Really happy to see CJ Abrams and James Wood get the All-Star nod. Both have absolutely earned it and it’s exciting to see the Nationals finally getting some well-deserved recognition.
🤞Foster Griffin gets in, too.
I’m trying to figure out what’s reasonable for summer bedtime/screen expectations with my almost 15-year-old.
I know this is going to vary a lot by family, and I’m not really looking for “just take all screens away” advice. I understand why some families have strict screen rules, but that’s not where we are right now. I’m more trying to balance letting him have a normal teen summer with the reality that he does not reliably stop on his own.
Last night he was on the phone with friends until almost 3am. He didn’t have much he had to do today other than a lesson/practice with his private instructor, so I was able to let it go more than I would on a busier day. But he was pretty gassed throughout that, which was frustrating because it’s something he cares about and benefits from. It’s summer, so I don’t expect him to be in bed early every night, but I also don’t want the late nights to spill over into the things he actually needs and wants to do.
Tonight, he was playing video games with a friend and around 9pm I told him he needed to come upstairs by 11:30. I’ve explained many times that a hard stop means planning ahead. If the stop time is 11:30, don’t start something new at 11:20. I also text reminders so it’s not like the time comes out of nowhere.
But almost every time, he’s “in the middle of something” or “just needs to do one more thing.” Then I’m the bad guy for enforcing the limit we already agreed on.
He says his friends stay up until 2am every night during the summer and that we’re not letting him just be a teenager. I believe him. I know a lot of kids have much looser summer nights and no responsibilities during the day. He also gets embarrassed because, from what he says, their parents don’t really monitor them or enforce screen/bedtime boundaries the same way we do. So when we step in, he feels like he’s being treated like a little kid, even though from my perspective, the issue is that he hasn’t shown he can consistently stop on his own yet.
The part I’m struggling with is that this isn’t just a teenager wanting to stay up late issue. It’s the ADHD time blindness and difficulty stopping that make it so hard. He loses track of time completely, and transitions away from screens are a battle even when the expectation was made clear hours earlier.
I think the bigger issue is the executive functioning piece. He’ll agree to a stop time because he wants to be allowed to play video games or talk to friends, but when that time actually comes, he can’t seem to make himself stop. So it turns into this same pattern every time: he agrees, I remind him, he says he knows, and then he blows past it anyway because he’s “almost done” or “in the middle of something.” I’m trying to help him learn that managing your time means planning around the hard stop, not waiting until the hard stop and then trying to negotiate more time.
The reason I stay up is because if I go to bed, there’s a very good chance he’ll still be on his phone or Playstation hours later. We’ve tried the “I trust you to get off at the agreed-upon time” approach many times, and it almost never works. Sometimes he does make a better choice, but not consistently enough for me to count on it. I’m kind of a night owl, but not as late as he wants to stay up.
He also still has responsibilities this summer. He plays a team sport, has practices and games, and he’s a CIT at a day camp for several weeks. Starting Monday he has an important week-long clinic for the sport he plays at the high school he’ll be attending in August, run by the head coach and assistant coaches, so being exhausted all week isn’t really an option.
Another tricky part is that he doesn’t always feel the effects the very next day. He can run on adrenaline and seem mostly fine, so then it feels to him like we were overreacting. But then the crash seems to hit a day later, almost like a hangover effect. By that point, it’s harder for him to connect it back to staying up too late.
Ultimately, my goal isn’t to control his bedtime forever. I know I’m not always going to have influence over what time he goes to bed, and I don’t want this to just be about me forcing him off screens. I’m trying to help him learn how to moderate himself and build better habits now, so that when he is totally in charge of himself, he has some ability to manage his time and not just run himself into the ground.
When he doesn’t get off by the hard stop, I end up having to turn it off for him. I hate that. I don’t want to be monitoring him like he’s a little kid, but I also don’t think “it’s summer” means he can ignore the time we agreed on and stay up as late as he wants every night.
