I’m 6’2 pre HRT, hoping to start this year. My height is probably my biggest insecurity after my voice. In most articles I haven’t seen height shrinkage as one of the HRT effects, but I have also sometimes seen individual people say they shrank up to 3 inches on HRT, is this common?
Ik kan bijna niet wachten
Ik ben best bereid hier voor te reizen, dus de locatie maakt mij niet heel veel uit
I know they all end at “ia”, but this isn’t a requirement. I’m discussing names with someone else and I like the first ones and she likes the third one, but none have really hit it for us both yet…
Op dit moment ben ik aan het experimenteren met het dragen van een pruik. Hierbij gebruik ik relatief goedkope sassy goods pruiken (40-80 euro). Het haar ziet er redelijk echt uit, maar de haarlijn en scheiding geven veel weg. Heeft iemand hier tips voor?
Helaas heb ik redelijk donker haar, dit maakt het niet makkelijker…
I’m very close to 6’2. For now I have only come out to my family, but planning to come out to more people and dress publically soon and hopefully get HRT this year.
Every time I’m in public, I can’t help but notice I’m taller than at least 99.5% of women and the majority of men. I know there are cis women taller than me. Karlie Kloss and Elizabeth Debicki are some celebrity examples of this and since I live in the Netherlands it’s not THAT uncommon to see tall women irl too.
But my problem isn’t just in the height, it’s in the fact that you get noticed easily too. I’m afraid that every flaw will get seen so much easier and combined with my height will make it much harder to pass. It’s like I’m already 1-0 behind…
How did you overcome this?
What kind of person comes to mind when you hear those names?
Zoals de titel al zei zijn dit twee vragen. Als iemand enkel het antwoord op 1 vraag weet is dat uiteraard ook oké
Ik (23) ben vandaag uit de kast gekomen bij mijn directe familie. Dankbaar ben ik voor de ongelofelijke acceptatie en support. Dit gaat zo ver, dat zij mij eigenlijk meteen de mogelijkheid willen geven om thuis als mijzelf te gaan leven.
Hierbij kwamen echter wel twee vragen bij mij op.
Allereerst wil ik mijn stem erg graag aanpassen. Dit is mogelijk mijn grootste onzekerheid, omdat deze stem mij elk moment herinnert aan het feit dat ik als man ben geboren. Daarnaast is dit in mijn ogen vrijwel onmisbaar voor passing (ik weet dat passing niet moet, maar dit is wel iets wat ik graag wil). Nu vraag ik mij af: heb ik een diagnose nodig om deze kosten vergoed te krijgen, of is dit standaard opgenomen in het basispakket? Ik vond dit lastig te vinden op Google.
Mijn tweede vraag gaat over het invriezen van zaad. Ik wil mijn kinderwens namelijk nog niet uitsluiten. Opnieuw vraag ik mij af: heb ik hier een verwijzing voor nodig? En verder: wat zijn de wachttijden hier normaal gesproken voor?
Dit speelt omdat ik graag wil “tucken”, maar ik heb anecdotisch begrepen dat dit de vruchtbaarheid (tijdelijk) kan verminderen. Uiteraard kan dit niet kloppen, maar ik neem liever het zekere voor het onzekere en wacht daarom liever met tucken tot het invriezen.
Alvast bedankt voor het antwoord!
Today I (23 mtf) came out to my family. There was some crying, but they did accept me and fully support me. I feel like I should be happy, but all the doubts and fears that build up over the last few months when I was trying to come out are still here. I want to be happy, but all I can think is “what if I’m making a very big mistake?”
Does this seem familiar? Any ideas on how to handle this? Am I making a mistake?
This is my (23 almost 24) biggest fear about transitioning. And I know that passing isn’t why you should transition, but I can’t help but fear it.
I’m not a very depressed person. I tolerate life as a man, but I don’t exactly like it and have always considered transitioning. I feel I’d be much more confident as a binary (trans) woman. If I could switch a button and woke up as a cis woman tomorrow, I would.
But I can’t. And now I’m scared of either situation:
- Continueing my okayish life, but possibly feel worse and worse and eventually either transition way later in life, or regret not having transitioned altogether
- Transitioning, but not passing. I can tolerate my tall stature (6’2, like Karlie Kloss and Elizabeth Debicki), but I’m scared my face will never pass (or pass initially but then not passing anymore as I age) and then not only get judged for it by myself, but also by society, probably making life a lot less easy to tolerate
It kind of feels like a gamble with my life… As if I am about to flip a coin hoping to pass and have the life I always wanted, or miss and be far worse off
I don’t think there has been any research to this topic, so I’m more asking for personal experience and what you possible heard from other trans women.
