u/Practical_Manner69

I 32M in relationship with 30F for 3.5 years in which 1.5 years we are living together.

This was chatiotc relationship for both us , in this relationship we had fight in first week for relationship and major breakup- patchup event on the 5th month of relationship.

After that, we breakup-Patch up 4 times our relationship, last one happened this year Feb month.

We fight eachother regularly on day to day basis , once a week we go full on world war with crying/regretting our decision.

But we are neither breakup nor able to live together peacefully.

For me , it's emotional attachment and fear or unknown that's making me still clingy to this relationship.

Two weeks back, we had a similar fight-arugements , where she threw the her phone away on the date (not happen first time) and i knew that would happen , so i should have kept quiet. So I did from that day onwards, i keeping quiet taking everything to my not arguing, just giving her what's she wants to hear. Any arguments, I just concur to hers and we stopped having fights for now.

I don't know how long this will countinue but I do get after thoughts about marriage.

We can be together like this for another 40 years , would that be called successful marriage??

Why do you think I still want to marry , it's fear of unknown , we don't have anything needed in relationship apart from trust. No comunication, not sex for days or months, not compatible lifestyle, different social status, different upbringing , not similar future outlook.

There's a constant pressure from both of our parents to get married. So I won't get time to find someone else might end up doing arrange marriage if we broke up , which sounds scary to me

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Should I 32M get married to my gf 30F after 3.5 years of relationship??

I 32M in relationship with 30F for 3.5 years in which 1.5 years we are living together.

This was chatiotc relationship for both us , in this relationship we had fight in first week for relationship and major breakup- patchup event on the 5th month of relationship.

After that, we breakup-Patch up 4 times our relationship, last one happened this year Feb month.

We fight eachother regularly on day to day basis , once a week we go full on world war with crying/regretting our decision.

But we are neither breakup nor able to live together peacefully.

For me , it's emotional attachment and fear or unknown that's making me still clingy to this relationship.

Two weeks back, we had a similar fight-arugements , where she threw the her phone away on the date (not happen first time) and i knew that would happen , so i should have kept quiet. So I did from that day onwards, i keeping quiet taking everything to my not arguing, just giving her what's she wants to hear. Any arguments, I just concur to hers and we stopped having fights for now.

I don't know how long this will countinue but I do get after thoughts about marriage.

We can be together like this for another 40 years , would that be called successful marriage??

Why do you think I still want to marry , it's fear of unknown , we don't have anything needed in relationship apart from trust. No comunication, not sex for days or months, not compatible lifestyle, different social status, different upbringing , not similar future outlook.

From last two weeks, if she throws insult I laugh it off , if she thow things I just pick it up and move on , if she throws tantrums, i concur to what she does.

She does have actual feelings for me not dobut about that.

If she wanted to break up and live me , ngl i would be relieved that she left me . I have issue with stuck to past if I made some decisions.

IDK why , she said breakup but then patch up next day earlier few times.

Now a days she everyday says she won't going to marry me , I still laughing it off

Fear of unknown or chaotic relationship??

I 32M in relationship with 30F for 3.5 years in which 1.5 years we are living together.

This was chatiotc relationship for both us , in this relationship we had fight in first week for relationship and major breakup- patchup event on the 5th month of relationship.

After that, we breakup-Patch up 4 times our relationship, last one happened this year Feb month.

We fight eachother regularly on day to day basis , once a week we go full on world war with crying/regretting our decision.

But we are neither breakup nor able to live together peacefully.

For me , it's emotional attachment and fear or unknown that's making me still clingy to this relationship.

Two weeks back, we had a similar fight-arugements , where she threw the her phone away on the date (not happen first time) and i knew that would happen , so i should have kept quiet. So I did from that day onwards, i keeping quiet taking everything to my not arguing, just giving her what's she wants to hear. Any arguments, I just concur to hers and we stopped having fights for now.

I don't know how long this will countinue but I do get after thoughts about marriage.

We can be together like this for another 40 years , would that be called successful marriage??

Why do you think I still want to marry , it's fear of unknown , we don't have anything needed in relationship apart from trust. No comunication, not sex for days or months, not compatible lifestyle, different social status, different upbringing , not similar future outlook.

I 32M in relationship with 30F for 3.5 years in which 1.5 years we are living together.

This was chatiotc relationship for both us , in this relationship we had fight in first week for relationship and major breakup- patchup event on the 5th month of relationship.

After that, we breakup-Patch up 4 times our relationship, last one happened this year Feb month.

We fight eachother regularly on day to day basis , once a week we go full on world war with crying/regretting our decision.

But we are neither breakup nor able to live together peacefully.

For me , it's emotional attachment and fear or unknown that's making me still clingy to this relationship.

