u/RelationshipWild924

It's been a little over a month since I got a tattoo on my upper shin. The shaved area is definitely growing some hair back, but it's nowhere near as much as the surrounding areas. I feel like it looks stupid, especially because some of the shaved area is not where the tattoo is (moved the stencil). Will it look normal soon or should I just shave everything so it comes back even? Would it look more even if I just made everything shorter with a beard trimmer or something?

I'm a trans man, and I'm really tired of people acting like trans men are the same as cis men and that saying anything otherwise is transphobic.

Ever since coming out as trans I've gotten a lot of comments about how I'm going to become an "evil man" because I'm transitioning, and people saying that I'm going to become a misogynistic asshole, plus saying that maybe I'll be safe from becoming an evil man because I have a sister as if that makes me more understanding and accepting of women than the fact that I lived most of my life as a woman. I get a lot of the "you're transitioning into the oppressive gender" things and being lumped in with violent abusive men, and any time I bring up being trans and say that I feel hurt by these statements it just gets brushed off or I get called transphobic and that I'm invalidating my gender by bringing up differences between cis and trans men (like violence statistics, lived experiences, and harmful legislation against trans people). I'm not a cis man. That sucks, would love to have been born cis. But there is a difference. Cis men aren't a marginalized gender. Trans men are.

I understand it if people don't know I'm trans and treat me with caution as if I were cis, but these comments hurt from people that know I'm trans and that knew me pre transition. I hate being told that I'm speaking over women when I talk about things that affect me because they're "women's issues" and I'm a man.

I'm just tired. I don't want to be the evil gender. I haven't gained any acceptance with cis men and I also feel more alienated by a lot of the queer community that I used to feel a lot of comfort with. Hooray I can look in the mirror and maybe that sucks a little less but everything else sucks the same or is worse.

I really tried to be good at being a woman. I really wanted it. I don't like that people don't like me as a man. They liked the old one better. I really want it. I don't even know what I am. Barely a human. This post used to have a point but I think I'm losing it I'm so sorry. I don't think I could ever be a good woman but I'm not a very good man either. I could try harder. I could be the person they want me to be. I wish I could be normal. That's too bad I guess.

I'm in the process of switching him from live to frozen thawed, and I've gotten him to eat once so far. He seems so interested but it takes him so long to do anything. Usually when I see other people feed their snakes it only takes a couple minutes, but last time it took him 30 minutes to eat and so far we're at 45 this time. The entire time he's super focused on the rat and he's pretty consistently interested, but he won't eat it. He's bit it twice already but after a bit he let's go.

The rat was the right temperature at some point, probably not anymore, but I can't think of anything else to make him more interested.

My dude made his first successful escape attempt today, he only made it out for about an hour or less before I realized and found him. Should I wait before trying to feed him/ his long? It's a couple days past feeding day already and I was going to feed him tonight, the rats already thawed so I can't wait too long.

I'm pet sitting, one of the kittens has fleas, how long do I separate from the other kittens after putting the flea stuff on? Theoretically everyone's supposed to have been treated for fleas so I shouldn't have to treat them all?

As I'm writing this I have discovered more fleas on one of the adult cats. Gang there are 20 cats here please help what do I do.

I do not know that to do, there are like 10 other cats here and I don't know if they have fleas too or how to stop all of them from getting fleas.

I also have cats at home, how do I make sure don't give them fleas?

I already have a ball python so I'm not concerned with what's the easiest to take care of, I just want to know what options people like. My partner has agreed to let me have two snakes so after this one I'll be done adopting reptiles for the foreseeable future. We don't know if we want another ball python or if we want to get something different, but my partner really likes our guy so we're leaving towards another ball.

His requirements

- looks cool, he likes the faces of ball pythons and he likes snakes that have a variety of morph options

- good with handling

My requirements

- low cost, looking to spend around 300 max for the snake give or take

- likely to be at reptile shows

- I'm iffy on anything likely to escape it's enclosure, we have cats.

