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For ADHD people: does this sound familiar? Knowing you need to do something but feeling unable to start?

I'm trying to understand the behaviour of someone I know (mid 20s, 6yrs into Uni degree), and I'm particularly interested in hearing from autistic people about whether this is something you've experienced.

This person is an adult and currently lives at home. They have difficulty taking steps toward independence or "moving forward" such as finding a part-time/casual job or learning to drive for example is very hard for them.

What confuses me is that they don't necessarily seem unaware of the problem. They seem to know they need to make progress and can sometimes express frustration about not doing so.

But when these topics are brought up, they can become very anxious, shut down, and become unable to engage with the conversation.

I'm not asking whether you think this person is autistic, and I'm not trying to diagnose them. I realise these behaviours can have many explanations.

I'm interested in understanding whether autistic people experience anything like this, particularly the feeling of knowing that you need/want to do something but being unable to initiate it, or becoming overwhelmed when the subject is raised.

1. If you've experienced this yourself, what does it feel like from the inside?

2. And what do you find helpful from other people versus what makes the situation worse?

EDIT: Thank you to everyone's replies so far! It's been an eye opener for sure. Given the similarities in everyone's descriptions, is their a term (medical or otherwise) that describes this?

For autistic people: does this sound familiar? Knowing you need to do something but feeling unable to start?

I'm trying to understand the behaviour of someone I know, and I'm particularly interested in hearing from autistic people about whether this is something you've experienced.

This person is an adult and currently lives at home. They have difficulty taking steps toward independence or "moving forward" such as finding a part-time/casual job or learning to drive for example is very difficult for them.

What confuses me is that they don't necessarily seem unaware of the problem. They seem to know they need to make progress and can sometimes express frustration about not doing so. But when these topics are brought up, they can become very anxious, shut down, and become unable to engage with the conversation.

I'm not asking whether you think this person is autistic, and I'm not trying to diagnose them. I realise these behaviours can have many explanations.

I'm interested in understanding whether autistic people experience anything like this, particularly the feeling of knowing that you need/want to do something but being unable to initiate it, or becoming overwhelmed when the subject is raised.

If you've experienced this yourself, what does it feel like from the inside? And what do you find helpful from other people versus what makes the situation worse?

For autistic people: does this sound familiar? Knowing you need to do something but feeling unable to start?

I'm trying to understand the behaviour of someone I know, and I'm particularly interested in hearing from autistic people about whether this is something you've experienced.

This person is an adult and currently lives at home. They have difficulty taking steps toward independence or "moving forward" such as finding a part-time/casual job or learning to drive for example is very difficult for them.

What confuses me is that they don't necessarily seem unaware of the problem. They seem to know they need to make progress and can sometimes express frustration about not doing so. But when these topics are brought up, they can become very anxious, shut down, and become unable to engage with the conversation.

I'm not asking whether you think this person is autistic, and I'm not trying to diagnose them. I realise these behaviours can have many explanations.

I'm interested in understanding whether autistic people experience anything like this, particularly the feeling of knowing that you need/want to do something but being unable to initiate it, or becoming overwhelmed when the subject is raised.

If you've experienced this yourself, what does it feel like from the inside? And what do you find helpful from other people versus what makes the situation worse?

I'm looking for some perspective on a situation involving an adult child living at home and currently studying at Uni (6 yrs & counting).

They seem to have quite a lot of difficulty taking steps toward independence or "moving forward" given they'll be graduating in a couple years time. Things like finding a part-time/casual job or learning to drive for example is very difficult for them.

The part I'm struggling to understand is that this doesn't necessarily seem like a case of simply not caring or not understanding that these things are important.

They say they know they need to make progress, the importance to do certain things and at times appear frustrated with themselves about it. However, when these subjects are brought up, they can become extremely anxious, shut down, and become unable to engage with the conversation.

I'm trying to work out how me and the people around them (family) can help. There's a difficult balance between being supportive and giving them space, versus potentially enabling them to remain stuck.

For parents who have experienced something similar with an adult child, how did you approach it? What helped, and what made things worse?

I'm not looking for a diagnosis or trying to label the person. I'm mainly trying to understand the behaviour and work out a constructive approach.

Family is worried for them, but they know it's a sensitive topic at best. We've tried bringing such topics up over the years, but any traction disappears quite quickly due to various situations popping up.

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I've seen some posts elsewhere (not this subreddit) that deemed it possible and apparently not as difficult as some of the other banks.

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Friend of mine has missed the boat last couple years due to realising way too late and not sure where to start looking.

Almost everyone has been receiving the yearly letters from their energy providers that 1st Aug energy prices will increase.

Is it better to switch now or after 1st Aug?

Looking around online, I've mostly seen people switching now (which is also my inclination), but others are waiting it out to see what August brings.

Reading my PHI Tax statement and noticed the lines for “Your premiums eligible for Australian Government rebate” appear higher than what I actually paid for the year.

Contacting my PHI is the next step, but was wondering if I’m misunderstanding the tax statement and it’s meant to be like this across the industry?

Updated from iOS 17 to 18, anyone know how to turn off the password requirement when trying to turn on mobile data from the Lock Screen?