u/Powerful_Cow_2590

I’m so tired of acne all over my back and shoulders, and a little on my bum as well. I shower daily, use a salicylic acid soap and let it sit for a minute before rinsing. Always wash my hair before my body so my shampoo and conditioner isn’t what’s causing this. I don’t use moisturizer in the areas with acne as I assumed it would clog the pores more than they already are.

I don’t know what to do but I hate seeing so many bumps all over my shoulders and back, and when I get it on my bum it’ll be very painful and bright red, very embarrassing and difficult going to the beach in a swim suit with that. Any advice welcome :(

Mostly on my back and shoulders. I’ve been using naturium salicylic acid body wash for a long time and it doesn’t help. I always shower after the gym or after sweating. I don’t know what to do but I’m so tired of all the little bumps always on my back and shoulders. Any suggestions please.

Title says it all I guess. I have a four year old child, didn’t even have weird hair growing when I was pregnant like a lot of women do. I’m 24 now and have started getting thick dark hairs where a “happy trail” goes. It started with just one or two hairs and is getting to be more relatively quickly. Could this possibly be health related or just something about getting older that I don’t know about? I have no women in my family I can talk to about this, so I don’t know what’s normal as I get older. Thank you 😊

I’ve been on depo for one round (3 month shot) and was due for another injection May 13 that I did not get. Had a short and heavy period from May 24-27, had unprotected (pull out method) sex a few days after and again the days around June 19-20. Period was supposed to start the 21st, it’s now the 28th. I’ve taken multiple tests and all are very negative. Also to note, my periods are always very on time when not on birth control.

I don’t know what to do here. I know abnormal periods are normal coming off depo, but I’ve been on it in the past and my cycle returned to normal immediately. I’m worried I ovulated very late or something and got pregnant the second time I had sex.

Today I had some light cramping when I stretch and clear thin discharge(sorry if that’s tmi, I’m panicking a little).

What are your thoughts? Thanks in advance

I got one depo injection in February, which wore off mid May. Got a short and heavy period at the end of May. Period should’ve started on Sunday, it’s now Thursday with no period in sight. I’ve taken multiple pregnancy tests and they’re all very negative. Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

Quick summary for anyone that didn’t see my other post (still up), I 24f feel like I am only with my husband 36m because of our child. We had a rough and not normal start to our relationship that involved a lot of emotional abuse, but had gotten better the last year. 6 months ago, I joined the military (a joint decision that was actually his idea). I now reside 10 hours from our original city, he and his mom (mostly her) have been taking care of our 4 year old since I’ve been away and we’ve gotten to visit a few times.

I’ve been trying to talk to him a lot lately about how I feel about our relationship. How he listens to respond and fight back, not to understand me. How I’m just in general not happy. How him expecting us to deal with things to “keep the peace” is not normal. No matter what I say, he doesn’t listen. Things have been very tense the last couple weeks.

Yesterday we were talking on the phone, which somehow started an argument and he was being very rude and talking over me so I just hung up. Of course he was mad that I hung up on him, but later in the night he texted me saying he doesn’t want to fight and he loves me, and he hopes I wake up feeling better.

Not onto today..

I didn’t respond to his text from the night before when I saw it in the morning. I was still a bit upset about his rudeness so I just didn’t respond. Later in the day, I called him to have a regular conversation. See what he was up to, how he was today, etc. He asked why I never responded to his text and I said I just didn’t want to, which is a regular thing he does to me when I text him late so I thought would be fine. He got a little defensive and asked if I was mad, I told him a little bit. Which then started an argument of him saying “I’ve been a bitch lately”, and then saying he’s “just being honest”. Said how he deals with it to keep the peace. I told him I don’t want to deal with him making me feel like shit just to “keep the peace” and that’s not how a relationship should work. Tried to explain more what I meant, he didn’t care to listen.

Ended up being another argument of him just getting mad, rude and talking over me. Then when I ask him to stop talking over me, he tells me that’s how conversations work and does it more. So again, I hang up. I do see how that could be childish, but I don’t know what I’m supposed to do when he’s just yelling over me and being extremely rude.

He texted me a threatening “that’s the last time you hang up on me… watch” and proceeded to block me everywhere. Reminder, this man has our child 10 hours away from me. But blocks me everywhere.

