u/Royal-March1482

Hey guys. I’m 19F from Southern California and looking for a women who has similar ethical beliefs to me to have a good friendship or possible relationship with. Preferably women in their 20s!
I love the outdoors, hiking, beach days, camping, and also love fashion, sewing, crochet, shopping, and trying different vegan cafes in the area.
If this sound like your type of fun, Message me!!
Preferably in so cal, but I’m open to people in NorCal. As long as you don’t lead me on for a few months then say you can’t do the distance between SoCal and NorCal haha.

About me and how I look:
5’8
Curly/wavy brunette hair (dyed blonde rn)

Love dressing up in very feminine styles, cottagecore dresses etc.

I recently came across a man who told me that women who read, particularly women who read romance novels, are an “ick” to him, especially if they read about topics like love triangles, unrealistic hero male, enemies to lovers, tropes. I asked why? And it really got me thinking about how I think this stems from misogyny! I think it has its roots in female desire being demonized , along with female sexuality being demonized. For centuries, it’s women, who need to be virgins when they get married, whilst men went to brothels etc and didn’t keep the same amount of abstinence, married women who are expected to please ther husbands whenever they want, stoned for having an affair, while nothing happened to Men who have affairs. Even in history, doctors called normal sexual feelings in females “hysteria”. So as we know, female desire has been repressed throughout history, and STILL is being repressed in some countries. And it exists in smaller forms, in western countries like being repulsed by women who read romance. In my opinion, men who are threatened by women who read romance, feel this way because they can not fathom a women experiencing romantic, or sexual desire beyond a world that revolves around men. Romance books for women are heavily made by women, for women. It’s the only expression of female desire that doesn’t revolve around pleasing a man, because they read about what they like. It’s a safe way to explore desire without a relationship or sex without men, and also men feel threatened because I see a lot of them complaining that it gives women “unrealistic standards” when it comes to relationships. Due to the centuries of female romantic and sexual suppression, it’s now unattractive to men when they don’t have complete control over women’s expression of sexuality.

What do you guys think?

I noticed a new discourse online and on X, about how it’s homophobic if a woman doesn’t want to date a Bi man. And I find the whole discourse so misogynistic, because why do people think they can control what a women’s preference is when it comes to men they’re attracted to ? If a woman learns a man is bi, and doesn’t want to have intimacy with him and is turned off. That’s her right , and she can do that. And it’s nobody right to shame her, calling her a homophobe and all these names because she’s not interested. It really shows the depth of how society controls the female body and what it does, that even though they deny it and are “pro woman” and feminist, it crosses into so called progressive spaces. Women don’t owe their bodies, emotional investment, and time, to anyone. Regardless of the reason, if it’s “homophobic” or not. It makes me think about how entitled all men are, regardless if they’re heterosexual or gay/bi, even though people like to ignore and brush over the misogyny of gay and bi men, and makes me sad all the women hopping on this “homophobic” bandwagon not seeing the misogynistic undertones and entitlement of this whole convo.

I noticed a new discourse online and on X, about how it’s homophobic if a woman doesn’t want to date a Bi man. And I find the whole discourse so misogynistic, because why do people think they can control what a women’s preference is when it comes to men they’re attracted to ? If a woman learns a man is bi, and doesn’t want to have intimacy with him and is turned off. That’s her right , and she can do that. And it’s nobody right to shame her, calling her a homophobe and all these names because she’s not interested. It really shows the depth of how society controls the female body and what it does, that even though they deny it and are “pro woman” and feminist, it crosses into so called progressive spaces. Women don’t owe their bodies, emotional investment, and time, to anyone. Regardless of the reason, if it’s “homophobic” or not. It makes me think about how entitled all men are, regardless if they’re heterosexual or gay/bi, even though people like to ignore and brush over the misogyny of gay and bi men, and makes me sad all the women hopping on this homophobic bandwagon not seeing the misogynistic undertones and entitlement of this whole convo

I noticed a new discourse online and on X, about how it’s homophobic if a woman doesn’t want to date a Bi man. And I find the whole discourse so misogynistic, because why do people think they can control what a women’s preference is when it comes to men they’re attracted to ? If a woman learns a man is bi, and doesn’t want to have intimacy with him and is turned off. That’s her right , and she can do that. And it’s nobody right to shame her, calling her a homophobe and all these names because she’s not interested. It really shows the depth of how society controls the female body and what it does, that even though they deny it and are “pro woman” and feminist, it crosses into so called progressive spaces. Women don’t owe their bodies, emotional investment, and time, to anyone. Regardless of the reason, if it’s “homophobic” or not. It makes me think about how entitled all men are, regardless if they’re heterosexual or gay/bi, even though people like to ignore and brush over the misogyny of gay and bi men, and makes me sad all the women hopping on this homophobic bandwagon not seeing the misogynistic undertones and entitlement of this whole convo