u/Radiant-Mine6890

27F, I have an 11 week old (almost 3 month old). My family keeps telling me I need professional help for not wanting to leave my baby in other’s care. I EBF, and I gave birth like so little ago (11 weeks in postpartum time is as if I gave birth yesterday).

I keep getting offers for my family to take my baby and I go do things outside, alone or with my husband and honestly this type of badgering is getting really weird and making me feel antsy. Maybe it’s hormones but why do they insist so much on alone time with my very young baby?

And if I tell them to leave me be, they insist I have mental problems and should talk to a professional. I really don’t believe that, I feel fine, I feel more than fine leaving my baby alone with my husband for example while I go shopping or drink coffee or do whatever errands, but people who don’t even remember how to change a diaper but insist on having time alone with her so early give me the heebie jeebies. My mom is most adamant on it.

Am I weird??

Buna!! Bebe de 10 saptamani aici. Doarme DOAR in marsupiu ziua si a inceput sa imi paraie spatele, nu mai pot purta marsupiu pentru fiecare somn, ma ucide coloana.

A mai patit cineva asa? Nici macar intinsa pe mine sau in contact cu mine nu adoarme, doarme DOAR IN MARSUPIU. Orice alta metoda as incerca, incepe sa planga cu urlete.

Noaptea doarme cu brio in patut dar ziua e jale… macar daca ar dormi pe mine, dar nu reuseste

I am so happy. Until now she only had daytime contact naps but today we managed to get our first nap in the bassinet! I am so overjoyed!

My daughter is 9 weeks old and 12 lbs (5.5 kg). I am wearing her almost all day since her day naps are taken only in the baby wrap.

My back hurts like hell, especially my shoulders, shoulderblades and neck. How do I fix/make this better?

EDIT: picture in comments of the fit

My girl is showing signs of rolling over, so today we are retiring the swaddle.

I am so emotional over this, it's killing me. How did time fly? I loved seeing her in her pink swaddle, the love to dream heart logo on her little chest, her hands up like Superman, her little smiles in the swaddle when she saw me in the morning before taking her out, her stretches after escaping the swaddle prison.

As excited as I am to see her grow and do more and more amazing things, I so desperately wish she would stay this small forever. It's like saying goodbye without ever being ready to. There's so much excitement and so much more to come but at the same time I am saying goodbye to some of the sweetest, happiest moments of my life. I know it's stupid I'm crying over putting the swaddle away but it's so much deeper than that

Hi! I have a 9 week old baby that is stellar at sleeping her night sleep in the crib. Goes down at 10 PM, wakes up at 7 AM. Perfect at that.

Right now she only sleeps during the day in the babywearing system (wrap). I would like to help her transition during the day for crib naps. One would suffice. She doesn't sleep in the stroller either, so it's either on me or nothing at all.

Before you give me the theory of babies needing contact naps, I know the theory. I am more than willing to let her sleep on me most of the day. But if you managed to get your baby to accept the crib during the day as well, I am more than open to hearing your tips and tricks! My back is killing me! Thanks!

How do you manage to not resent him? I am 9 weeks PP. I know this is hard on him too. He goes to work 8 hours a day but I feel like he just completely checked out after 6 weeks (and slowly started before that even).

Our baby sleeps through the night (10 PM to 7 AM) in her own crib (unicorn baby, I know). We are both well rested at night, even with one 4 AM feed since she feeds at the breast and goes back to sleep straight away. Both of us agree we sleep well (7-8 hours a night), and he doesn't wake up with me at 4 AM because there's no need to.

During the day, baby sleeps only in the babywearing system, so I wear her most of the day. I clean the house, I cook, I do laundry, I order groceries, I take care of myself and I take care of LO constantly (which means breastfeeding every 2h40, doing activities, making sure her wake windows are mostly productive, I read a lot about childcare, I make appointments, talk to doctors about whatever else there is to do, I am in charge of LO almost completely), plan events (like LO's baptism) and I also contribute financially. The house is always pristine, there's food in the fridge, clean clothes on hangers always and LO is happy and thriving.

My husband goes to work, sometimes he has projects on the side but this is a not so common occurence and after work he checks out. Mentally and physically. I keep communicating with him that I need a break in the evening and he could maybe take LO's last nap in the babywearing system so I can give my back and my head a break, maybe take a shower, whatever. He doesn't have the patience to make her sleep.

She usually falls asleep while bounced on a yoga ball for some 10-15 minutes. My husband puts her in the system and tries to sit down at the table to eat or on the couch, no bouncing, just expecting her to go to sleep. I kept telling him that this is not the way to go but he doesn't listen, LO gets more and more upset and at the end I end up taking her and struggling to make her go to sleep since she gets frustrated with her father.

He doesn't remember appointments, tomorrow for example I told him I need him to take work from home (he has this perk at the workplace) since we are going to vaccinate LO and we need to be in alert if we need to go to the doctor (fevers and such). Told him time and time again. Yesterday evening he tells me he will go to work on Thursday. I told him dude we talked about this, I need you home in case anything happens. His reply? Yeah, I forgot, sorry.