I have always been aware of short-term complications that may need to be fixed soon after with a second surgery. But yesterday I watched a video from Mathilda Hogberg, where she said she suddenly got a complication with peeing years after the initial surgery. Is this a common thing? Maybe I was naive, but I didn’t expect such stories…
Active players have been begging for a fix in the ore economy for over a year. Then they continue to partially fix it for everyone, EXCEPT active players. I’m sorry, but I’m not even gonna spend a penny on ores anymore until they fix this system in a way that’s fair for everyone.
If we want change, we have to stop spending. Money is the only language they speak at Supercell these days…
Ik ben trans vrouw en wil uiteindelijk graag HRT. Nu bedacht ik mij vanavond ineens dat mijn oma borstkanker heeft gehad en daaraan is overleden. Op dit moment is zij de enige in de familie en is er gelukkig bij geen andere familieleden borstkanker vastgesteld. Er is geen sprake van BRCA, maar mogelijk wel van dicht borstweefsel. Kan dit een reden zijn om geen HRT voorgeschreven te krijgen?
Hoi, voor ik begin wil ik even zeggen dat ik heel goed ben in het veel te veel nadenken over dingen. Dit helpt mij nu niet…
Ik ben transgender mtf (thuiswonend) en heb dit verteld aan mijn huisarts en de psycholoog waar ik naar ben doorgestuurd. Ik wil dit ook graag aan mijn familie vertellen, maar ik merk dat ik dit constant vermijd. Gedachten als “wat als ik mijn leven verpest en geen partner/vrienden/baan ga vinden?”, “wat als ik er nooit als een vrouw uit ga zien?” en “wat als ik spijt krijg?” komen steeds in mij op. Is dit normaal? En zo ja, wat kan ik hier tegen doen?
Alle reacties zijn welkom
PS: Ik verwacht geaccepteerd te worden door mijn familie, al zal dit misschien wel even heftig nieuws zijn (nog iets waar ik bang voor ben)
For starters: I overthink, a lot. I have come out to my GP and my therapist, but I obviously want to come out to more people, firstly my direct family.
I know they will accept me (after being shocked at first probably). But I’m so scared I’ll ruin my life instead of making it better.
I don’t have a bad life, but I really struggle to picture myself in it as a man. Why? I don’t know (this is part of what makes it harder to come out, because I can’t even explain it to myself). And what if I come out, and I’ll regret it? What if I can’t live as a woman? Can’t make friends, find a (male) partner? Regret not being able to get (my own) kids, can’t get a career? Will never pass?
I have so many fears, I’m scared that I’m taking the life I live now for granted and that I’m going to to regret it… Is this normal? Or am I really making the wrong choice?
This is a question my therapist asked and it’s a question I [mtf] have been struggling with for myself for a while. It’s something I wanted to figure out before I started the process, but I kinda figured it doesn’t really matter and all I know is that this is what I want and trying to find the answer would only make me wait longer.
But now that she asked it, I realized this will probably become a question I’ll get a lot from other people too. I’m thinking about coming out soon to people around me too (so far I only told my gp, therapist etc) and I figured having a way to describe my feelings would help?
I also feel like most answers I could reasonably think of are either nonsense (I like to be friends with women, but then why not just be friends with them as a man?) or straight up sexist (i’d like to wear makeup, cute clothes etc) and when I’d ask “how does a cis person know? I feel like the arguably transphobic response would often be “they look at what’s between their legs” or something…
Is there even a good answer for it? I’m struggling to find an answer and it’s so frustrating to not be able to explain what I feel
We have been texting a lot for sometime now. She said she moved to South Africa a few years ago for family reasons. She was always online a lot and said the only way she’d ever randomly leave is if she died (she said that after I asked if she could please let me know if she would ever leave).
Two days ago we were supposed to text at a set time. She left my messages a few hours prior on read (she never does that). The messages after were never read. Text messages weren’t delivered any longer and other apps (movies, streams on music platforms) completely stopped updating too. Conclusion: her phone is AND iPad are broken or disconnected from the internet and/or turned off completely.
She never was offline for more than a few hours and she said she would never leave randomly, so disappearing all of a sudden seems really strange to me. My biggest fears are an accident at home/the road, kidnapping or homicide.
I have used her first name, age and city to try and find news articles of such a thing happening, but I couldn’t find it. Her name isn’t on the list of missing persons either, but I don’t think all cases would show up there or become a news article, especially if it was an accident at home.
I’m completely lost and have no idea if there is still anything I can do.
I know my options are probably limited, but do you have any tips I can do? Is there a place where I can see if any fatal traffic accidents, kidnappings or homicide happened in a city for example?