For those of you with ADHD teens, how do you handle this? Do you have different rules for nights with responsibilities the next day vs. totally open days? And how do you enforce it without every night turning into a fight?
I’m trying to figure out what’s reasonable for summer bedtime/screen expectations with my almost 15-year-old.
I know this is going to vary a lot by family, and I’m not really looking for “just take all screens away” advice. I understand why some families have strict screen rules, but that’s not where we are right now. I’m more trying to balance letting him have a normal teen summer with the reality that he does not reliably stop on his own.
Last night he was on the phone with friends until almost 3am. He didn’t have much he had to do today other than a lesson/practice with his private instructor, so I was able to let it go more than I would on a busier day. But he was pretty gassed throughout that, which was frustrating because it’s something he cares about and benefits from. It’s summer, so I don’t expect him to be in bed early every night, but I also don’t want the late nights to spill over into the things he actually needs and wants to do.
Tonight, he was playing video games with a friend and around 9pm I told him he needed to come upstairs by 11:30. I’ve explained many times that a hard stop means planning ahead. If the stop time is 11:30, don’t start something new at 11:20. I also text reminders so it’s not like the time comes out of nowhere.
But almost every time, he’s “in the middle of something” or “just needs to do one more thing.” Then I’m the bad guy for enforcing the limit we already agreed on.
He says his friends stay up until 2am every night during the summer and that we’re not letting him just be a teenager. I believe him. I know a lot of kids have much looser summer nights and no responsibilities during the day. He also gets embarrassed because, from what he says, their parents don’t really monitor them or enforce screen/bedtime boundaries the same way we do. So when we step in, he feels like he’s being treated like a little kid, even though from my perspective, the issue is that he hasn’t shown he can consistently stop on his own yet.
The part I’m struggling with is that this isn’t just a teenager wanting to stay up late issue. It’s the ADHD time blindness and difficulty stopping that make it so hard. He loses track of time completely, and transitions away from screens are a battle even when the expectation was made clear hours earlier.
I think the bigger issue is the executive functioning piece. He’ll agree to a stop time because he wants to be allowed to play video games or talk to friends, but when that time actually comes, he can’t seem to make himself stop. So it turns into this same pattern every time: he agrees, I remind him, he says he knows, and then he blows past it anyway because he’s “almost done” or “in the middle of something.” I’m trying to help him learn that managing your time means planning around the hard stop, not waiting until the hard stop and then trying to negotiate more time.
The reason I stay up is because if I go to bed, there’s a very good chance he’ll still be on his phone or Playstation hours later. We’ve tried the “I trust you to get off at the agreed-upon time” approach many times, and it almost never works. Sometimes he does make a better choice, but not consistently enough for me to count on it. I’m kind of a night owl, but not as late as he wants to stay up.
He also still has responsibilities this summer. He plays a team sport, has practices and games, and he’s a CIT at a day camp for several weeks. Starting Monday he has an important week-long clinic for the sport he plays at the high school he’ll be attending in August, run by the head coach and assistant coaches, so being exhausted all week isn’t really an option.
Another tricky part is that he doesn’t always feel the effects the very next day. He can run on adrenaline and seem mostly fine, so then it feels to him like we were overreacting. But then the crash seems to hit a day later, almost like a hangover effect. By that point, it’s harder for him to connect it back to staying up too late.
Ultimately, my goal isn’t to control his bedtime forever. I know I’m not always going to have influence over what time he goes to bed, and I don’t want this to just be about me forcing him off screens. I’m trying to help him learn how to moderate himself and build better habits now, so that when he is totally in charge of himself, he has some ability to manage his time and not just run himself into the ground.
When he doesn’t get off by the hard stop, I end up having to turn it off for him. I hate that. I don’t want to be monitoring him like he’s a little kid, but I also don’t think “it’s summer” means he can ignore the time we agreed on and stay up as late as he wants every night.