I’m just at a loss on what to do. I miss my child so so much. Being in the military, I can’t just go visit for a weekend. It feels impossible to get my child here to live with me. This child is my whole world, they were both supposed to move here in a few months and I’m sure that’s not happening now. I’m tired of being in a relationship that makes me feel so uncared for and thrown away.

I guess this is more of a vent or advice on how to cope with being away from my child and how to cope with the loss of an unhealthy relationship. I feel like it should be freeing but it just feels like my whole world is being ripped from me.

TLDR; got into an argument with my husband, who proceeded to block me everywhere. I’m military so can’t do much, he lives 10 hours away with our 4 year old. I’m at a loss and just miss my child. Advice, encouragement, or even ignore it and let me rant. Anything is welcomed.

For a very quick backstory, I (24f) met my husband (36m) when we were 19 and 31. It was a casual fling that ended in me getting pregnant. He did not want me to keep the baby, but I did, so he stayed around. We stayed as friends with benefits for years because he did not like the age difference and then ended up getting into a relationship around a year and a half ago when our child turned 3(now 4).

I have since joined the military and reside 10 hours away from our city, husband and child are still in our original city but the plan was for them to move here by the end of the year.

Now onto the issue. My husband and I have a lot of issues due to how our relationship came to be, we’ve always argued a lot due to him having some resentment for me for keeping the child in the beginning, but this has gotten much better since being together as he’s resolved the resentment he was feeling.

But since moving and meeting new people and making my own friends (back home I only knew his friends), I realized how he doesn’t even do bare minimum for me. He does show that he loves me in many ways, but the day to day thoughtfulness isn’t there at all. Everything about us are opposites, the way we show and want to recieved love, the way we handle conflict, the way we joke, I’m far more emotional, I’m anxiously attached and he’s avoidant. And whenever I bring up ways that I’m feeling, I’m met with him immediately telling me all the reasons why I shouldn’t feel how I do.

There’s also issue with his health that cause irritation and him getting angry with himself, which usually results in me and those around him getting his rudeness and hurtful words. I’m always told by him that nobody’s perfect and I should just ignore it because he can’t help it.

I love him so much. But I’m not happy. But, if I leave him, he will keep our child back home and I won’t get to see him often at all. Due to my work in the military, I get short notice for deployments and my work schedule can be hectic. I can’t care for my child on my own and it’s not fair to make him move back and forth. I’m considering just dealing with my husband and unhappiness so I can have my child here. And I know everyone says that unhappy parents together are worse than split parents, which I agree with. But when t hose split parents are hundreds of miles apart, is the pain of not seeing or raising my child worth it?

I don’t know what to think anymore. I don’t know what level of bs is normal to tolerate in a relationship or what isn’t that I’ve been gaslit into believing is normal.

Any and all advice is welcome, I also have another post in here that can give more backlight on my marriage and its issues in more detail.

TLDR; I’m unhappy with my marriage, but if I leave my husband I will only get to see my child every couple of months. I don’t know what to do and don’t trust my thoughts and decisions because of my husband’s slow manipulation of changing how I think.

I’m 24, female. I guess this will be a small dump of my life. I grew up in Georgia with only my mother, my dad was an alcoholic and not around. Me and my mom argued constantly and moved around a lot due to her always finding different boyfriends. Finally at 16 I quit school and moved away. Joined the army at 17 and didn’t make it. Went back home and moved to west Texas the second I turned 18.

Fell in love at 19 with someone who was 31 at the time. He didn’t want anything emotional, but me being a naive teenager let him use me physically. I ended up pregnant quickly due to failed birth control and chose to keep the baby. I told him I would not force a relationship or contact him if that’s what he wanted, but he chose to stick around. I went to every doctor appointment by myself. No baby shower or fun gender reveal celebrations. I cried for him to show any sort of care but he was (somewhat understandably) angry that I kept the baby.

He was there for the birth, left within an hour of me being moved from labor and delivery to the maternity area. Didn’t come back until two days later when it was time to leave the hospital. He helped some for two days, I stayed in his apartment. Then he dropped me off unwillingly at my own apartment, said he needed a little time and would come pick me back up in a few hours. I didn’t hear from him for days. I healed by myself. Took care of a newborn while barely being able to sit or walk. I returned to work after just two weeks off.

