u/Rough_Improvement_44

Location: NJ

My grandmother passed away about six years ago, my father seven. It was made clear with the language of the will that all his part of the share would be passed along to us, along with a share that was already put aside for us. It states the trust breaks when we turn 21 years old. We are both 22 now. I recently have a conversation with the executor (my aunt) and she keeps changing the details of when we will receive the inheritance. At first she said 19, then 21, now 24. Me and my brother hadn’t read the will till today, but it says the trustee fund should be broken at 21.

Is it an overreaction to get a lawyer? I don’t believe the money is there anymore, and I certainly don’t think my dad’s cut is there anymore either. The will very clearly outlined my grandmother wanted the money to A. Be given to us at 21 and B. It would be used for living expenses, purchasing a home, and college expenses. My aunt has flat out refused to allow either of us to use it for any of those reasons. I guess what I am really asking is, is it worth getting a lawyer? Don’t really have a lot of money, but I am not sure what else to do here. Thanks for your time.

I’ve been on my own since I was 17, working retail jobs and scrapping by. I have management experience and it’s been impossible for me to figure out how to get ahead. I am currently 22, and just got a job offer from a marketing firm that would pay 70k base, with commissions. I can’t even breathe right now, never in my life did I imagine an offer like that would come my way. The only issue is it’s 30 miles away, and I’d have to start soon. How insane would it be to motel/hotel hop until I can save up money to get a security deposit? I don’t want to lose this opportunity, just spending time on this sub here I know how rare something like this is and I just feel like I have to take it. There’s not much opportunity in my small rural town, I’d be living in a completely different part of the state. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. For full context 70k is more than double what I made last year. Thanks

EDIT: live in a very rural part of South NJ. Would be moving within minutes of Philadelphia. Also should of mentioned I don’t drive. Sorry

EDIT 2: just wanted to thank you all for your kind words, and those who have been sharing their stories. I am gonna take the job, my friend and I are gonna practice driving. It’s gonna suck a little bit, but within a couple months hopefully I’ll be able to figure it out.

Hello everyone! T.S ready who is about to get moved up at the end of the month. Nervous as all hell, I’ve ran shift a bunch of times on 2nd.

Never on 3rds though. To me it makes no sense to run out of deli and I really want to run out of beverage. I’d like to have the mod with me, just to show me things and teach anything else they can. If I put this person on register they will freak out and won’t stop complaining. If they aren’t in beverage they will freaked out. They are cross trained everywhere, this shouldn’t be an issue. In fact they usually do a nice job regardless of where they are, they just told me they don’t feel like doing the work the other stations require. I think it’s better for my development to practice running out of beverage, and I’d really rather have the MOD showing me things.

Another thing is she’s very pissy that she isn’t moving up and I am, there’s so much drama here for nothing. Come morning she’s just gonna tell the store how incompetent I am and how pissed she is that she’s up there. To keep peace should I run out of deli? Or should I make her go up there and run out of beverage? Thanks. At the end of the day that’s what I think is best for the night, regardless of how she feels.

Any advice from experience TSs or M levels would be greatly appreciated

Hi

Sorry didn't realize that I posted this.

For full context I work in retail management, live in South NJ. I wanted to know what are my best steps are to get welding, I feel like being so young (22) I have plenty of time build a real career. Sorry for this being so rushed, didn't even realize I posted.

I live with my (22) Boyfriend (25) and his grandma. I’ve been staying with them for about two years. Over those two years I’ve watched his grandmas health decline tremendously. Yesterday she had to be rushed to the hospital after I had to beg her to go the last couple of days.

The burnt out I feel is like I’ve never felt before. I work in retail management on overnight shifts, I’ll come home around 8 am and usually go to sleep, just to be woken up, sometimes within an hour for things that just aren’t emergencies. She dropped a sock one time and woke me up screaming about it. This happens every day. Most days I’ll be lucky to get more than four hours of sleep.

I was cleaning the space she uses up, and discover the cup she’s been using is full of mold. I never even thought to check it, didn’t realize how bad it’s gotten. And that’s the real crutch. I’ve completely failed. There’s always something going wrong, her doing something she shouldn’t. And somehow since I am home I am blamed for it.

My boyfriend’s family is pissy at me because of the cup and because of a lot of things. I am not equipped to handle any of this. I’ve gone months and months and months being told I have to stay awake to make sure she’s ok, or being woken up for the most nonsensical reasons. My BF barely helps. She needed help to get to her walker the other day and he got pissy after we collectively couldn’t do it, so he just went back to bed. I felt so bad, spent over 2 hours trying to help her get up and I couldn’t do it. She got really upset with me.