Two weeks back, we had a similar fight-arugements , where she threw the her phone away on the date (not happen first time) and i knew that would happen , so i should have kept quiet. So I did from that day onwards, i keeping quiet taking everything to my not arguing, just giving her what's she wants to hear. Any arguments, I just concur to hers and we stopped having fights for now.

I don't know how long this will countinue but I do get after thoughts about marriage.

We can be together like this for another 40 years , would that be called successful marriage??

Why do you think I still want to marry , it's fear of unknown , we don't have anything needed in relationship apart from trust. No comunication, not sex for days or months, not compatible lifestyle, different social status, different upbringing , not similar future outlook.

Women redditor in AIM sub are complaining men do not know how to have sex but thinks it's enough for women to just lie down and spread legs.

Basically wants men to get a master in Kamasutra but women can get away playing dead.

Women are doing the basic act of lying down and spreading legs is enough for men??

For me it's not as I don't support necrophilia with someone alive/s

When i post this in AIM people get confused about the questions :

This is yes or no questions

So yes it is enough

Or no it's not enough

It's kind of like an opinion poll

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Women redditor in this sub are complaining men do not know how to have sex but thinks it's enough for women to just lie down and spread legs.

Basically wants men to get a master in Kamasutra but women can get away playing dead.

Women are doing the basic act of lying down and spreading legs is enough for men??

For me it's not as I don't support necrophilia with someone alive/s

Edit 1: this is yes or no questions So yes it is enough Or no it's not enough It's kind of like an opinion poll

This sub has become epitome of generalization of men by women. Why is it easier for women to post emotional rants here than it is for men to post genuine questions?

It's feels like safe space for indian women than Indian Men

Hi , 32 M have been livin' in with 31F for the past 1.5 years.

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For the last 1 year,we have fought every other day and usually there's an allout war on weekends.

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But both my parents and her parents are forcing us to get married, and do the bare minimum part of the relationship.

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So let's say if we are married but divorce after 1-2 years.

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How much money she could ask from me ??

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Current Facts will continue in case married:

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I earn six times of her salary ,her job is completely remote but I need to travel to my office 3 days a week which takes 2 hour journey both sides.(She wants to live in a specific area of the city)

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We split rent and groceries which is half of her salaries but rest is paid by me.

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I took her for outings each week which cost me around half of her salary.

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I do most of the cooking and cleaning in household around 70%.

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We are not going to live with any parents or with inlaws, but we need to go each other parents once a year.

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Our marriage is going to SMA not fancy weeding and no gifts or dowry.

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I shifted to her city past 1.5 years back , took a hit to my compensation around 30%.

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Does the court look at any sacrifice which i made in the relationship and will be making in the marriage?

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Or i would be more of a burden as I am the one who is supporting her lifestyle.

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Can I do anything to prove, she is self sufficient in case of divorce??

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divorce is not certain and would not happen I'm just thinking about what if it happens, we are fighting for three years but we survived for three years also.

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PS : needed legal advice but not any relationship advice.

Thanks 🙏

Hi , 32 M have been livin' in with 31F for the past 1.5 years.

For the last 1 year,we have fought every other day and usually there's an allout war on weekends.

But both my parents and her parents are forcing us to get married, and do the bare minimum part of the relationship.

So let's say if we are married but divorce after 1-2 years.

How much money she could ask from me ??

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Current Facts will continue in case married:

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I earn six times of her salary ,her job is completely remote but I need to travel to my office 3 days a week which takes 2 hour journey both sides.(She wants to live in a specific area of the city)

We split rent and groceries which is half of her salaries but rest is paid by me.

I took her for outings each week which cost me around half of her salary.

I do most of the cooking and cleaning in household around 70%.

We are not going to live with any parents or with inlaws, but we need to go each other parents once a year.

Our marriage is going to SMA not fancy weeding and no gifts or dowry.

I shifted to her city past 1.5 years back , took a hit to my compensation around 30%.

​

Does the court look at any sacrifice which i made in the relationship and will be making in the marriage?

Or i would be more of a burden as I am the one who is supporting her lifestyle.

Can I do anything to prove, she is self sufficient in case of divorce??

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Hi 31,

In our 3 years of relationship, my girlfriend called me a man-child multiple times, how can I confirm if I'm one ??

For the context, I do cooking, cleaning, laundry and maintaining household , lived alone for 7 years before moving in with my girlfriend.

For example:

Today we had a huge fight , it started because I didn't make coffee for her , which i usually do.

Because there was no coffee. While the coffee powder was getting delivered, I made my tea Told her the same but she accused me that I didn't make it because of our fight and if I'm not going to make it i should have said it first. But I would have made her coffee once I finished my tea