It was always hard to say no to him. We stayed friends for the baby and he used me as an easy lay for years. We argued a lot. Always to his advantage. Fast forward a few years and I finally started dating someone, which he did not like. He talked me into leaving the man I was with(a good man) and confessed that he loved me and just didn’t know how to deal with it and that’s why he was mean, as a way to push me away.

We’ve been dating for around a year and a half now. Only recently has the arguing gotten better and I see real effort with some things from him. We got married a few months ago so I could join the navy. I’ve now been in for 6 months and reside 10 hours away from my husband and our 4 year old.

I’ve been questioning our relationship since it started. If it was real love or just comfort since we had been in each others lives for so long. I’m now 24 and he 36. I stay awake each night wondering if I actually love him or if I’m just scared of change. I stay awake wondering if I’m just overthinking and ruining my family. I do see his effort for change now and I see his love for me. But there are still some things that I do not like. He tells me that I need to let go and accept him for who he is, and that nobody is perfect. But he’s been around for so long that I question if he’s right or if I’m just brain washed by him. I love him and I have such a deep care for him. I know that if we divorced, I won’t get to see my child often. It is near impossible for him to live with me due to my work. My child is my entire world. I question if I’m right about this relationship being wrong for me, but if i should just deal with it for the time being so I can have my child in my life (they are planning on moving to where I reside later this year). I question if I am just majorly overthinking and need to relax and work things out with my husband.

And to add another layer, I have met a friend that I developed small feelings for but he has a lot of feelings for me. It always amazes me how many small things are normal for 99% of relationships that my husband does not do for me. Carrying my stuff without asking, holding doors for me, complementing me. When I ask my husband for these small gestures of affection, he simply says he is not that type of man.

So do I ignore all the small things that make me happy in a relationship?

He also only jokes in a negative way. Always jokes about cheating and how nobody wants me, these are 1000% jokes and I often joke back in the same way. But I’ve asked numerous times to also have more positive jokes and it doesnt happen. There’s no balance and it’s draining and I’ve explained this countless times with zero change.

This is super long. I don’t expect anyone to read it. Just nice to get some stuff off my chest. Even if it’s jumbled and doesn’t make sense to anyone.

My husband and I have a very complicated relationship from the start. We have been together for about a year and a half, married around 6-7 months. But we have a four year old and have been in each other’s lives for over 5 years, initially as friends for the child’s sake but eventually ended up together.

We’ve always argued a lot and had a very unhealthy relationship with each other, we’ve argued a lot less recently and I do see his improvement with a lot of stuff. By there is still a lot I am unhappy with and I don’t think it’s things he can change. In January I left home to go into the military, and I have been away since and moved cities with the plan of my husband and our child moving with me soon.

The issue is, there’s still so much I am not happy with in our relationship. We are very opposite people when it comes to communication style, how we handle stress, attitudes, parenting style, living style, romance. Everything. He also rarely asks me about myself, what I’m doing, how things are for me here. Whenever we have conversations it’s about him. We always do his stuff, he will simply deny doing something I want to do if he doesn’t feel like it. Inconveniencing himself for another out of love is not something he does. Things have been that way since I met him.

I do have so so much love for him. But how do I know if our relationship is worth staying in? How do I know if I am just staying in our relationship out of comfort of him being in my life for so long? If we were to split, he would also likely stay in our town with our child(which is 10 hours away from where I now reside), so part of me wonders if subconsciously I know that and that is why I stay with him. Or possibly I’m too nice to hurt somebody, as I know he does love me in his own way. I don’t know what to think anymore. Am I just overthinking all of this and having a hard time with the boring stages of marriage? I feel like our relationship never had a good phase. It’s always just been this.

In addition, I have made a friend that I’ve developed some light feelings for. I have made it clear I will not do anything against my relationship, but it has added a new layer to the questioning feelings I have already had about my marriage.

TLDR; Rocky relationship with husband, moved away with the military and am now questioning if our relationship is worth it or if I am staying for the wrong reasons. Please give any advice possible with no hate.

I married into a Hispanic family and need help lol I tried searching but couldn’t find much. Thanks!

I’ve wanted to learn how to surf since I was a little girl, (24 now) a bit scared of the ocean lol (scared of currents, not the animals). But I’m still really wanting to try it out! Any recommendations on lessons? Thanks :)