u/Playful-Cranberry907

It’s so hard to love a man with no emotional intelligence.

Every time something doesn’t go his way, every time he dislikes something,he gives me the cold silent treatment. But never once does he tell me what’s wrong. Never explains. Never uses his words. Just shuts down, vanishes, and leaves me completely in the dark.

So I’m left guessing. Overthinking. Crying. Wondering "What did I do wrong?"

I analyze every message. Every choice. Every word I said. I try to figure out what upset him because he refuses to simply tell me. He makes me chase him, beg for attention, wonder if I’m too much… all because he lacks the basic decency to say “I’m upset because this happened."

He punishes me with silence instead of communicating. He makes me feel guilty for things I didn’t even know were wrong. And when I finally break down and cry? He says "I need space."

Space when I’m hurting because of his silence.

I’m tired of guessing. I’m tired of walking on eggshells. I’m tired of being punished for having feelings. Love shouldn’t be this hard. Love shouldn’t leave you wondering what you did wrong every single time.

I deserve someone who speaks. Someone who says "This hurt me" instead of freezing me out. Someone who meets me halfway instead of leaving me in the cold.

It took me a while to see it, his silence isn’t my confusion. It’s his choice. And I’m tired of paying the price for his inability to communicate. 🫂💛

I’m sitting here crying because I can’t believe this is how it ended. But I know I made the right choice.

Yesterday was literally the most exhausting, tiring day I’ve had in a long time. He KNEW how drained I was. He KNEW I needed care, or at least kindness.

And do you know what he did? He went cold. Silent. No explanation. Zero. Just vanished and left me wondering on the day I needed him MOST.

This isn’t the first time. Every single time something upsets him, he shuts down. Goes quiet. Leaves me guessing, overthinking, wondering what I did wrong. I’ve told him so many times: "Please just talk to me. Don’t punish me with silence. It hurts."

You know what he always says? "I’ll try."

And then… nothing changes. He keeps doing it. Keeps leaving me in the dark. Keeps making me feel small and anxious.

Yesterday broke me completely. Because if he can’t be kind to me on my hardest day… when will he? If he can’t communicate instead of ghosting me… what future did we actually have?

I sent the message. I ended it. He knows exactly why.

But it still hurts. It hurts that I gave him so many chances. That I believed his "I’ll try" every single time. That I stayed patient and understanding while he slowly broke my peace.

Walking away from someone you love hurts. But staying with someone who repeatedly hurts you and never changes? That hurts even more.

I deserve someone who talks to me, not someone who leaves me guessing. I deserve kindness on my worst days, not silence.

Here’s to choosing myself. Even though it hurts like hell right now. 🫂💛

Problem/Goal: I want to know, am I asking for too much? Or is it reasonable to want honesty instead of silence and distance?

Context:
I (28F) try so hard to understand my partner and avoid fights over small things. I choose my words carefully, I adjust, I always try to meet him halfway, just so we don't clash.

But whenever I say something he doesn't like or didn't expect, he becomes cold. Short replies, distant, one-word answers. Like I suddenly don't matter as much.

When I notice and ask gently, "Is everything okay?" he says "Everything's fine." But his actions tell me something's very wrong. It feels like I'm being punished without being told what for.

When I try to explain how it makes me feel that being shut out hurts, that I want us to talk instead of going silent. He says "Let it go, it's done." Like I'm not even allowed to finish what I'm saying or feel what I feel.

So I'm left guessing: What did I say? Which word crossed a line? Why does he feel fine while I feel shut out? I walk on eggshells around someone I love, afraid one harmless sentence will make him treat me like a stranger.

I don't need him to be perfect. I just need him to tell me what hurts instead of making me guess. If I did something wrong, tell me. If he's upset, say it. Don't tell me "it's fine" when everything feels cold. Don't shut the door and then tell me nothing's wrong.

Questions:

Is this something I should just get used to, or is this actually unfair to me?

Why would someone say "everything's fine" when clearly it's not and just sleep instead of talking?

How can I make him understand that shutting down and leaving things unresolved hurts more than talking it out?

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Lately, I've been realizing that maybe this friendship isn't healthy for me anymore.

This is about a work friend I've been close with for years. At first, I ignored a lot of things because I thought maybe that's just how she is. But over time, I started noticing patterns that I can't seem to overlook anymore.

