And does it affect your supply?
I have a terrible headache and I have a 7 day old. We’ve had To supplement with formula until my milk came in but now that it’s in, I’m thinking of giving him 2 bottles of formula overnight so I can sleep And fix my headache.
Is this a terrible idea? Typically I would nurse and then offer the bottle.
I’m one week post partum with my second. First one is 3 and deeply attached to me and struggling with adjustment. Nothing unexpected I would say.
Dad has been completely checked out the past 2 days. I still do toddler bedtime, breastfeed the second and do mornings with my toddler. My mom is here helping and handles other toddler things during the day. Dad does 3-4 hours of childcare in the day and one 2-3 hour night shift. That is all. He’s on leave this week and next. And he fights with me every time I ask him to do anything and the second he sees I’m free will hand off whatever kid he has.
I was in the ER 2 days ago cos of what my doctor thinks is just exhaustion. And I have a headache 24x7. I know they say not to make marriage decisions in the first year, but some become so obvious? For context he didn’t show up to a single prenatal appointment until 38 weeks. And the entire pregnancy I worked full time and managed my toddler entirely.
I have a 2 day old and he seems to want to never stop nursing! Like we’ve been nursing for 90min straight, he’s fallen asleep while sucking and if I try to pull away he screams and cries for boob.
No other comfort method is working. Is this cluster feeding? When will he stop and give me a break, both my nipples hurt.
It’s been like this pretty much every feeding session today though the other sessions were interrupted cos we were still in the hospital or by my older one( who was not bf).
39week induction tomorrow night. I have an almost 3 year old at home and she’s my heart, and my soul. Husband and I have had a rocky relationship and he’s not been pulling his weight during my pregnancy. So it’s basically just been her and me for the past few months and we’ve gotten really close.
Outside of my work hours and her daycare, we spend the rest of our time all week together. And I love the wonderful person she’s turned into. The idea that I now have to dedicate my time to a second baby, and miss out on time with her is just killing me. I’m going to miss her soooo much! Tell me it’s going to be ok. Can I somehow keep our bond intact? I know she senses it too because at bedtime she’s started saying things like, mama please give me attention even once the baby is here, and can dad have the baby while I get you.
How do I be a mom to 2?
I’m scheduled for a 39week induction later this week. This is my second GDM pregnancy and my last induction was fine, so I’m not particularly stressed.
I’m looking forward to eating a bit more normally post partum. My first meal is going to be a burger with fries and a large slice of chocolate cake. I’m Asian and haven’t eaten rice in 6 months, so just eating home cooked rice based meals sound heavenly!
This is more future thinking. I have a 3 year old and am going to have a second. Career is going alright and I can see if I keep this pace I could grow to VP or similar in the coming years. But the pace! Feels unsustainable with a family.
Curious has anyone managed to have some semblance of WLB while they grow? What has helped, what does your day / week look like? Spending time with my kids also matters to me, should I thinking of slowing down for a while?
Just wondering if you’ve ever thrown a party for your kid where no one or almost no one showed up?
Growing up in Asia, which is such a community first society, this was never a concern. I’ve been talking to my almost 3 year old about her birthday and I was so shocked when she asked me - but what if no one comes? I didn’t think that fear came in us until we were older and had been through a few rejections.
I’m hoping I have made enough mom friends to give her a good party, and maybe still have control on this. But as they get older it’s more on them than us- how did you and your LOs cope?
I have a soon to be 3 year old and I used to think I had parenting down, and understand my kid well. Apparently not anymore.
Anything I ask her to do she will intentionally not do. Anything she wants, say a toy or a book from shelves she can reach, she will insist I must get it and throw a tantrum.
Talking to her nicely and explaining doesn’t work. Tough love doesn’t work. Gamifying it works sometimes. I’m just exhausted. Any tricks I am missing?
Second time mom, I have anatomy scans every 4 weeks due to high risk pregnancy and this one was so uncomfortable I nearly fainted.
I was asked to lay flat on my back with my legs straight the entire time. I told the tech I can’t, it hurts and she said then I can’t scan you. She then proceeded to also tilt me a bit so my head was towards the floor; this was just for a couple of minutes though. The rest of the scan I was in pain, but eventually I started feeling shortness of breath and my heart racing and I had to ask her to stop. I then passed out for maybe a second until the tech turned me to my side and proceeded with the scan.
I’m just wondering - couldn’t the tech have kept me on my side or a bit upright for most of it and kept me flat for maybe just the parts that she needed to scan all the way at the bottom? My 28 week scan I had a much more understanding person who worked with me. I thought women don’t sleep on my their backs after 28 weeks for a reason.
I’m worried of a repeat at 36 weeks.
I’m certain I need to leave. The thing that’s holding me back is my kids - a baby and a toddler. Husband and I both work full time and make about the same, and on paper, we’re both going to look like equally good parents.
The reality though is that I’m the default parent and my husband is emotionally volatile and often self medicates with legal recreational drugs to cope. There’s no physical abuse or anything I can document, it’s all emotional.
We live in a 50-50 state which feels so unfair because while we’re together, I’m the parent 80% of the time and he’s 20. So when we separate, I basically lose time with my kids. A lot of time. Has anyone gone through this and am I thinking about custody wrong?
I don’t want to make this a rant post about my husband, but he’s never stepped up on Mother’s Day, and this time relationship is rock bottom so I expect nothing.
But I love being a mom to my nearly 3 year old and am pregnant with my second. Ideas on what I can do to honor myself on Mother’s Day? I’d like to take myself out, possibly with my toddler, and also buy myself something nice.
I’m not sure I want to do a classic brunch, I’ll overthink it if my husband doesn’t show up, and he may not.
I’m 32 weeks, I work full time and have a 2 year old at home. Lately I’ve been sooo tired it’s been a struggle to feed myself. This week we already got take out so often and I’m worried I’m harming the baby with all the unhealthy food I’m eating ( even if I’m managing to mostly be in range).
Any 10min go to meals and snacks you all have? At this point it’s not even cravings, I just want to eat.
Looking for motivation and success stories and specifically from working moms cos you all understand the struggle with prioritizing yourself and making time for it all!
What worked for you? What sustained lifestyle changes did you make, and how did it show up in your numbers?
I’ve had GD since 14 weeks and have been on night time insulin with stable fasting numbers and diet controlled for meals.
I’ve been fairly reasonable with my diet, haven’t overly restricted but focused more on pairing proteins and fats with carbs and honestly had sort of lost my appetite and cravings so far, which really helped!
Idk what’s up this week but I’m hungry all the time. Like I just ate my lunch ( chicken and tortillas with veggies and yogurt) and hour back and I wasn’t satiated then and I’m not full now! I’m worried if I eat more, I’ll exceed my carb quota and start spiking. Anyone else experience a sudden change in their appetite? What helped?
My almost 3 year old is able to hold pee and go in the potty comfortably as long as she’s bare bottomed. We’re nearly there with poop too, just a bit more reluctance.
The problem I’m having is if she’s in a diaper or underwear, she won’t even attempt to use the potty. Can we go out for short durations with an underwear on? Do you prompt them to pee before leaving? Or get her used to underwear before attempting that?
She already spends daytime in daycare in a pull up and I want to maximize pull up free time outside of that.
Also same question for sleep.