u/Remas_0

I tried the fork&knife method
And the shoe method (it’s a bottle of Rosé… the more I tapped the more it started to get fizzy..)

Help

Edit: I got a corkscrew !

PSA: What I’m saying obviously doesn’t apply to everyone’s trauma. Some people cannot help it, I understand.

At a certain age you shouldn’t blame every flaw in yourself on your parents or how you were raised.

As an adult you should manage to pick between healing and being a good person or being a toxic person.
( picking the second option as a parent is what creates trauma to the next generation, usually )

Again, this does not apply to all people and all traumas!.

I’ve been using those two for a year now, I love drug store hair products and those exact two work amazingly for my hair

But I literally cannot find them anywhere anymore, anyone knows a good replacement ?

Idk if that’s relevant but here’s info about my hair(if you’d like to use those two products too):

1- my hair is curly, idk what type but pretty curly and I never wear it curly

2- I straighten my hair a few times a week with the Wavytalk steam straightener brush

3- my main goal is to grow my hair as long as possible, my main concern is keeping my hair as healthy as possible with all that heat damage

4- my hair is low porosity, my hair loves lightweight oils

PSA: I love my curly hair and I’ve been wearing my hair curly for a long period of my life, I have no issue with it I just pick to straighten it.

I’m going to share two points from my 4 years of trying to figure out and understand self love. (Idk if this detail matters but I’m 18.)

All of this might be quite obvious to some…and eye opening to some.

-Improving yourself vs acceptance

Media always encourages us to love ourselves the way we are, which isn’t completely wrong

But I think people started mixing up changing for the better with not loving yourself properly

If there’s something in you that you know you don’t love or approve of.. in some cases.. the right choice isn’t accepting it(i’m talking generally, there are cases where the right thing is accepting.)

-Someone I dearly love is overweight, she is a beautiful woman.. and that is a sensitive subject.. everyone (including me in the past) would immediately “comfort” her saying she’s beautiful as is.. which I agree with BUT… she knows she’ll feel better thinner(btw, this isn’t a health thing)

So I told her , and I tell myself this all the time.. if you know changing would make you love yourself more, wanting to change it isn’t self-hate , she shouldn’t hate herself at a certain weight ofc… hate could backfire, there’s a thin line between wanting to change and hating yourself into changing.

-Unconditional love≠ no accountability

Self love shouldn’t be completely conditional nor completely unconditional , there’s a healthy balance.

How I view this is… at the end of the day, I’m the one who’s gonna take care of myself the most… control my thoughts.. feed myself healthy food.. get up early to go to work.. work.. study.. I am the one doing the work. I am the person who i’ll live with all of my life , there isn’t a single person who I’d spend moe time with in my life.

So.. yes, I do believe in loving myself unconditionally in certain situations.

-You can love your child dearly yet hold them accountable, which sounds obvious but I’ve noticed some people mix holding their child accountable (or themselves) with conditional love

that’s the best example I can come up with to describe the line between unconditional and conditional self love.

I used examples in both points to show my true thought process best!

الشغف شعور جميل ورائع انه يكون موجود ببيئة دراستك وعملك

لكن..

ماعرف هو صار ترند ان الناس يستخدموا "فقدان الشغف" ك عذر؟

الشغف شعور يروح ويجي وغلط انك تربط شي جدي مثل دراستك او عملك ب متى يجيك شغف

ولا ننسى ان كثير حالات مارح تحس بالشغف الا اذا بديت بالشيء الصعب!

اذا انت شخص فعلا فعلا تبغا نتائج كويسة بحياتك(دراسة شغل.. الخ)

مو مفروض
تستخدم الشغف ك عذر

دايم اقول! الناجح و "المو ناجح" كلهم مايبون يسوون الشغل الصعب.. كلنا مالنا خلق نذاكر اغلب الوقت(لما مافيه "شغف")

الناجح مارح يعتمد على مشاعرة، وراح يلتزم وراح يسوي الشي الصعب سواء له خلق او ماله خلق

المو ناجح(ماودي استخدم كلمات قاسية وصارمة مثل فاشل) راح يدور اعذار.. وراح يلقا! لان فيه اعذار كثير تمنع! "فقدان شغف" "مالي خلق.." وكثير

الفرق بينهم احد ملتزم واحد لا.

الالتزام>الشغف

انا اكره الايجابية الزائدة الزائفة والغير واقعية، اتفهم وجود ظروف وعوامل اخرى، كلامي بشكل عام بعيد عن الحالات الاستثنائية!

هذا مجرد رأي.

I feel the need to talk about this, I had to deal with a tough call and now I can’t sleep and my chest aches ,not trying to be dramatic

1- I had smore’s , finding actual real graham crackers is pretty rare where I live.. I got myself 3 large boxes now👁️👁️!! I feel peace
2- the graham crackers are teddy bear grahams, I prefer regular crackers texture-wise but the little bears are so cute:(!!!

3- I ordered organic cacao powder and it had arrived today, smells so yum

4-I actually had fun solving physics problems today while studying for my final physics exam

5- my sheets are freshly washed

6- ALSO THE MONACO GP IS THIS SUNDAY

I’ll sleep and I’ll sleep well:)!