She likes to gossip and judge people a lot. There are also times when I feel like she exaggerates or makes up stories just to get attention. Whenever I try to share my own problems, the conversation somehow always goes back to her. I end up feeling like my problems don't matter because hers are always "bigger."

She's also very bossy. Even when no one asks for advice, she tells people what they should do, and sometimes it feels like she wants to control every decision.

Another thing that has been bothering me is money. She has a credit card that our group uses whenever we eat out or go to the mall, then we just pay her afterward. I never had an issue with it before. But now, I'm trying to be more responsible financially because I have existing debts that I'm working hard to pay off.

Whenever I order less, say "pass," or don't want to buy something, she'll say things like, "Nagbago ka na," or "Ang tipid mo naman ngayon." Sometimes she'll keep encouraging me to buy more even after I've already said no. I know she might mean it as a joke, but it honestly makes me feel guilty for trying to stick to my budget.

For the longest time, I thought maybe I was just being too sensitive. Then I finally opened up to another close work friend, and she admitted she's been feeling the same way all this time. She just stayed quiet because she didn't want conflict. That conversation made me realize I wasn't imagining everything.

Today, I was talking to that same friend and admitted that I didn't really want to join after work if she was coming, so I planned to tell her I needed to go home early instead. I have a feeling she overheard us, although I'm not completely sure.

After that, she barely acknowledged us for the rest of the day. Then I saw a few posts on her social media that felt like they were directed at us. Maybe I'm overthinking, maybe not.

The truth is... I felt guilty for lying. But at the same time, I also felt relieved that I didn't have to force myself to hang out.

I don't hate her. I don't even want to start drama or confront her. I just think I've reached the point where I don't have the energy to maintain a friendship that leaves me feeling drained instead of at peace.
I guess I just needed to get this off my chest.

I've never had a boyfriend, not because I didn't want one, but because I was always afraid of getting hurt. Growing up, I watched my mom go through so much pain because of my dad. Seeing that as a child left a mark on me that I never really talked about.

Because of that, whenever someone starts getting serious about me, I tend to push them away before they can get too close. It feels safer that way. If I leave first, I can't get hurt, right?

But now, things are different. I'm dating someone, and for the first time, I've let someone stay. The more serious it gets, the more scared I become. I'm starting to fall for him, and instead of feeling excited, a part of me wants to run away.

Not because he's done anything wrong. Not because I don't like him. But because I'm terrified that one day he'll hurt me, and I'll end up experiencing the same pain I watched my mom go through.

I know he's not my dad. I know my story doesn't have to be my mom's story. But sometimes trauma has a way of making fear feel more real than love.

And right now, I'm trying to figure out whether I should protect my heart or finally give it a chance.

I bake cookies as a small business/hobby and I’ve been trying really hard to improve. Every time I post them on my stories, my cousin always replies with “pahingi.” I usually just laugh it off, but this time I told him he could buy some instead because baking honestly takes a lot of effort, time, and money.

Then he replied with “mukha namang hindi masarap.”

I know it might sound small or maybe he meant it as a joke, but it genuinely hurt me more than I expected.

I’ve spent so much time practicing, fixing my recipes, buying ingredients, and trying to make my cookies better. I even showed him photos of my bulk orders before, and a lot of people who bought from me said they were delicious, so hearing that from someone close to me felt really discouraging.

I suddenly felt embarrassed and questioned if what I’m doing is even good enough. It’s hard when you’re proud of something you worked hard on and someone immediately tears it down so casually.

Work, bahay, scroll, tulog, repeat. Miss ko lang magkaroon ng constant kausap about random things, life updates, memes, or late night thoughts.

About me:

* 28
* Working professional
* Introvert but talkative when comfortable
* Into books, makeup, and deep conversations

Hopefully ikaw:

* Around my age
* Decent kausap
* Hindi dry magreply

Not really looking for anything specific agad. Just genuine connection and good conversations. Message me if you relate :)

Hi. Life has been feeling a little heavy lately and I think I just need someone to talk to. I’ve been keeping a lot to myself because I don’t want to feel like a burden to my friends anymore.

Not looking for anything romantic or weird, just genuine conversation and maybe a safe space where we can vent about life together. Hopefully someone kind, understanding, and easy to talk to.

🙂