My mother keeps denying my health issues
I'm 20 F and I currently live with my mother.
To visit my medic, I need to make an appointment through the app. However, my mother has my "Account" and she refuses to give it to me because "I don't need it" and "I can just ask her to make an appointment for me". So I rely entirely on her to be able to visit the medic.
On mid June, I was told at the dentist that my wisdom teeth were growing very tilted towards my other teeth, hence the pain. Their removal needs to be done through surgery because of the complexity of it. And they recommended me to get it done by the Social Security (public healthcare) instead of a private dentist clinic, since it's free that way. The problem is that I need to make an appointment with my medic in order to be redirected to the Social Security. But I can't, simply because my mom never lets me make that appointment. There's always an excuse. "We'll make that appointment later", "not now", "I'm too tired"... Etc etc.
Today she had the audacity of saying "you have so much space on your mouth. Your teeth would look completely straight if not for your wisdom teeth."
That's a LIE. My teeth have ALWAYS been mounted on top of each other, on different layers because they have NEVER fitted in my mouth. I genuinely don't know why she said that because it's not true. And it made me so angry. She's always trying to downplay whatever happens to me. It's like she hasn't even bothered looking at my mouth, and she just said that out of the blue to pretend I'm fine.
But it's not just that. I've also been having regular chest pains since June. They focused slightly more on my left side and I was a bit worried that it could be heart related. They come for a few days and then leave for some other days or weeks before they return.
Again, my mother tried to downplay them by saying "it's just anxiety". I was completely relaxed, sitting and eating dinner when the last one started all of a sudden. Maybe she is right, but it doesn't look like anxiety to me at all. And even if it could be, would it be so hard to still go to the medic? I'm 20, I'm not even asking her to come with me so I don't know why she's so against the idea of me going to the medic. And mind you, she's the one always saying that I don't have anxiety because I'm the most "mentally strong one" out of my siblings (again, something that she completely made up. Because I recall spending my entire childhood crying and begging her not to make me go to my father's house every two weeks. That doesn't seem very mentally strong to me. But then again, she has always downplayed anything that happened to me).
My sister got 3 of her wisdom teeth removed not too long ago. Literally just because they were growing. They didn't cause her any pain, the roots weren't too deep, and they didn't press against her other teeth. In just a week she has almost recovered entirely. And she did it in a private clinic paying hundreds of euros, because there was no medical reason for her to get them removed through Social Security. Yet, everyone treats her like she's invalid. And I hate it so much. Because then my mother tells everyone that my issue isn't that important, even though it's literally moving my other teeth and causing constant inflammation and pain.
And there's way more than that. I couldn't see well for years. But for some reason she said that my vision would "correct in its own". So I never went to an optometrists until I could finally afford it by myself. Only to be told that I have a way higher prescription of myopia and astigmatism in one eye, which made it almost blind because my brain was only using the other one. She of course didn't help me pay the glasses. She just told me to ask my father if I needed more money, even though she knows that he kicked me out of his house and I haven't been in contact with him for a long time.
Everything is like this. And my sister on the other hand got treated like a fragile doll all her life. Anything that happened to her got exaggerated to its maximum, and they made it everyone's problem. I don't know why my mother is like this but it makes me super angry. I was literally going blind in one eye. I wonder what else is going to end messing up my life since I can't go to the doctor for anything.