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i’ve been binding for 8+ years now, which has given me some weakness in my diaphragm, plus i’ve got shit lungs from heavy smoking that makes exercising particularly difficult. i’ve tried taping, but it irritates my skin and leaves scars. i’ve bought plenty of binders, sized up, but still couldn’t go for a run without feeling like i was having an asthma attack after five minutes.

finally tried the underworks sports binder (it’s unfortunately listed as the ‘magicotton sports and binding bra’ to use at the gym, but now its my daily one. for one, it’s way less restrictive. it feels like wearing a sports bra (not a tight one) and binds like a binder. the shoulder straps are farther apart than my regular binders, so they don’t show when i wear t-shirts. i’d say it doesn’t bind *quite* as well as a standard binder, but it does the job, and i actually prefer it because the silhouette of my chest is a lot more natural. instead of being lumpy, it just looks like pecs (my chest is \~ a C cup, for reference). only minus is that you can see the lining of it under thin/tight clothes, but that’s an issue with most binders. i can wear it all day and not be in pain, it’s easier to put on/take off, and i can work out comfortably. machine washable! huge plus, and if you’re sweaty like me, it’s a lot cooler and dries quickly.

if you have issues with pain while binding or are looking for one to work out/swim in, i highly recommend trying this one. not even tryna plug the brand, but i wish i’d found it earlier.

title is pretty self explanatory. i’m bi and ftm (22), but most of my sexual experience is with AFAB anatomy so i’m excited but nervous! it’s my first hookup after getting out of a five year long relationship and i feel like i’m about to lose my virginity again. we already discussed testing and our interests, all green flags so far. good communication. she’s cute and enthusiastic and has similar preferences, so i think she’s a perfect way to dip my toes in.

i know i should discuss what she wants me to call her parts. i’m more worried about the technical aspect, because i know she’s on hrt and that makes it work a bit different and i’m already gonan be playing in unfamiliar territory, so i’d appreciate any insight or advice on that front. anything that would be useful for me to know, really! and, well, wish me luck! :)

Hey there! First of all, sorry if this isn’t the right place to be asking about this. Can’t really find any Creole-centered subreddits, but if anyone can redirect me to a better sub, I’ll take it down and post it there.

I’m a writer interested in working on a character that’s New Orleans/ Louisiana Creole. Problem is, I’ve had zero exposure to y’all as a Californian, so I’ve got some research to do.

All that to say, what I really want to ask is this: Particularly younger, millennial/gen Z Creoles — how has your ethnic identity shaped your experience or perspective on things? When you think about Creole culture, what parts do you look at with the most fondness? How does it show up in your day-to-day life? And what unique struggles do you face because of it, that we as outsiders don’t often see and would benefit from learning more about?

hey! looking to find a hairstylist/barber in north county, especially one with experience cutting mullets. i specify queer-friendly because i’m queer and trans, so sometimes i feel a bit out of place in heterosexual-domiant barber shops and am not always satisfied with the results (especially being in oside, lots of marine cuts). if anyone knows of someone they could recommend me, it would be greatly appreciated!

i just got out of a five year relationship (i’m 22, and have been with this person since i was 16), and decided to move five hundred miles across the state to live with friends. so it’s a big one. i was going to stay here for another two months to finish a CNA course i planned to take, but it’s looking like i won’t get in and i’m still living with my now ex and their brother, so i have to be out by the end of the month to avoid an unnecessary rent payment.

i plan to study and attend a different program out there. i’ll be in the living room for a month or so before we move into a bigger place, and my friend plans to help me get a position at their current job. in the meantime, i also do doordash/uber eats for extra income and have about $1k of cushioning in the meantime. i plan to get a maintenance check for my car to make sure it’s good for the trip. still have to split insurance with my ex for now, and they probably won’t be able to take me off the lease until it expires in august, but they’ll be able to make the rent and i don’t think they’d try and screw me over somehow. i have to order a mattress to be delivered up here. update my address on everything. remove myself from the electric bill. i don’t have health insurance right now, so i need to sign up for it again under a new county when i get out there. what else am i missing? i can’t shake the feeling that i’m forgetting something important, and it’ll screw me over when i get there.

I used to be on 150mg Wellbutrin + 5mg Lexapro, which I stopped taking around the beginning of the year when I lost my insurance. Unfortunately, I most likely can’t get insurance again or get a refill till I want to say August (thanks America).

I have a little more than a week’s worth left. I’ve done fairly well without the medication, not much of a depressive mood. But I just broke up with my boyfriend of five years two days ago and I’m going through it. I’m of no risk to myself, but it’s becoming difficult to get through the day again and I don’t want to risk slipping, because once I do it’s very difficult to climb out of that state.

I’ve stopped and restarted this regimen three separate times and experience very little side effects, no increased suicidality. I was considering taking what’s left to help me get through this as I figure out where I’m gonna go and what I need to do. However, I’m worried starting and stopping could do more harm than good to my brain chemistry and I don’t have my psychiatrist’s contact info to ask for advice. Any help would be greatly appreciated!