She’s incredibly weak, and isn’t doing well. I feel like this is all my fault. And she is in the ICU. If she passes away I am not sure I’ll ever not feel guilty about it. I don’t mind helping her, she would be way worse off if i didn’t. I just wish her family provided more support, my boyfriend helped out more, and that I guess I could do more. All my brain is telling me is that I could do better. Thanks

Next week I work with my boss which almost never happens. I am so nervous because I always need to hit my vape numerous times during a shift, and while I reflected on that I realized that I do hit it way too much at work. I have no self control, I burn through money buying so many a week.

I started vaping around 8 years ago, when a friend offered me a hit off his juul. I’ve been hooked ever since and it’s just progressively got worse. My mood changes rapidly and all I crave is nicotine. Both the chemical and the actual motion of moving my hands to my mouth

But during this reflection I realized I have such a major problem and I cannot stop.

If you have any advice on how get through these next couple of weeks it would be amazing. I threw all my vapes out, I need to do this for me.

I recently transferred back to a store in my hometown. I’ve been with my bf for about two years and at the time I very clearly communicated I’d like to remain in the closet. He was cool with that. I also made it clear that I didn’t want to be outed.

Fast forward to now and he has outed me, and two of his friends outed me, and I am sure it’s the case most people don’t care. But there’s a lot of people in that town who do. Am I overreacting to this? Should I just let it go? We just got into an argument about it and he told me I would never come out. It seems we both want different things. I was honestly ok with just taking my sexuality to the grave, only tell the absolute closest people to me and that’s that. But that’s been robbed of me and I am just so upset.

I honestly really feel unsafe rn. Especially in that town, in high school I got called every single slur in the damn book. People never really knew but had their ideas, and it’s already started back up. Got confronted by an old pastor of mine, and I really wish I could just live in peace. That’s all I wanted. And everyone involved in not keeping their fucking mouths shut has robbed me of that. Am I overreacting?

If I quit a job without notice will that follow me?

Hi. I work in retail management, I am 22 years old. Really don’t want to diminish what I do, because if you manage to get to the top you end up doing pretty ok. But it’s gonna years and years of grueling amounts of stress. And I really feel like I could do so much more with my life.

I hate my job, I was promoted without any real training and kept being put in positions of failure repeatedly. I got told numerous times by upper levels of management that I should not be where I am at, I have lies spread about me constantly (I am gay, engaged) and a rumor went around that I was sleeping with two of the other managers.

I put in for a transfer request, and my GM hates me for it. She went and told, in a meeting with other GMs that they do not want to have me in their stores. And I feel like she’s completely fucked me over with any real shot of succeeding with this company.

I’ve been shouted at, called useless, told so much stupid shit that I just can’t even imagine wanting to do it anymore.

I am so so afraid of being stuck in retail for the rest of my life. I cannot handle this, this feels like high school all over again with constant lies following and shit talking. I got really close with some people there and they all spread shit about me, lied about me. It’s really upset me, and I just don’t know where to go from here.

I have a little bit of money saved up, I am really not concerned with finances. I lived with my BF and his grandma, money wise we are ok for now.

He is so much against it. Like to such an unreal degree. He wants me to stay there for “20 years and make it a career”. He works for the same company, but atp but I might just move back in with my mom. And for full context, before I went to work for this company I worked for a church after high school while attending Bible college.

Went into debt for that, that debt is gone. I really think I can just commit to school full time again and qualify for scholarships (which I have) and get some decent aid as well.

My absolute dream right now is to go to a strong state school nearby, that I already got into and get a duel major in philosophy and biology.

Maybe I am dreaming too much, and while I really want a career in academia, I see myself getting a job with a nonprofit or something in the future.

Thank you for reading this, I really appreciate your time. Maybe I am delusional and dream too much, but I really feel so stuck.

Hi. I work in retail management, I am 22 years old. Really don’t want to diminish what I do, because if you manage to get to the top you end up doing pretty ok. But it’s gonna years and years of grueling amounts of stress. And I really feel like I could do so much more with my life.

I hate my job, I was promoted without any real training and kept being put in positions of failure repeatedly. I got told numerous times by upper levels of management that I should not be where I am at, I have lies spread about me constantly (I am gay, engaged) and a rumor went around that I was sleeping with two of the other managers.

I put in for a transfer request, and my GM hates me for it. She went and told, in a meeting with other GMs that they do not want to have me in their stores. And I feel like she’s completely fucked me over with any real shot of succeeding with this company.

I’ve been shouted at, called useless, told so much stupid shit that I just can’t even imagine wanting to do it anymore.

I am so so afraid of being stuck in retail for the rest of my life. I cannot handle this, this feels like high school all over again with constant lies following and shit talking. I got really close with some people there and they all spread shit about me, lied about me. It’s really upset me, and I just don’t know where to go from here.

