u/Renderedperson

Sounds so silly but i usually forget all dreams but this happened very early morning just before i woke up .

Some man just hugged me and said you need one . Not sure who he was from my memory. It felt so real especially after being alone for 2 months and lonely for even more than that .

Sounds incredibly stupid but I just wanted to share. Ironically my therapist told my exwife the same thing when we were having issues and yes she did hug me but I never felt anything because she was just checking a list.

Men deserve more hugs too!!!

I thought she might be wary of the potential fallout of sending a contested divorce. But she finally sent it .

So the fight is now official and will involve lots of court room appearances and battles.

I'm alone and ready to fight but the notice even though expected did shake me a bit . Ordered comfort food and now on lawyer hunting.

I know adultery is tough to prove in court so waited until she files . Need to get the official petition before deciding how to battle it

P.S. i know people will tell me to go mutual but she's purposely demanding a settlement moree than my house and savings , also no guarantee of seeing children even after that . They could have reconciled and discussed practically of clean separation but they chose not to acknowledge her daughter's infidelity and instead kept blaming me as mentally ill and also tell that i can't see my children.

If anyone went through contested divorce and is ready to help me with the emotions , id be grateful for your help

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I thought she might be wary of the potential fallout of sending a contested divorce. But she finally sent it .

So the fight is now official and will involve lots of court room appearances and battles.

I'm alone and ready to fight but the notice even though expected did shake me a bit . Ordered comfort food and now on lawyer hunting.

I know adultery is tough to prove in court so waited until she files . Need to get the official petition before deciding how to battle it

P.S. i know people will tell me to go mutual but she's purposely demanding a settlement moree than my house and savings , also no guarantee of seeing children even after that . They could have reconciled and discussed practically of clean separation but they chose not to acknowledge her daughter's infidelity and instead kept blaming me as mentally ill and also tell that i can't see my children.

If anyone went through contested divorce and is ready to help me with the emotions , id be grateful for your help

​

I thought she might be wary of the potential fallout of sending a contested divorce. But she finally sent it .

So the fight is now official and will involve lots of court room appearances and battles.

I'm alone and ready to fight but the notice even though expected did shake me a bit . Ordered comfort food and now on lawyer hunting.

I know adultery is tough to prove in court so waited until she files . Need to get the official petition before deciding how to battle it

P.S. i know people will tell me to go mutual but she's purposely demanding a settlement moree than my house and savings , also no guarantee of seeing children even after that . They could have reconciled and discussed practically of clean separation but they chose not to acknowledge her daughter's infidelity and instead kept blaming me as mentally ill and also tell that i can't see my children.

If anyone went through contested divorce and is ready to help me with the emotions , id be grateful for your help

I thought she might be wary of the potential fallout of sending a contested divorce. But she finally sent it .

So the fight is now official and will involve lots of court room appearances and battles.

I'm alone and ready to fight but the notice even though expected did shake me a bit . Ordered comfort food and now on lawyer hunting.

I know adultery is tough to prove in court so waited until she files . Need to get the official petition before deciding how to battle it

P.S. i know people will tell me to go mutual but she's purposely demanding a settlement moree than my house and savings , also no guarantee of seeing children even after that . They could have reconciled and discussed practically of clean separation but they chose not to acknowledge her daughter's infidelity and instead kept blaming me as mentally ill and also tell that i can't see my children.

If anyone went through contested divorce and is ready to help me with the emotions , id be grateful for your help

​

More than 2 yrs since D- day and close to 2 years of her leaving

It wasn't just her cheating but the betrayal of her entire family to me including her mother, father , sisters and brother-in-laws and of course secondary betrayal from my own mom, dad and sister

For context, i come from a country with all bondings and honor etc and mostly one sided laws against men in courts

Long story short, caught her cheating, informed to her sister who begged me to reconsider, took her to counseling but she was busy deleting all evidence and then finally came to my house and accused me of being mentally ill and taken away my children. Not allowing to meet them or come to conclusion, despite evidence they still accuse that I'm suspecting and she did nothing wrong

Legally I'm tied because the cryptic whatsapp status I posted can be used against me and then my own parents and sister are rather ashamed of me and kept torturing me for not forgiving her cheating for 2 years untill recently i threw them all.

She is now happy, earning better because of ai boom, her sisters and brother-in-laws are supporting her , constantly changes her pics in Instagram and most likely might be dating or FWB with someone while own kids are suffering there

While I'm dealing with every after effects of depression, DVT and abusive parents who rather prefer a dead son over a divorced son

Also during the meeting, she and her family kept telling

"If i did something wrong , God will punish us and if you accused me unnecessary he will punish you " , her brother-in-law was literally laughing when I was telling what she did

I go into this dream mode when karma does find the address and they come to me begging and i give them a sound piece of my mind . In fact it's so rehearsed that I've almost perfected the dialogues.

I know it's achieving and just secreting adrenaline and cortisol to give me a temporary high and make me happy but overall gives a low later as I'm stuck in this loop while her family has moved on as if nothing happened and holding my kids hostage

Unfortunately the therapists in our country are so ill equipped and I've tried so many options but still stuck there . I also don't have any friends and my own family hates me to the level I threw them out

I want to come out of this mode and i know karma won't do anything but come peace with that

If anyone who went through this , please advise

More than 2 yrs since D- day and close to 2 years of her leaving

It wasn't just her cheating but the betrayal of her entire family to me including her mother, father , sisters and brother-in-laws and of course secondary betrayal from my own mom, dad and sister

For context, i come from a country with all bondings and honor etc and mostly one sided laws against men in courts

Long story short, caught her cheating, informed to her sister who begged me to reconsider, took her to counseling but she was busy deleting all evidence and then finally came to my house and accused me of being mentally ill and taken away my children. Not allowing to meet them or come to conclusion, despite evidence they still accuse that I'm suspecting and she did nothing wrong

Legally I'm tied because the cryptic whatsapp status I posted can be used against me and then my own parents and sister are rather ashamed of me and kept torturing me for not forgiving her cheating for 2 years untill recently i threw them all.

She is now happy, earning better because of ai boom, her sisters and brother-in-laws are supporting her , constantly changes her pics in Instagram and most likely might be dating or FWB with someone while own kids are suffering there

While I'm dealing with every after effects of depression, DVT and abusive parents who rather prefer a dead son over a divorced son

Also during the meeting, she and her family kept telling

"If i did something wrong , God will punish us and if you accused me unnecessary he will punish you " , her brother-in-law was literally laughing when I was telling what she did

I go into this dream mode when karma does find the address and they come to me begging and i give them a sound piece of my mind . In fact it's so rehearsed that I've almost perfected the dialogues.

I know it's achieving and just secreting adrenaline and cortisol to give me a temporary high and make me happy but overall gives a low later as I'm stuck in this loop while her family has moved on as if nothing happened and holding my kids hostage

Unfortunately the therapists in our country are so ill equipped and I've tried so many options but still stuck there . I also don't have any friends and my own family hates me to the level I threw them out

I want to come out of this mode and i know karma won't do anything but come peace with that

If anyone who went through this , please advise