u/Remarkable_Dream_134

My bowels are slowing up. I have noticed it getting worse. It started with me not doing my normal one poo where I felt cleared out every day, to two unsatisfying poos. To now it's not all clearing at all.

Have others found this is an issue? Do you take medication such as stool softeners and bowel stimulants?

I think I need to speak to my GP about it and get some things on prescription. It's so uncomfortable.

(Apologies for this being so candid, I used to work in the NHS so poo does not phase me in the slightest)

Finally got my diagnosis today with specialist ME/CFS Dr. Fells kinda anti-climatic. Something you're waiting to be confirmed or not for months is a professional confirming what you kinda knew. Didn't realise how much emotion I was holding onto waiting for them to say yay or nay. I felt exhausted after the phone call and got into bed. I felt very numb and sad. Realisation hitting this is not all in my head. This is my life.

Love to the community, you have helped me so much already ❤️

Does anyone know of any great discord groups for astrology?

I love getting into deep discussions around astrology and enjoy discord.

Something that is open to beginners and open minded aka not rigid in how they think about astrology/accepting different teachings etc.

Thanks!

I'm looking at a natal chart that has such intense Pluto energy from someone I know.

Pluto is in Scorpio, in the 6th House.

Aspects are: Pluto opposition sun (Taurus 12th), pluto opposition mercury (Taurus 12th), pluto square mars (aquarius 9th) pluto opposition jupiter (Taurus 12th).

Heavy 12th house energy. So many pluto aspects.

I feel for them that this life is one of a lot of deep work for their soul. They feel like a very old soul to me who is learning some of the trickier aspects to grow and develop.

They are very grounded from all their Taurus energy. Very practical and logical in their beliefs and ways of making sense of the world. However they are deeply creative too - they are a writer. They are an introvert who needs time alone in order to function, otherwise they cannot cope.

They are kind, gentle, deeply caring and loyal. However they have a temper. They are that classic bull - calm but if continuously prodded they can get huge amounts of rage. They don't like it and it can overwhelm them. The only way for them to reset is to be alone. Other ways I feel this Pluto energy manifests....they can be belligerent in their beliefs and dismiss others beliefs - moral beliefs etc. They can be dismissive of other think and sometimes come across as looking down upon others. They can see right through people but this can make them be judgemental. They can get very angry. In confrontation. It takes them ages to process this frustration and anger and can find it hard to calm down. However they recognise when they are wrong and always try to correct and grow.

This person is struggling with their anger at the moment.

How can those with loads of pluto energy heal themselves and help them manage this intense amount of energy?

Does anyone have any insights? How have you seen these placements present in others? And advice on how we can help others live with this challenging energy?

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Looking at the traits of having too much cardinal energy in ones chart, these traits being - burnout, impatience, unfinished projects, need to move forwards.

These all are traits of ADHD.

Have you seen a cross over?

Looking at the traits of having too much cardinal energy in ones chart, these traits being - burnout, impatience, unfinished projects, need to move forwards.

These all are traits of ADHD.

Have you seen a cross over?

Looking at the traits of having too much cardinal energy in ones chart, these traits being - burnout, impatience, unfinished projects, need to move forwards.

These all are traits of ADHD.

Have you seen a cross over?

Does anyone have either of these chairs from Tech Mobility?

MobilityPlus+ Ultra-Light RangerXL Folding Electric Wheelchair

OR

Automatic Reclining Lightweight Electric Wheelchair | Freedom Elite AR

If you do I would love to hear your experience with them? I'm particular interested in hearing about the following:

What is the actual real life battery range? Is the battery upgrade worth it?

What is the longevity of the chair? How is it performing after a year or so?

Any add ons you would recommend?

Good post purchase support?

I am considering the reclining one to help me rest deeper when I need a break when I'm out.

I have suspected ME/CFS. I think I might have POTS too. My chronic fatigue clinic appointment is on 18th August.