I have a little bit of money saved up, I am really not concerned with finances. I lived with my BF and his grandma, money wise we are ok for now.

He is so much against it. Like to such an unreal degree. He wants me to stay there for “20 years and make it a career”. He works for the same company, but atp but I might just move back in with my mom. And for full context, before I went to work for this company I worked for a church after high school while attending Bible college.

Went into debt for that, that debt is gone. I really think I can just committed to school full time again and qualify for scholarships (which I have) and get some decent aid as well.

My absolute dream right now is to go to a strong state school nearby, that I already got into and get a duel major in philosophy and biology.

Maybe I am dreaming too much, and while I really want a career in academia, I see myself getting a job with a nonprofit or something in the future.

Thank you for reading this, I really appreciate your time. Maybe I am delusional and dream too much, but I really feel so stuck.

For full context I am 22, my boyfriend is 24. We got engaged recently and no one in my family really knows outside of my brother. My family would lose their shit if they found out.

I live in a really rural conservative area, and hear homophobic shit all the time. At work (I work in retail) I was up at the register giving a loan and the cashier asked if they were together, in the sense of paying together. This old guy was like “we are together, no not like that. You never know where those freaks could be today. Could be anyone”.

I hear shit like this every single day almost. From co-workers, customers. It just kills me. Also, I went to a private Christian school where I was told being gay was wrong and I see my former peers and teachers very often working this job. It was such an awful experience. I told them I was queer fairly early on, and they sent me to conversion therapy after talking my mom into it. The kicker outta all of this was after confiding in the adults at my school all my classmates found out. A few too many of my coworkers know only because they went to high school with my BF.

I think my biggest cause of concern is it slowly got around my job I am gay, and now everyone knows. And I am just afraid so much someone is gonna slip up to the wrong person. Or someone is gonna commit a hate crime. It took years and years for me to even accept the fact I was gay. To even be in a relationship is a huge step for me. And I am just so afraid every single day.

For full context I am 22, my boyfriend is 24. We got engaged recently and no one in my family really knows outside of my brother. My family would lose their shit if they found out.

I live in a really rural conservative area, and hear homophobic shit all the time. At work (I work in retail) I was up at the register giving a loan and the cashier asked if they were together, in the sense of paying together. This old guy was like “we are together, no not like that. You never know where those freaks could be today. Could be anyone”.

I hear shit like this every single day almost. From co-workers, customers. It just kills me. Also, I went to a private Christian school where I was told being gay was wrong and I see my former peers and teachers very often working this job. It was such an awful experience. I told them I was queer fairly early on, and they sent me to conversion therapy after talking my mom into it. The kicker outta all of this was after confiding in the adults at my school all my classmates found out. A few too many of my coworkers know only because they went to high school with my BF.

I think my biggest cause of concern is it slowly got around my job I am gay, and now everyone knows. And I am just afraid so much someone is gonna slip up to the wrong person. Or someone is gonna commit a hate crime. It took years and years for me to even accept the fact I was gay. To even be in a relationship is a huge step for me. And I am just so afraid every single day.

I work retail full time and I’ve been getting my ass handed to me lately.

I’ve gotten two promotions in 3 months despite saying I was ok being part time and staying where I was at. Instead of preparing me for my promotions they’ve kinda just thrown in spots and have given me zero training on how to perform my job. I’ve tried to step down numerous times and every time I’ve tried I’ve been told to “think about it”.

I don’t want to no call no show to quit, that doesn’t feel right. I am trying to get transferred to another store, but since I’ve “moved” into management I can’t control where I end up and the shit is so frustrating. I get treated by absolute garbage by all my coworkers and fellow MODs, I got berated the other day for being “useless” by one of my higher ups.

Also the schedule is literally insane. I work two overnights and then I work 3 1st. However they are consecutive. And they told me the whole point of this is to burn me out. Like it’s fucking nuts. I need a job rn but my hands feel tied. I finally decided to just go back to school and that still isn’t enough to persuade them to let me step down.

I honestly should just quit, I am so tired out from this job and no one seems to care. I just feel like a pawn in the system, a number, and so long as I don’t fuck up too much who cares.

I can’t imagine this being my life though. My GM has repeatedly told me that they think I can go far in the company, but I feel like that would be a devastating result for me.

To top things off my BF wants me to stay full time, even though my cost of living is fairly low and I really just cannot do this anymore. I feel like it’s been completely unfair and if they really wanted to keep me around they would have provided proper training, that I know happens at other stores.

Anyway what would you do if you were me? I want to keep my boyfriend happy, but I also want to start small at community college, and I want to build something better than this.