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We've been together for 2 years, and the first 6 months were long distance. He always told me he had OCD, but my ex also had OCD, so I didn't think too much of it. I assumed it would be similar.

It isn't.

His OCD is all about contamination, and he genuinely believes almost everything is dirty.

For example, if a dirty sock touches the floor, then in his mind the whole floor is dirty and needs to be cleaned. Every grocery item has to be disinfected before it goes into the fridge, like we were all doing during COVID. If my shoulder brushes against a wall, he'll immediately spray both my shoulder and the wall with alcohol because now they're contaminated. He showers 6+ times a day, and his skin is honestly suffering because of it.

Living with this is exhausting.

I feel like I have to think through every little movement before I do anything because I'm constantly trying to avoid setting off another contamination issue. I can't just exist normally in my own home.

I clean the apartment all the time. It's a pretty big apartment, so I can't deep clean every single room in one day, but even after spending hours cleaning, he'll still focus on the small areas that aren't clean enough.

One thing that's really wearing me down is my hair. I have naturally curly hair, so if we're going out, I'll wash it and straighten it that day because it's a whole process. The moment we get home, he wants me to wash it again because I was outside and my hair could have touched something dirty. So all the effort I put into doing my hair is basically for nothing.

I've suggested seeing a therapist who specializes in OCD. He told me he already did, and that the therapist said they couldn't help him anymore because this is something he chooses to do. I honestly don't know if that's what actually happened because it doesn't sound right to me.

I love him. We're supposed to get married soon.

But if I'm being honest, I'm miserable.

I feel like his OCD has become my life too. Everything revolves around avoiding contamination, and I don't feel comfortable or relaxed anymore.

At the same time, I'm scared of ending the relationship and starting over in my 30s. Part of me wonders if I'm giving up too easily, and another part of me wonders if this is what the rest of my life will look like if I marry him. Also this never happens when we go on vacation or to visit his parents or anywhere else outside this apartment.

Has anyone been through something like this? Can OCD this severe get better if the person actually wants help, or am I setting myself up for a lifetime of living this way?

We've been together for 2 years, and the first 6 months were long distance. He always told me he had OCD, but my ex also had OCD, so I didn't think too much of it. I assumed it would be similar.

It isn't.

His OCD is all about contamination, and he genuinely believes almost everything is dirty.

For example, if a dirty sock touches the floor, then in his mind the whole floor is dirty and needs to be cleaned. Every grocery item has to be disinfected before it goes into the fridge, like we were all doing during COVID. If my shoulder brushes against a wall, he'll immediately spray both my shoulder and the wall with alcohol because now they're contaminated. He showers 6+ times a day, and his skin is honestly suffering because of it.

Living with this is exhausting.

I feel like I have to think through every little movement before I do anything because I'm constantly trying to avoid setting off another contamination issue. I can't just exist normally in my own home.

I clean the apartment all the time. It's a pretty big apartment, so I can't deep clean every single room in one day, but even after spending hours cleaning, he'll still focus on the small areas that aren't clean enough.

One thing that's really wearing me down is my hair. I have naturally curly hair, so if we're going out, I'll wash it and straighten it that day because it's a whole process. The moment we get home, he wants me to wash it again because I was outside and my hair could have touched something dirty. So all the effort I put into doing my hair is basically for nothing.

I've suggested seeing a therapist who specializes in OCD. He told me he already did, and that the therapist said they couldn't help him anymore because this is something he chooses to do. I honestly don't know if that's what actually happened because it doesn't sound right to me.

I love him. We're supposed to get married soon.

But if I'm being honest, I'm miserable.

I feel like his OCD has become my life too. Everything revolves around avoiding contamination, and I don't feel comfortable or relaxed anymore.

At the same time, I'm scared of ending the relationship and starting over in my 30s. Part of me wonders if I'm giving up too easily, and another part of me wonders if this is what the rest of my life will look like if I marry him. Also this never happens when we go on vacation or to visit his parents or anywhere else outside this apartment.

