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I took a plan b on june 18th and got my period when i was supposed to on june 25th. I had regular period symptoms that i usually did. My periods usually last about 5-6 days but im currently on my 9th day with moderate bleeding.

I have no other symptoms, i feel totally notmal except for the fact that the bleeding is still here. Its like super tiny bloodclots and its not crazy heavy im just wondering if these are normal symptoms. Im anxious and scared and confused.

My friend and her boyfriend had been together for 2 years until September of last year where he cheated on her with 5 girls in one night at a concert/festival. They ‘broke up’ after but she chased after him for weekssss after.

She is a grade above him and goes to a school about 20 minutes away, after they broke up she began skipping her last period to speed to my school and catch a glimpse of him before he leaves. On her private story on snapchat she is CONSTANTLY posting about him talking about how shes so swooned over the fact that he apologized to her for cheating and hes so “thoughtful and considerate” for reaching out.

The breaking point came about 4 months ago when she told me that they had sex again when they were hanging out because he told her that he misses her. She told him to commit to her and he said no but they still ended up having sex?? I told her thats so messed up of him and he’s totally using her for her body and she said that hes not. Since then, every like 1.5 weeks she texts or calls me crying about how they had sex again and he would ghost her after. I was really annoyed at him but also her so during school i went up to him and told him he’s being an asshole and make up hjs mind. I told him that she deserves better than him anyways and hes taking her for granted. Then later that day my friend texted me saying i was too mean to him and hes mad at her because of it. At this point i started getting mad at HER saying she is being a total submissive woman and she needs to stand up. She refused but continued to complain about it- its gotten to the point that he is all that she talks about. Since then, i’ve distances myself from her because it is not fair of her to complain and beg to me for help and once i got advice or do something about it- she ignores it. So i did indeed distance myself. Whether it was right or wrong of me doesn’t matter because all i know it was bringing me too much stress to care about the situation.

However, when university decisions came out she texted me saying she got into UCSC (her target school) i was absolutely thrilled for her. That weekend, she had a get together which i was happy to attend with my best friend. I entered her house and congratulated her with a hug and a little bracelet i bought. It was then that she told me that she REJECTED santa cruz and instead do 2 years of community college to transfer somewhere better. I responded with “oh? Why?? I thought you really wanted to go to sc?” I kid you not, she told me that she wants to stay and “figure things out with tyler” (the ex)

This prompted me to lose absolutely all respect for her. I literally told my best friend im leaving, she got up to leave with me, i took back my present and started leaving out the door, before she asked me whats wrong. I told her she needs to get her shit together and leave him in the past, i said that im tired of seeing her ruin her life on something like this so young. She started crying saying i dont understand her relationship with him and although that may be true (i guess) i don’t care enough to stay and try to understand because it frustrates me so much. I lost my shit and told her that im so embarrassed to be around her because every time i am, its just her humiliating herself for someone that doesnt care about her. At the beginning i understood because it is hard to get over a relationship and breaking contact is difficult. I only got fed up once i saw her overindulging herself and letting it influence her future.

I dont know what to do. I feel bad for being mean to her because i know its hard to leave, but on the other hand how long is this going to go on? Was this wrong of me? I didnt tell her off in front of all of her friends it was just at the entrance in front of my best friend.

My friend and her boyfriend had been together for 2 years until September of last year where he cheated on her with 5 girls in one night at a concert/festival. They ‘broke up’ after but she chased after him for weekssss after.

She is a grade above him and goes to a school about 20 minutes away, after they broke up she began skipping her last period to speed to my school and catch a glimpse of him before he leaves. On her private story on snapchat she is CONSTANTLY posting about him talking about how shes so swooned over the fact that he apologized to her for cheating and hes so “thoughtful and considerate” for reaching out.