For those of you with ADHD teens, how do you handle this? Do you have different rules for nights with responsibilities the next day vs. totally open days? And how do you enforce it without every night turning into a fight?
If you ever read through other teams’ game threads or the game threads on r/MLB, “gNats” gets thrown around a lot.
I’ve never really understood why it’s supposed to be insulting. Gnats are annoying as hell, persistent, and hard to get rid of.
Are we supposed to dislike it?
I'm wondering if anyone has been through something similar.
I've been in IBD remission for 6 years on Remicade (10 mg/kg every 6 weeks). I've been doing great until the last few months.
I started Wegovy at the beginning of February and have stayed on the lowest dose (0.25 mg) because it's been working, so there was never a reason to increase it.
After starting Wegovy, I started dealing with constipation, but I had been constipated for a long time before that and just lived with it. I even had some blood in my stool, but I assumed it was from straining. Then over the last month or so, it completely flipped. I've had diarrhea, increasing urgency, and I can't even pass gas without sitting on the toilet because liquid comes out. The urgency has gotten progressively worse over the past few weeks.
I had my Remicade infusion on Tuesday, and this week is actually the first time my stools have been more formed again (still soft), but the urgency hasn't improved.
I saw my GI this week and she knows everything that's been going on. She scheduled a colonoscopy for next month. My bloodwork was normal except for a borderline Remicade trough level. She didn't specifically tell me to stop Wegovy, but we also didn't really discuss whether it could be causing or contributing to the symptoms.
I'm just curious if anyone else has had Wegovy or another GLP-1 make it seem like they were flaring. Did it end up being the medication, an actual flare, or both?
I'm also due for my Wegovy shot today and I'm going away for the weekend, so I'm debating whether to delay one dose since I'm worried about being somewhere with limited bathroom access. I know nobody can tell me what to do medically—I just want to hear from people who've been in a similar situation.
I'm wondering if anyone has been through something similar.
I've been in remission for 6 years on Remicade (10 mg/kg every 6 weeks). I've been doing great until the last few months.
I started Wegovy at the beginning of February and have stayed on the lowest dose (0.25 mg) because it's been working, so there was never a reason to increase it.
After starting Wegovy, I started dealing with constipation, but I had been constipated for a long time before that and just lived with it. I even had some blood in my stool, but I assumed it was from straining. Then over the last month or so, it completely flipped. I've had diarrhea, increasing urgency, and I can't even pass gas without sitting on the toilet because liquid comes out. The urgency has gotten progressively worse over the past few weeks.
I had my Remicade infusion on Tuesday, and this week is actually the first time my stools have been more formed again (still soft), but the urgency hasn't improved.
I saw my GI this week and she knows everything that's been going on. She scheduled a colonoscopy for next month. My bloodwork was normal except for a borderline Remicade trough level. She didn't specifically tell me to stop Wegovy, but we also didn't really discuss whether it could be causing or contributing to the symptoms.
I'm just curious if anyone else has had Wegovy or another GLP-1 make it seem like they were flaring. Did it end up being the medication, an actual flare, or both?
I'm also due for my Wegovy shot today and I'm going away for the weekend, so I'm debating whether to delay one dose since I'm worried about being somewhere with limited bathroom access. I know nobody can tell me what to do medically—I just want to hear from people who've been in a similar situation.
I could really use some advice on how to get through to my husband about this.
Our son is almost 15, has combined-type ADHD, and is medicated. Like a lot of kids with ADHD, he struggles with task initiation, finishing non-preferred tasks, and transitioning away from things he enjoys.
For years we’ve had pretty simple expectations: put your dishes in the dishwasher, clean up after yourself, put things away when you’re done using them, keep track of what you need for activities, etc. Nothing extreme—just basic life skills that I think a teenager should be learning.
The problem is that my husband is very Type A and gets uncomfortable when things aren’t done immediately or to his standards. Instead of letting our son be responsible, he’ll jump in and do things for him.