I am considering just going ahead and getting an aid because doors are shutting more and more - I'm finding I need to do less and less. I have two kids and I want to be able to get out with them and not crash. It's impacting us as a family so much - both not being able to do things and crashing really hard for days if I try to do something.

Any advice around these chairs would be super helpful. Thank you!

Warning! ⚠️ This could be triggering/upsetting as it regards adopter grandparents being unsupportive about adopting.

My husband and I are estranged from his parents.

He was emotionally neglected as a kid to put it simply.

It was always a tricky relationship we both had with them but we were a family and made the effort.

When it came to adopting our twin daughters everything went really bad between us. We tried for a further 3 years before he decided to cut off communication fully (I still have tenuous contact with MIL)

We went on holiday with them in August 2021. We knew our girls were going to be ours and our stars were lining up. We had several meetings and knew quite a bit about them now. On the holiday in laws avoided speaking about it at all. If we brought it up with husband's siblings his parents got up and left the room. We confronted them about it gently one morning saying we really want to update you where we are with adoption. We were so excited. We had a horrific journey of infertility beforehand. Finished fertility treatment before we needed to because we just wanted to adopt. They knew all this.

Anyways. They went cold and weird I'm this conversation and it blew up into an argument with FIL saying deeply hurtful things such as, "we never asked for this". Referring to us adopting.

Move forward a few months and our beautiful 16 month old girlies are home. Husbands family live 3&1/2 hours away. We wanted to video call them because we couldn't send photos of their faces yet until legal adoption was confirmed (UK rules). So we wanted to video call so they could see their adorable faces of their new grandchildren. Finally there was a convenient date. MIL was on the video call. We asked where FIL was and heard him in the background. MIL asked if he wanted to come and see and he said, no I'm too busy cooking lunch.

We were hurt so deeply. Thank goodness our girls were too young to remember that moment.

We kept the call calm and amicable because our girls were there. After husband text and said how hurt we were that their grandad didn't want to meet them/see their little faces.

Well both in laws blew up saying they felt they couldn't do anything right. FIL said he needed to be more respected. They just flipped.

We tried and tried but it was when we were having some therapy she said how toxic it was with the in laws and then husband decided enough was enough and his anxiety has been so much better since.

Recently had a text from MIL saying she is missing getting to know the girls. This is probably the first time she has explicitly said this in 2 years of no contact with her son.

I try and let these things go but it hurts so deeply still.

I enjoyed spending time with them even though it was challenging. But I can't have that possibly toxic ways around my children. It's such a shame they cannot just speak openly and honestly about things. They never have said what their issue with adoption is. Never. But they have been so awkward about it.

I dread the conversations I will have with my adult daughters about them. How is one honest without causing more trauma. As adoptees - what are your thoughts? I would like insight from adoptees point of view. For context we are British and live in England.

My husband and I are estranged from his parents.

He was emotionally neglected as a kid to put it simply.

It was always a tricky relationship we both had with them but we were a family and made the effort.

When it came to adopting our twin daughters everything went really bad between us. We tried for a further 3 years before he decided to cut off communication fully (I still have tenuous contact with MIL)

We went on holiday with them in August 2021. We knew our girls were going to be ours and our stars were lining up. We had several meetings and knew quite a bit about them now. On the holiday in laws avoided speaking about it at all. If we brought it up with husband's siblings his parents got up and left the room. We confronted them about it gently one morning saying we really want to update you where we are with adoption. We were so excited. We had a horrific journey of infertility beforehand. Finished fertility treatment before we needed to because we just wanted to adopt. They knew all this.

Anyways. They went cold and weird I'm this conversation and it blew up into an argument with FIL saying deeply hurtful things such as, "we never asked for this". Referring to us adopting.