- possibly something that can eventually eat the same size rats as our ball python, not required though

In college I ended up with a free machine, so naturally I've tattooed like half of the people I know, including myself. I'm not horrible but I'm not great either, and I'd like to learn.

I know scratching is often looked down on by basically everyone that tattoos professionally, will this hurt my chances of an apprenticeship if it comes up? I have some visible tattoos I've done on myself, and I love them but if you look up close you can tell that they're not professional quality tattoos.

My project was three acrylic paintings and three watercolor paintings, I got a D on presenting the work and a C on the project overall. I can kind of get the grade on the presentation, the comment was "unprepared to discuss the work or answer questions" and I did completely fumble the presenting part because I got really nervous and forgot what I rehearsed, but I think I did well on the questions portion.

What I don't get is my grade on the project. There were no comments on it so I didn't really get an explanation, but the rubric doesn't make sense to me. I got full points on "technical proficiency" and "aesthetic sensibility" and "exhibition ready" but I did super poorly on literally everything else. I scored "adequate" (second lowest possible score) on "conceptualization and originality" and "marginal" (the lowest possible score besides not completed) on both "communication and narrative" and "project management and organization".

I'm most confused about "project management and organization" because the rubric says this category is about the planning stages of the project, completing things on time, and the quality of the final project. I've turned in all of my assignments on time and my final product was high quality. Those are literally the only things I got full points on so I don't understand how I can get full marks on those sections and the worst possible score on this one.

I guess I'm just confused and kind of offended about the "conceptualization and originality" and the "communication and narrative" scores. This project was deeply personal to me and I feel that it turned out exactly how I wanted it to, and it was exactly what I was going for. I genuinely really loved how it turned out and I was very proud of it, I was going to keep it and put it on my wall but now I just feel embarrassed every time I look at it.

My entire time at school I have been a very good student, but I don't like to make my work very personal and I don't like being vulnerable and putting myself out there in that way. I decided that I wanted to do something more personal for this project and now I just feel so stupid.

I'm not going to add an image here because honestly I'm not sure if I like it anymore, but if anyone wants to see it or a deeper explanation I'd love to share in the comments.

My project was three acrylic paintings and three watercolor paintings, I got a D on presenting the work and a C on the project overall. I can kind of get the grade on the presentation, the comment was "unprepared to discuss the work or answer questions" and I did completely fumble the presenting part because I got really nervous and forgot what I rehearsed, but I think I did well on the questions portion.

What I don't get is my grade on the project. There were no comments on it so I didn't really get an explanation, but the rubric doesn't make sense to me. I got full points on "technical proficiency" and "aesthetic sensibility" and "exhibition ready" but I did super poorly on literally everything else. I scored "adequate" (second lowest possible score) on "conceptualization and originality" and "marginal" (the lowest possible score besides not completed) on both "communication and narrative" and "project management and organization".

I'm most confused about "project management and organization" because the rubric says this category is about the planning stages of the project, completing things on time, and the quality of the final project. I've turned in all of my assignments on time and my final product was high quality. Those are literally the only things I got full points on so I don't understand how I can get full marks on those sections and the worst possible score on this one.

I guess I'm just confused and kind of offended about the "conceptualization and originality" and the "communication and narrative" scores. This project was deeply personal to me and I feel that it turned out exactly how I wanted it to, and it was exactly what I was going for. I genuinely really loved how it turned out and I was very proud of it, I was going to keep it and put it on my wall but now I just feel embarrassed every time I look at it.

My entire time at school I have been a very good student, but I don't like to make my work very personal and I don't like being vulnerable and putting myself out there in that way. I decided that I wanted to do something more personal for this project and now I just feel so stupid.

I'm not going to add an image here because honestly I'm not sure if I like it anymore, but if anyone wants to see it or a deeper explanation I'd love to share in the comments.

My cat is in desperate need of a bath in the near future. I'm wondering if there's any way I can wash her without stressing her out or hurting her, it's really important that she doesn't not try to move or struggle.

Also taking any shampoo brand recommendations