For example, if our son leaves dishes in the sink, I’ll leave them there and have him come back and put them in the dishwasher. If my husband sees them first, he’ll just put them away himself because the dishes sitting there bother him.
The same thing happens with sports. My son’s coaches communicate directly with the players through a group chat and tell them what uniform to wear for games. The other day I asked my son what uniform he needed. Before he could answer, my husband answered for him and then told me he’d already laid everything out on our son’s bed. Meanwhile our son was sitting on the couch watching TV.
If there’s a mess on the table, my husband cleans it up. If our son forgets something, my husband often jumps in before our son even has a chance to realize it or solve the problem himself.
I’ve had so many conversations with my husband about how important it is for our son to learn these skills and experience natural consequences. I understand that it’s frustrating to wait and that it can be uncomfortable to watch things not get done. But our son is almost 15, and I worry that my husband’s anxiety about things being done “right” or “on time” is preventing our son from developing independence.
I have ADHD myself, so I genuinely understand how hard non-preferred tasks can be. I’m not expecting perfection. I just feel like I can see the bigger picture, while my husband is focused on relieving his own discomfort in the moment.
Has anyone dealt with a similar dynamic? How did you help the other parent step back and let their child take more responsibility even though it causes personal discomfort?
I need to vent to people who get it.
My 8th grader has ADHD, dysgraphia, slow processing speed, low working memory, and executive functioning needs. He had updated neuropsych testing in the fall and now has an IEP. Before that, he had a 504, so none of this is new.
He has a long-term research project right now with a lot of moving parts — research notes, primary vs. secondary sources, thesis statement, evidence, explanations, and final slides. One of his accommodations is having access to models/exemplars to help him understand expectations and plan for completion.
He was struggling to see how all the pieces fit together, so I asked the teacher if she could provide a sample project or model based on a different topic. This is actually listed on his IEP as a supplementary aid/service (the time interval is noted as “periodically”), so I didn’t think it was an unreasonable request. Her initial response was basically that examples were shown in class, he had time to ask questions, and he “wanted to be done” instead of going back into his sources. She did end up sending me an example afterward, which I appreciated, but the response itself was still frustrating.
And I’m just so tired of everything being framed as a choice or character flaw.
Seeing an example briefly in class is not the same as having a copy to refer back to, especially for a kid with slow processing speed and low working memory. “He wanted to be done” might be what it looks like on the outside, but it can also mean he’s overwhelmed, doesn’t know how to re-enter the task, can’t hold all the steps in his head, or doesn’t know what he’s even looking for.
This has been an issue with this teacher all year. Even before he had the IEP, when he was still on a 504, she made comments about him refusing to try, using accommodations as an excuse, taking breaks too often, and possibly not really needing certain supports. Then his formal IEP progress report from the same class said he was making sufficient progress and completing academic tasks with minimal support.
So which is it?
The most frustrating part is that he does not have this issue in every class. He can complete work in classes where directions are clear and he gets the scaffolds he’s supposed to receive. So when one class is the constant problem, I have a hard time accepting that the issue is just my kid not caring.
I’m a teacher myself, and I cannot imagine deciding that I know a student better than his parents, his doctors, and a full neuropsych report. Supports are not rewards. They are not crutches. They are supposed to help students access the work.
We only have a few weeks left with this teacher, so I’m trying to just get him through the project and move on. But I’m so frustrated watching disability-related needs get treated like laziness or avoidance, especially when the exact thing he’s struggling with is the reason the accommodation exists.
I think there are two separate points getting mixed together with the Ciara/West/Amanda situation.
First, West does not even deserve enough importance in Ciara’s life for this to be framed like Amanda “got with her ex.” I understand that perception is reality, and Ciara clearly felt like her relationship with West was meaningful and important to both of them. He embarrassed her publicly, then she generously gave their friendship another chance last summer. From what we saw/heard, it ended with a few kisses and some sleepovers. That doesn’t make him some great lost love. It makes him someone who already showed he couldn’t be trusted and who never seemed to value the relationship the way Ciara did.