He comes home, talks about how he didn't do much at work today, then keeps talking about how tired he is, how he can't wait to get LO to sleep so we have couple time, how he can't wait to sleep, how he feels sick (he has IBS but does nothing to manage it, not even diet, he eats all of the things that he knows make him sick), spends so much time on the toilet (TMI but it is so frustrating), how his back hurts because he was the one doing the babywearing before I got cleared at 6 weeks to do it (I had a c-section), eating (massive amounts of food that once again make him sick) and complaining that he doesn't spend much time with LO (even though he doesn't make an effort to spend time/bond, and if he does, he ends up doing so while thinking about something else entirely).

I don't want to resent him. He was great during pregnancy, he took care of me but now I feel like all the workload falls on my shoulders. I do it with great pleasure because I love my child but everytime he complains about his life and how hard it is and how tired he is, I want to punch him. Somehow when it comes to going to a soccer game in the late evening, he is not so tired anymore and goes, but when it comes to doing his part around the house, there is always something (sick, tired, exhausted, eyes closing and all that).

Before telling me I need to communicate this with him, I did! Times and times again. He tells me that he is exhausted, he had a tough year (which he did but surprise, so did I, struggling with HG, surgery, postpartum, moving houses while pregnant and many more). Tells me I feel like this because of hormones and he can't wait for it to pass. That I don't understand him. That I am too sensitive (since he also picks on me once every few days about how ungrateful I am that he took care of me in pregnancy). I think I developed PDD because he kept being so mean to me (which he tells me is nothing and he is lashing out because he is tired).

I really resent him. Even told him I am one and done because I won't be able to do all this with two kids. How do I not resent him? Maybe he is tired, maybe he is exhausted but so am I.

Buna! Fetita mea are 9 saptamani si in ultima vreme face ceva foarte ciudat. Sunt momente in care mananca la ambii sani fara nicio problema dar momente in care pe langa ca e super distrasa, daca termina la un san, daca o pun la celalalt incepe si plange cu el in gura.

O iau, o ragai, o partzai, face caca, o schimb, o pun iar la san si iar plange. Treaba asta nu se intampla de mult timp, de vreo 2 saptamani max, ia bine in greutate (5400 gr), dar nu inteleg de ce face asta. Ati patit asa? Si daca da, ce rezolvare ati avut? Merci!

Posted about this a while ago on the babybumps sub as well, how pregnancy poops are weird asf. Someone commented ‘it doesn’t stop after pregnancy unfortunately’.

I underestimated this.

I saw Sabrina Carpenter’s ‘House Tour’ mv and felt truly inspired to buy some cute lingerie so I could impress my husband and also feel hot. And I did! I bought some very cute underwear in all sorts of colours and patterns! Teased my husband all day long!

Evening comes. LO is put to bed. My husband pours me something to drink. He feels frisky. I FEEL FRISKY. Then I hear it. The stomach rumble. I excuse myself.

What came out of me was vile. Huge. All I could think of was that one fossilised viking poop found in York (google it). I couldn’t do the tango with my husband after that! He would’ve wanted to go wash up and I couldn’t risk him feeling the aftermath of what went on in the bathroom!

Will my stomach ever return to normal???? Will I feel dainty and girly ever again??? Or am I doomed to pass on viking turds???

Mom of an 8 week old right now who just started to have some sort of semblance of a routine.

How did this app help you? I would like to try it but it feels honestly overwhelming (and up until now when we didn't have much of a routine, felt like it didn't make sense).

I have an 8 week old baby girl. Never in a billion years I would've thought that I could love a person so much. Sure, it is difficult, I am a tired mess and I haven't brushed my hair in a week but it all goes away so fast.

Her little hands scritchy-scratching me while babywearing, her little chubby cheeks, the way she smiles when I talk to her and how her eyes light up, her little feet, the way she sleeps and her little mouth opens a little bit, her expression while breastfeeding, her little coos and replies to me when talking to her, I feel like I could explode. She is the only thing that matters to me anymore. I am absolutely obsessed with her. I turn into a big crying baby as well when I think about how much I love her. It hurts!!

I cannot stress enough how much babywearing has saved our lives. 8 weeks old and my baby is so calm, manages to take her day naps in it and also I get to do stuff around the house or outside while this happens.

For the beginning I recommend a stretchy, wrap babywearing system (Boba wrap!!). My girl protests when I put her in it at first and yells but after some bouncing on the yoga ball and a pacifier in her mouth, she falls asleep and naps for up to two hours in it.

It actually helped us get used to the bassinet as well: we wear her in the wrap until she is asleep and then do the transfer. She accepted the bassinet from the very early days!

For those at the beginning of the road: please invest in a good babywearing system!!! For me and my baby at least it was a life saver.