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I haven’t seen a post about this so I thought I would see if anyone find this relatable. My son is 2.5yo and I nursed him day and night for two years, we co-slept from birth and then bed-shared from 4m onwards (and still do). We did contact naps exclusively for the first year - year and a half. Baby wearing all day. Basically I have been very highly responsive to my child’s needs and have tried to create a secure and emotional connection from day dot (I know this isn’t the only way, or the right way for all, everyone is so different, it was just my way).

Anyway, I really don’t see how I would be able to offer a second child the same level of commitment without leaving my firstborn to himself, most of the time. Nursing a newborn and coping with latch issues etc. it’s a full time job 😅 Or, divide and conquer with my husband so that we will essentially be two families living separate lives for at least a year or two but under the same roof.

I meet mum’s in my playgroups all the time, who are so loving and caring with their two children, they seem to love it and carry it with such grace, their kids genuinely also look so happy and healthy, so I definitely know it’s a me ‘issue’ and other parents are doing amazing! But with ADHD and OCD I am at capacity!

I guess the only way to do it if I really wanted two would be to have a really large age gap, but starting over never sounded appealing to me, actually it sounds like a nightmare (even though I miss the baby giggles and cuddles) 😅

Anyone else have these thoughts?

Anyone else watching/watched this show? What did you think of the depiction of caring for a newborn and breastfeeding? ngl it felt really close to home with a colicky baby and latch issues 🥲 never seen another show that focus on this!

How long did it take for you? I don’t mean just physical but long term recovery - hormonal, emotional etc.

I don’t know if anyone else felt like this but it has taken me nearly 2.5y to feel slightly better. Beyond just becoming a mum and the personality changes that came with it, my body feels so strange to me, as if it’s still processing the changes it went through.

Can it really take this long?

I am a 40FF/G UK, I believe that is a 40H/I in the US? I have always had larger boobs but breastfeeding my little one for 2 years really did not help the situation 😅 They are so heavy and saggy (nipples pointing downward). I want a breast reduction surgery but the potential to breastfeed a second child is still there so I want to wait until this stage of my life is over.

My problem: when I pay for expensive good quality bra’s, they are good for a week or two but then seem to always lose their hold because of how heavy my boobs are. Basically the back strap moves up towards my neck, and the front downwards. Even when in my wedding dress years ago, I ended up holding my bouquet of flowers in front of my chest most of the night from being uncomfortable.

I am sick of it, nothing looks nice, I look much heavier than I am (although already a size US 14)

So help please 🙏🏽😭 is there a magic bra? Is there any advice that might help me? Thank you!

I am on diuretics due to another condition and my electrolytes are often low (based on symptoms like twitching etc)

B12 injections are widely available privately but I have to sign that I don’t have any issues with potassium :/ my potassium levels in my blood tests looks normal but I have heard that this isn’t always correct?

Did you have any issues with potassium levels after injections?

Thank you!

Has anyone else felt this? Today I am feeling like someone is inside my head and pushing my brain downward. It’s new and strange!

Thank you 😭

I am honestly so done with it, maybe it’s just me and your experience is different, but they always disregard my concerns and any time I mention hormones they look at me as if I have two heads. They love to throw studies at me as to why something isn’t true or can’t be. For example, two weeks ago I was told by a male ophthalmologist that lumbar punctures are useless because he once read a medical article where a doctor stated that most people will have high pressure during an LP because the moment the needle is inserted the pressure shoots up..

Everything I say is not looked at with concern but rather an invitation to prove me wrong.

Aaaaaahhhhh!!!

Hi. I keep seeing this as an argument for why it’s unfair to have an only child - no one to share the ‘burden’ with.. 🫠 I don’t have any expectations for our only to take care of us in old age, ever, in fact, we are preparing for this to not be an issue at all (financially, specifically) emotionally of course, being realistic, this will be difficult for our child, with or without a sibling to process it with.

Just wanted to hear what your thoughts are on this? How are you ‘preparing’ for it? Do you have an expectation of your child to help you in some way?

There might be some cultural differences here, for example I am ethically Turkish, although I was born and raised in Denmark where almost all elderly go to a care home, however Turkish people typically take care of their parents in old age, and I know as the eldest, more specifically the eldest daughter, I will be there for my mum, even though she doesn’t expect this from me.