The breaking point came about 4 months ago when she told me that they had sex again when they were hanging out because he told her that he misses her. She told him to commit to her and he said no but they still ended up having sex?? I told her thats so messed up of him and he’s totally using her for her body and she said that hes not. Since then, every like 1.5 weeks she texts or calls me crying about how they had sex again and he would ghost her after. I was really annoyed at him but also her so during school i went up to him and told him he’s being an asshole and make up hjs mind. I told him that she deserves better than him anyways and hes taking her for granted. Then later that day my friend texted me saying i was too mean to him and hes mad at her because of it. At this point i started getting mad at HER saying she is being a total submissive woman and she needs to stand up. She refused but continued to complain about it- its gotten to the point that he is all that she talks about. Since then, i’ve distances myself from her because it is not fair of her to complain and beg to me for help and once i got advice or do something about it- she ignores it. So i did indeed distance myself. Whether it was right or wrong of me doesn’t matter because all i know it was bringing me too much stress to care about the situation.

However, when university decisions came out she texted me saying she got into UCSC (her target school) i was absolutely thrilled for her. That weekend, she had a get together which i was happy to attend with my best friend. I entered her house and congratulated her with a hug and a little bracelet i bought. It was then that she told me that she REJECTED santa cruz and instead do 2 years of community college to transfer somewhere better. I responded with “oh? Why?? I thought you really wanted to go to sc?” I kid you not, she told me that she wants to stay and “figure things out with tyler” (the ex)

This prompted me to lose absolutely all respect for her. I literally told my best friend im leaving, she got up to leave with me, i took back my present and started leaving out the door, before she asked me whats wrong. I told her she needs to get her shit together and leave him in the past, i said that im tired of seeing her ruin her life on something like this so young. She started crying saying i dont understand her relationship with him and although that may be true (i guess) i don’t care enough to stay and try to understand because it frustrates me so much. I lost my shit and told her that im so embarrassed to be around her because every time i am, its just her humiliating herself for someone that doesnt care about her. At the beginning i understood because it is hard to get over a relationship and breaking contact is difficult. I only got fed up once i saw her overindulging herself and letting it influence her future.

I dont know what to do. I feel bad for being mean to her because i know its hard to leave, but on the other hand how long is this going to go on? Was this wrong of me? I didnt tell her off in front of all of her friends it was just at the entrance in front of my best friend.

Me (18F) and my bf (19M) have been dating for about a year and talking for almost 2. Whenever we argue however he just gets so mean to me and says very hurtful things. For example, he has told me that im “just like my mom” (he knows i have a terrible relationship with her, she is histrionic). I ended up crying for weeks because i am an incredibly emotional person which i know is bad. I hate letting other people have control over my emotions but i cant help it.

A little backstory, i am freshly 18 and my boyfriend is old for his grade. Today i wore a t shirt to school where the collar was cut and it was off the shoulder. He first, went quiet and didnt say anything until i started to beg him to tell me what was wrong because it bothers me when hes upset. He eventually said “you dont have a normal t shirt?” And i said “is this not a normal t shirt?” And i guess he took that in the way that i was ‘defending myself’ and ‘not taking accountability’. I didnt mean it in that way- but he started being so mean to me and saying stuff like “you can see your entire fucking bra strap what the fuck do you mean its a normal t shirt are you blind?” And i was obviously shocked because i was confused on why he was being so short tempered with me. He told me when i wear a hoodie he’ll be normal so i asked my friend to bring me a hoodie and she did so i wore it. Then he told me that he’s still not happy because i tried to defend myself instead of me just submitting to him and taking accountability. I told him that i did everything i could to make him comfortable and respect his boundaries but it turned into an entire argument because once i told him that he was being mean to me, he thought i was shifting blame onto him. Im so exhausted of fighting and every time he hurts my feelings i just have to look past it? Is that fair? We ended up arguing and he said “my fault for takin to a kid I should’ve known better. I’ll start talkin to u when u done goin thru puberty”. Things like this really hurt my feelings but the longer it goes on/the more times it happens it has less of an effect on me.

I feel like i am slowly getting detached from him and every time i try to defend myself i lose interest because i have to constantly beg him to tell me what’s wrong or that im sorry. I dont want to detach myself from him because i know he just gets like this about me because everybody constantly tells him that im too good for him (our families are very close). All of his past girls had little respect for him and 2 of them cheated on him. I do feel bad because i know im a very harmless understanding person lol and i would never do that to him but there’s only so much i can take too. Has anybody gone through something similar?