u/Professional-Bad9070

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Hello. I would like to first count my gratitude by saying my first two quarters of college actually went pretty decent. I ended up getting pretty good grades (lowest was a B+), even with my mental health.

This one, not so much.

I am currently on my 3rd and final quarter of my first academic year as a Robotics Engineering student. I unfortunately didn't take care of myself this year, and I am now paying for it.

For context, I didn't want to go to a four-year university out of the gate because I felt that I didn't really know what I wanted to be yet. Despite doing quite well in high school, I loathed every day of it and hated going. I was already burnt out from all the college talk and constant academic race, so gearing up for a four year wasn't exactly my choice. I was still experiencing some symptoms of depression from my senior year, I was upset every day. On top of that, my family cannot afford to move me out to my school, so I ended up commuting about 5 times a week, every day, 140 mile round trip. On top of that, I balanced a part-time job back at home.

My first two quarters, I was terribly busy. Adjusting to college, holding a job, studying enough to get good grades, commutting, and balancing a family life (my parents are extremely family-oriented people) was a ton. I didn't socialize enough because I generally have a hard time with that and end up resenting people in general at the end of it, and I have never, for whatever reason, been able to hold a hobby. I never liked excersize either, although I've tried countless times to try to go to the gym. These are things I do not blame on others, I see these as problems with myself that I need to fix. Never had time to fix it.

As the days went on, I found myself having a harder and harder time getting out of bed, hitting the books, attempting to socialize, keeping a good face for my folks, and it ended up somewhat crashing at the end of last quarter. Unfortunately, I was sick for the entirety of my spring break and still had to work, so the vacation I planned for myself didn't end up working out.

Fast forward to now, studying all this crap I don't enjoy, not getting out of the house a lot, not holding a hobby, and untreated burnout and depression from the months and months before... came crashing down. Now I can barely force myself to study, and I feel myself getting so terribly frusterated by simplest of tasks. At home, at school, at work. I kind of fucked up, and I think I'll fail a class this quarter. Not fun.

For anyone who feels burnout, I mean this in a gentle way, because so much of advice is more for the status rather than help, please get it treated. Don't avoid therapy, take rest, go to the gym. Because the more you postpone it, the harder its gonna be to get back on top.

Hey everyone. Today is Mother's Day for us Americans. I am not having a great day here. I am currently a university student and loathing every day of it due to high academic stress and constantly studying crap I don't like, and on top of it all, I am feuding with my mother and finding hard to put that aside to have a fun day with her, because I still care about her. How do you guys end up doing it?

Been loving MU330 as I trek through my first year of university. They changed the game for me for what Ska can sound like. Love the message of the song, because it isn't about mosquitos.

Knowing people, I have gathered that the surface-reaction is just "absolutely not, you need your freedom". I hope to get more nuanced answers here.

Hey there. I am currently a first-year Robotics Engineering student at a Californian university. I have been commuting about 140 miles daily since last September, because we ruled out that me living on campus wasn't my greatest choice. Going in, I expected to regret that, and I did, so I am not here to throw a pity party. My understanding was we would find myself new housing closer to my university after this year was up, because doing it mid-year would be inconvenient.

Seems that is still true, however now it is looking like my parents want to buy a house close to my school and entirely relocate there, virtually setting me in a solid home for my entire four years.

For simplicity sake, I will say I do not have the greatest relationship with my mother. I love her, but it is complex.

Should I push back on that, at all? Or should I look at the positives (rent, food, etc).

I am a 19 year old, burnt out Robotics Engineering student at UC Riverside. I want a change of scenery, and I feel it would be nice to work nearby the beach for the summer, and in a community I grew up in.

I am aware that this is kind of an odd request, I'm doing my best not to be naive, and that my idea may not be all its chalked up to be. But I want change and need new experiences instead of hitting the books constantly.

I have multiple years of job experience for my age, but not a ton in the service industry.

Message me if anyone is interested.

I am currently writing this from my bed because I am absolutely exhausted. To give some background:

I am currently a first-year Robotics Engineering student at a local university, and I am about week 6 into my third 11-week quarter, and I can with confidence now say that I am burnt out. I went into this major knowing it scares me and isn't something I'm interested in, but, things are not getting any cheaper and I gotta do something meaningful with my life. But I think this entire process has exhausted me. I commute 5 times a week, 140 miles a day from my parent's house. I am taking classes I don't nessisarily find myself enjoying, and I am holding down a part-time job that I do not like anymore. I was already burned out because of high school, because academics have always been a challenge for me, I wasn't socially endowed, and I was depressed. This is all on-top of some personal depression and familial issues I was working through this entire time. I never addressed it, so I came into college already burnt out with life. And now, after white-knuckling it for months, I think I backed myself into a corner that is very challenging to come out of.

However, I know this: I am human and I have to catch the train still. I have to work hard, like anyone else, so I can do great things. I want to build a life with financial security and peace, so I need to break out of my longtime burnout and depression, because I got at least three more years.

I have already looked at burnout self-help. I notice a lot of them repeat the same things "talk therapy, excersize, meditation." I am in talk therapy, and I don't like doing either of the last ones. I too also recognize that is a flawed mindset, however.

TLDR: My question is, when recovering from burnout as a young person, is there any technique that worked for you, or is it pretty much just getting more excersize? Thank you.

M19. College student. I have been dating someone my parents forbade me from dating for close to a year now. They worried my relationship would go up in flames and put me into a mental health dip. In practice, it has been a very healthy relationship, and they were wrong.

My parents obviously love me, but they have some issues. My mother, specifically, is very proud of me. She views I am doing the right thing with my life, that I am going to school and gave a good job. However, she is chronically emotionally unregulated. She is a chronic worrier and gets excessively nasty and mean if she perceives someone has wronged her. Ranges from leaving the house for hours without telling anyone, backtalk, to being bedbound for days because she is in so much pain. To give some background, **that** is the reason why I have hidden it, because I worried she would hurt herself because she believes her kid is throwing his life away, apparently.

However, the time has come. I need to do it, for my sake, and for theirs. As a parent, how would you want to be disappointed?

I am aware a lot of this is on me. I shouldn't have done this charade for so long. I am not trying to deflect blame, I am just looking on *how* to disappoint my parents, because I know I will at this point. 　

M19, currently a college student studying Robotics Engineering. Life being busy doesn't exactly bother me, but I realizing as I grow older I am slowly becoming unhappier. Simply put, not smart enough to get enjoyment from learning, not dumb enough to disregard stress, not socially endowed enough to cope with friends, too much of a square to drink my sorrows, and too burnt out to pick up a hobby.

As people who are older, what do you do to enjoy life? I am not trying to dive deep into self pity, and I'm looking for change. I'll commit if it helps me.