u/Pristine-Trainer8431

Long story short, there was this boy I was crazy about in high school. I was crazy for this person I hardly knew. I didn’t really know the person he was, just what I wanted him to be. So for the three years (2010-2012, he was a grade below me) that we were in high school together I was crazy about him. We both played trumpet so were involved in a lot of extracurricular things at school because of it, so I was around him a lot. He dated other girls, he friend zoned me, but I was crazy for him the whole time. This caused anxiety and stress that I couldn’t eat at times because I felt so sick to my stomach I couldn’t eat. I left for college, and tried to contact him one time when I would be home for the weekend and he ignored my many calls. After that I stopped trying. We messaged one time on Facebook in like 2013, saw him at Costco in 2023 (we didn’t talk or even make eye contact but we both clearly saw each other), but have basically had nothing to do with him since I graduated high school in 2012. I hadn’t thought of him for a long time or just here and there, but this last year I find myself thinking of him more frequently and I can’t stop thinking of him. I would snoop on social media here and there to find anything of him and did find a profile of someone he married, and they got divorced shortly after. So being a stalker I guess you could say. I find myself crying sometimes when I am thinking of him because I just miss him and want him. I’ve been married 10 years now and have 4 kids, so I can’t understand why lately he’s been in my head so much. I don’t know if it’s as simple or that, or if it’s connected to the information I haven’t shared of when I had a seizure on his shoulder in band one time, because I had a brain tumor. So is this a connection to my traumatic brain injury and things coming back (like say another tumor) or am I just missing a stranger from my past?

Will be traveling to Myrtle beach with little kids and a 1 year old being one of those. I’ve been to the beach before but not Myrtle beach and not with kids, what all do I need? What’s it like there and how much sun protection should I take as in swim suit wise, just other items and things needed when walking about? Thanks!

Anyone found legit ways to make money at home? Just some extra money you can earn at your own pace? Thanks!

So I could use some advice on what you would do here. My husband loves dogs, I’m not the biggest fan. We’ve always had a dog, but our last one died almost two years ago. Last March someone was getting rid of a six month old kelpie. It basically had no training. I told him we are too busy for a dog. (4 kids, one of them being a baby at the time). I said I didn’t feel it was a good idea but he asked me to be patient and give it time. So he’s over a year old now, and yes he’s naughty like expected. He digs holes, chews on stuff, would chase cars. So we got a shock perimeter collar, and that’s when digging holes and chewing on hoses started. He’s bored. He’s a herding dog. I think he deserves a better quality of life, but my husband wants to keep him. We have worked on training him somewhat, but we don’t have enough time to commit to him. My husband is only ever around the dog in the evening and we just bring him inside. I want to get rid of him. Or should I just be more patient and give him time? Or does he just need to go? Thanks for your input.

I just need to vent and get it all out. I’m a homeschooling mom of four (7,5,3,1). My husband works extended hours and so we see him in the morning, and sometimes the kids are awake when he gets home, but often he is home much later. So I’m solo parenting 85% of the time. My parents live about 4 miles from us. I also have narcolepsy, so my own personal struggles are drastically affected by severe exhaustion and sleep deprivation. This makes it difficult to think clearly, control my emotions, and function as a normal human being with a battery running at 45% that only recharges to about 60% I would guess. Anyway! I know life is tough for us moms and having a village or help is so beneficial, and sometimes crucial for our own well being. I’m frustrated that my husband isn’t home often. I’m frustrated I can’t express these things to him where he will show compassion. (He provides well for our family and we have food on the table and a roof over our head, and he works hard). I’m frustrated my mom doesn’t reach out. Maybe part of that is I could too? I don’t want to ask her to take my kids. She used to take them for an afternoon here and there and spend time with her grandkids, but also give me a break. But she stopped doing that, and replaced it with other things with her gal pals. I don’t ever ask her when she can take them, I just left that in her control because she has her own life. But I’m frustrated that she spends less and less time with them, and volunteers at a thrift store with her friends, can’t babysit while I go to my doctor appointment because she’s doing something with a friend. Does a mentorship thing on Thursday’s now, but can’t give her time to me. I’m in the thick of it right now with this season of life (as are most of you here too) and I just have no one. I’m a solo parent, I have a chronic condition that causes severe exhaustion, and I don’t have my mom’s support. I have to bear the stress, chaos, anger, tiredness, complacency and struggles alone. Don’t get me wrong my husband is such a good father to his kids, but he’s just working a lot. Thanks for reading if you did!

So who here is paying off those lovely student loans?! Where are you in life now? Are you working with your degree, or are you like me and a stay at home mom now? I went to college intending to get my degree in nursing, things fell through and I studied communications. I worked for a few years after college at a hearing aid office, and now stay home with my kids! Good old college debt!! Where are you in life now?