Second, the real issue is Amanda. She got involved with West, lied about it, knew how much hurt it would cause, and then didn’t seem genuinely sorry. That’s the part that makes it a real friendship betrayal.
Speaking of “exes,” Amanda is Kyle’s actual ex. Not a situationship, not a few sleepovers, but a real marriage and a real life together. Kyle and West were clearly friends and part of the same circle, which makes it even messier. Amanda knew exactly how intertwined all these relationships were, and she still seemed to have very little concern for the hurt, confusion, or fallout this would cause Kyle or Ciara.
Amanda knowingly made the choice to hurt two of the closest people in her life just to “explore where this goes.” That is what makes it so selfish and calculated.
Amanda has been shown on camera saying she’d do anything for Ciara, that Ciara is the best, etc. Ciara has supported Amanda, stood up for her, consoled her, lifted her up, and been the kind of true friend Amanda needed. That is why this is the actual betrayal.
West sitting there on that couch while two women are essentially fighting over him feeds his twisted ego. That’s why I wish Ciara would stop focusing on the West part of it and referring to him as her ex, if only to stop giving him that satisfaction.
To me, all of the anger should be pointed at Amanda. West already proved he was selfish, immature, and willing to embarrass Ciara publicly. Amanda, however, absolutely owed Ciara honesty and respect. That is what friendship requires. It hurts more when betrayal comes from the person who claimed to love and support you, especially after Ciara consistently showed up for Amanda, while Amanda clearly only pretended to care about Ciara (or anyone besides herself, really).
Everyone involved needs to stop giving West any satisfaction that makes him think he is worth fighting over.
My son is a teen athlete with ADHD and anxiety, and I’m wondering if anyone else has been through something similar.
He plays at the travel/club level. There really aren’t rec options for his sport in our area, but he’s also better than a rec-level player anyway. He has played since he was little, he loves it, and he is good at it.
The hard part is that he’s definitely less mature than a lot of his teammates, and I think coaches and players can sense that. He isn’t one of those super intense “dog” type kids. He’s more sensitive, gets in his head, and struggles with confidence. I feel like once people see that side of him, they start treating him like he’s fragile, even though he’s capable.
It has become this cycle we’ve seen over and over. He starts struggling with something, his confidence drops, then he plays more cautiously or overthinks, which makes the struggle worse. Then coaches lose confidence, he loses playing time, and it becomes even harder for him to get out of that role.
We have tried so many things. Therapy has been really hard because he is resistant, and more than one therapist has ended services because he just would not engage. We tried a mentor athlete, and he responded a little better, but still didn’t really apply what they talked about. He works with private instructors and looks great in lessons, but it doesn’t transfer to games. He is already on meds for ADHD and anxiety. We have tried talking about it, and we have tried backing off and not talking about it.
It’s painful because he truly loves the sport and wants to keep playing. We’re not trying to push him into something he doesn’t want. We’re just trying to figure out how to support him when the issue isn’t really ability. It’s confidence, maturity, pressure, and getting what he can do in practice to show up in games.
For parents of ADHD teens in competitive sports, did your child eventually grow into more confidence and maturity? Did anything actually help with the practice-to-game transfer? Or did you have to adjust what sports looked like for them as they got older?
I really don’t want to lose any of our position players at the deadline.
I know we need pitching, and catching is obviously a problem too, but I’m getting attached to this group. It finally feels like there are some pieces worth watching, and the chemistry seems like it’s starting to build. I’d hate to see them start moving guys before we even know what this lineup can become.
Is there any realistic chance nobody gets traded? Or is that just wishful thinking if we’re out of it by July?
We had a tournament today, and both games only let me start the stream if I shared it with the opponent. I couldn’t find any setting to change it, and I didn’t even see the usual option to choose whether to share or not.
I don’t mind sharing when teams ask, but neither team asked, and this has never happened before. Is this new?