Move forward a few months and our beautiful 16 month old girlies are home. Husbands family live 3&1/2 hours away. We wanted to video call them because we couldn't send photos of their faces yet until legal adoption was confirmed (UK rules). So we wanted to video call so they could see their adorable faces of their new grandchildren. Finally there was a convenient date. MIL was on the video call. We asked where FIL was and heard him in the background. MIL asked if he wanted to come and see and he said, no I'm too busy cooking lunch.

We were hurt so deeply. Thank goodness our girls were too young to remember that moment.

We kept the call calm and amicable because our girls were there. After husband text and said how hurt we were that their grandad didn't want to meet them/see their little faces.

Well both in laws blew up saying they felt they couldn't do anything right. FIL said he needed to be more respected. They just flipped.

We tried and tried but it was when we were having some therapy she said how toxic it was with the in laws and then husband decided enough was enough and his anxiety has been so much better since.

Recently had a text from MIL saying she is missing getting to know the girls. This is probably the first time she has explicitly said this in 2 years of no contact with her son.

I try and let these things go but it hurts so deeply still.

I enjoyed spending time with them even though it was challenging. But I can't have that possibly toxic ways around my children. It's such a shame they cannot just speak openly and honestly about things. They never have said what their issue with adoption is. Never. But they have been so awkward about it.

I dread the conversations I will have with my adult daughters about them. How is one honest without causing more trauma.

For those of you who cannot work a typical job - are there any innovative ways you have found to still have an income?

Or heard of any ME/CFS or chronic illness people bringing in an income which worked ok with managing their illness?

I feel beyond vinted - and even that I haven't managed in the recent months. I find it hard to comprehend what is possible.

Would love to hear if anyone has worked out something for them?

I am still very much learning the impacts and my symptoms.

This morning I was taking it slow. Husband helped me by letting me sleep longer and gave our girls breakfast. After I had got myself sorted my twins asked for a den. I got out the kit where you attach balls to sticks and create a structure. I decided to reduce energy by sitting down and making the sides first then where that was done link them all together which meant I wasn't on my feet or knees making it on the floor hardly at all, just at the end.

I was burnt! I went into exertion, heart rate was up and not going down (I have visible), I was hot, felt so weak and weird. Had to try and cool off. Remembered I needed to feed the chickens so pushed through and fed them, grabbed a few blackberries in the garden and that was it I had to lay down. I was whacked.

I chilled on the sofa with my kid playing tic tak toe. Then I had to go upstairs to see my husband who was working in his office as I felt so emotional.

When I saw him I burst into tears. I think it just scared me how little that was and the impact it had on me. Went and laid down on the bed and he took over.

I have had the same experience with folding clothes and emptying/filling the dishwasher.

I seem to get hit bad when I use my arms for tasks. Anything where I'm using them a lot. Or they are having to go above my heart.

Sometimes it just hits you doesn't it. How debilitating this is.

I hate that I have to say to my girls (6) that mummy can't build anymore as her battery is too low.

Husband has taken them out so I can rest. But I miss out on so much with them these days.

Sometimes it just gets you and breaks your heart.

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I'll go first...

1. Fatigue that deems you useless

2. Migraine which knocks you sideways

3. Pain in my legs which creeps up on me and stops me from going out

Of course everyone has different levels of CFS. And the symptoms list is loooooong! But I wondered what others would class the symptoms that impact their lives the most?

.... Better for prediction and placidus is better for looking at the individuals deep psychology.

Has anyone found this to be true?

I love Pam Gregory and believe she works with placidus, does anyone know if she always used that or uses both?

Specifically asking those who have young children/children who need a lot of support such as SEN needs.

I often boom at the weekend and then am busy in the week. We had a super lovely day yesterday but today I am just empty.

I am pre-diagnosis and on the waiting list for CF clinic (England, NHS). Suspected ME/CFS.

I have twin 6 year olds and an amazingly supportive husband. Our girls have some SEN needs and so can be a lot/very intense.

I try not to get emotionally missing out on time with my girls but it of course is hard.

How do you all manage it with children?

Thank you.