u/Robinnoodle

I was nanny for a few years many years ago. It did not pay well at all, but I really enjoyed it. Then eventually I transitioned to a live in caregiver for the father of one of the families. I also later had other elderly and disabled clients

Unfortunately my back and neck got to the point that I couldn't do that work anymore. (The lifting and transferring). It was kind of devastating honestly because I love helping others and this was a really easy way for me to do that while also getting paid for my time.

For a few years since, I've been helping out family and managing multiple households. I have wanted to return to caregiving but my back precludes that. I recently decided that I could probably return to nannying in a limited sense. I am also considering applying for social security disability so I don't want to start working on a W-2, have that considered gainful employment and not be able to get disability. My financial situation is such that I really need the income though. I have been helping out family for free for quite awhile and it will take years to get approved for disability. I know a lot of people, especially the more reputable employers have transitioned to a W-2 situation with payer app like Poppy

When I do talk to a perspective family I will explain this is on a trial basis due to my body and will explain my lifting my limitations ahead of time.

TLDR: Is anyone still paying under the table? Would I be judged for asking. Is the default still under the table, or is W-2 now the more expected/default way of things?

Thanks so much!

Before I came onto the sub I genuinely did... Now the writing choices in S4 leave a lot to be desired But actually think Chad Michael Murray, Maggie's actress, and Scott Patterson in the previous season all did a good job with their acting. Imo, Maggie seems to have few facial expressions because she is used to everything being controlled and she tries to be measured and analytical in her actions (until this last season that is).

As far as everyone else, it's no different than the wooden acting on shows like Virgin River, I would argue less bad. ​Which that show to me reads even hokier than this show. Characters making pointless chit chat, and sitting down to a meal or drink only to leave it untouched sitting on the counter 5 minutes later

It's a fact finding mission. Haven't had any in awhile other than the occasional gas station slice. I am willing traverse far and wide for good food 🍕. I also spend a lot of time in the metro so really just best Casey's for pizza 🙂🙂

I don't want lowest cost of living or housing vs wages. I want to know the lowest cost new construction real estate​ prices in the U.S. regardless of area wages. Like it doesn't matter if people are still making federal minimum wage. Lowest cost for new construction and also​ in general. This is assuming the local economic situation is not really of concern

Thanks so much

Ok, so let's highlight the obvious. The rising cancer rates, the political climate and under that umbrella the changes to our schools which were once excellent and are still decent, but declining

But other than that... Why? There was a post recently asking about moving here and practically everyone actively discouraged the guy. So much so that he ended up deleting the post and due to a little stalking I saw he posed the same question on the Wisconsin sub 😄. Where he was met with a much more welcoming response. So that kind of disproved my​ negative redditor theory

Why do we all dislike it here so much (specifics please)? Or is it more just the political climate has us all down and negative? ​Also, is it really the right move to discourage up and coming, hard working, most likely progressive minded young people from moving here? We already have a brain drain issue apparently. Shouldn't we be actively encouraging that (while being honest about some of the pitfalls)?

I have over the years changed a lot. When I was trim ​I would say it was more of an hour glass figure. Now I would call it pear shaped or sort of that metabolic syndrome shape. Big in the middle (large belly). Everything else smaller. Although I do carry quite a bit in my thighs as well

I don't really know how to dress as plus sized lady but also

The issues: I have severe pelvic pain (PID and possibly endo) and some back pain (many herniated discs). So anything too tight around the pelvic area is pretty uncomfortable. Over the last ten years there has been a transition to comfortable clothes to the point where all I wear is t shirts up top and knit stretchy bottoms (think sweat pants but not as heavy). Almost always men's clothing. I wear a 2 XL mens in tops and bottoms. I actually think a smaller size is sometimes more flattering but it's uncomfortable after awhile. Especially on top due to my back. If the pants are stretchy enough I can sometimes get away with an XL on the bottom. I have also put on some​ in the last couple of months after being stable for many years so that is also complicating sizing a bit. I am about 260 lbs (up from around 245) and am 5' 6". I give this info only to help a little with proportion and sizing as it's been awhile since I wore women's clothes. I also deal with water retention sometimes and swelling and edema in my lower legs and feet. I also have very wide feet. They were on the wider size even when I was thin. That makes cute shoes a challenge. I also think not having good arch support for years has made my feet flatter and so now they are super wide. I can wear men's slide sandals that have an adjustable strap. Can't wear ones that don't. Even women's wides are not big enough. Last time I wore sneakers they were a Nike men's 4E width and they still felt tight/uncomfortable in the front half and toe box

I want to wear something dressier/nicer. The outfits I mentioned will not work in many settings..I am thinking about going down to see my LDR for the first time. I want to make a good impression on him and possibly his family

Anything cute, flattering, fashionable, or a little nicer that I won't feel miserable in? If I'm uncomfortable I will carry myself that way and that will also make a bad impression. Remember, we are coming from Walmart graphic tees and stretchy men's sleep bottoms so most things will be an upgrade

(Location is USA)

Thank you!!

Edit: Thank you so much everyone for the suggestions so far. I think some maxi dresses might be a good option. I will say I have some venus dermatitis (rash on lower legs due to edema) so I'm not totally confident in shorter lengths but I will play with it as legs as more forgiving way to show some skin. I also find bras Incredibly uncomfortable and I don't typically wear one. however I don't have much shape up top and things are pretty pendulous without one so that makes form fitting stuff tough. but I will keep trialing things

Had to go to the dentist yesterday and some grits would really hit the spot rn. What are some of your favorite grits around here? Burbs are fine too. Preferably not spicy but I am open