Has anyone been through something like this? Can OCD this severe get better if the person actually wants help, or am I setting myself up for a lifetime of living this way?

When I was 4, 5 years old I remember my father stroking my body before I went to sleep. He would start at my neck and move his hand down to my vulva. He never tried to insert his fingers or do anything beyond that.

Even though I was so little I used to moved when he reached down that area so he could notice it made me uncomfortable. He did it like 2 or 3 times more. Every time I did the same thing, moving so he could notice it made me uncomfortable.

Growing up older he would do the same thing but without reaching my private area. My dad has always been loving and very protective of me. I don't know if he had evil intentions or what caused this.

I have never told anybody but I am now 29 and I have this recurring thoughts and I wonder if this was sexual assault or not. I feel like I needed to get this off my chest. It has been eating me alive since I was a little kid.

I’m 5'7" and currently 220 lbs. I have PCOS and insulin resistance, which make losing weight very difficult. Even so, I’ve been working hard on my health this entire year and have lost 30 lbs so far.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He met me when I was around 255 lbs, so I was actually heavier when we started dating. I was always honest about my weight, and he never seemed bothered by it.

A few days ago, he told me that he is very concerned since I’m bigger now than when we first met because he was comparing older pictures of me to more recent ones. That comment really hurt, especially because I’ve lost 30 lbs and am continuing to work on my weight. It felt like all the effort I’ve put in was completely dismissed.

Another issue is that we barely have sex...maybe once a month. It's been affecting my self esteem and making me question whether he's physically attracted to me. He constantly tells me how much he loves my personality, how kind I am, and how much he enjoys being with me, but I rarely feel desired.

What makes this especially painful is that I don't want to be overweight. I'm actively trying to lose weight and improve my health, but it feels like no matter what I do, it isn't enough.

When I told him his comment upset me, he said he didn't mean to hurt me. But he knows I struggle with body image, which makes it harder to understand why he would say something like that.

At this point, I'm wondering if I'm overreacting or if this is a legitimate reason to reconsider the relationship. I don't want to stay with someone who sees me as "not good enough," especially when I'm already doing everything I can to improve myself.

I met Fabio Lione in my city and the experience was very disappointing. I asked him how he was doing and a quick question from his tour. He didn't reply to anything. Took two pictures with me and rushed me out of the way. Mind you it was only another girl and myself the ones thar bought the meet and greet. Maybe I took it too personal but it was very very discouraging and disappointing. 😅 I think this was enough for me to avoid meet and greets moving forward.

Like it is better to just admire the singer not the person.

I just want to go back to normal so badly. It's been a year since my surgery and all physios have been extremely conservative with me.

I cannot run, jump i can barely go up and down the stairs. I want to be back to who I was. I feel so down and so limited. My ortho will not approve anymore PT even though I have already completed 11 months of PT because he said I have healed and that it is enough for me to be able to do daily tasks. I don't feel ready. My muscles are not ready enough. I don't understand this nonsense of them being extremely conservative and not allowing me to fully go back to sports. I am 242 lbs and I am 5'7 i could do all these things before my injury.

I feel so so devastated and only want to hear from people who are also fat/heavy if they were able to complete full recovery and not all this bs.

My boyfriend and I recently booked an Airbnb because we wanted a place with a nice pool. The listing had around 6 photos of a pool, and the main photo was literally the pool, so we assumed it was available.

When we arrived, we found out the pool was closed for maintenance and won’t be usable for another month and a half. The host said the closure wasn’t mentioned in the listing, but also pointed out that it “wasn’t explicitly listed” as an available amenity either.

We’re new to using Airbnb, so now we’re wondering does this count as misleading advertising? The photos heavily implied there was a usable pool, and that was a big reason we chose the place.

Are we entitled to any kind of refund or compensation in this situation?

Emma is so desperately thirsty for male validation that she would sleep with literally any man. She is so pathetic that I get secondhand embarrassment. Girl needs therapy asap.