oil ya know? I went to a place before to get my coolant replaced/filled whatever & they did a check & talked with me about what I really needed before doing a full service on something I did not need. So this situation kinda felt odd to me, but again I accept my wrong in it.