u/S0ccerMomPam

So I 21m just got a job offer for my first IT job! I got offered 29 an hour which is crazy to me (for reference the last job I worked 2 years ago was 19/hr). last time I was working my mom wanted 50% of my wages for rent and bills which was about what they'd be if you split them. Before telling her I got this job I decided to lie and say the offers for 22/hr and I'm so glad I did because now she wants more money. she wants to split as if we're roommates which is absurd considering the amount of stuff I do for her. I just feel so shitty cause I had to lie and I don't get to tell her about what I'm actually worth or else she'll want more. I feel like I did the right thing but idk. A few of my friends are confused on why I lied and feel like it's bad to lie so I pay less but I don't feel like she deserves more. she's made my life hell.

I've been losing my mind with this phone. I've tried 3 routers and it still disconnects every 20 minutes or so. I turned off adaptive connectivity and Ive tried messing with my recent routers band settings. is this normal? is there anything I can do about it or do I just have to accept it?

So I'm new to IT as a career field but I've done lots of freelance support. I just got my first interview as an onsite technician and idk what to do, I wasn't really expecting to get a response. it's a 1 hour panel interview, I feel like I have the necessary experience (except a AAS which I'm currently getting). but I'm so inexperienced with interviewing and worried I'll be unprepared. any advice would be really appreciated! I'm also just so excited to be actually considered. thanks!

I've been on 300xl for over 6 months and it's been great but every so often I'll get intense mood drops at night for very little reason. I'm just wondering if there's something I should do differently or if it's normal. thanks 🩷

for reference I have a lot of hobbies some I'm better at than others but whenever I try to actually take time to improve I get way too overwhelmed and realize how little I know. it's really getting in the way of everything especially school. I'm in for cyber security and I really don't understand much of the basics and it's just so overwhelming. I never went to school until 8th grade and since then it feels like I'm just trying to catch up with basic stuff everyone else learned a decade ago. I started antidepressants 6 months ago and they've really helped but when I try to learn stuff I crumble. it's not the being bad that's the problem it's that I feel so lost I don't even know what I'm doing badly. I really need to stop not learning stuff because I know it'll be a big deal the farther into school I get and I would like to not feel useless (even though I know Im not). any advice would really help. I don't wanna let myself keep in the pity party and I want to just move on. thanks so much!

I 21m came home from a friend's house and my mom alerted me that she's taking the week off work (good for her she needs some time off) and then proceeded to tell me to ask my friends if I can stay for the week cause she wants the house to herself. yeah no one I know would agree for such a dumb reason nor would I want my life flipped upside down for no more reason than cause she feels like it. I haven't left the past couple days and I can tell she's upset to see me but I'm not giving in. she's also been constantly humiliating me, I leave the sponge dirty and I apologize (that's on me) and she then starts talking about how I'm autistic or whatever cause I don't like using a sponge. like wtf I admitted I messed up and I won't next time. idk how I'm supposed to have an enjoyable life when this is who I share my life with.

I've been running a home lab the past few years and every time I have to touch software stuff it's like pulling teeth. the amount of times I've just reinstalled everything cause I have no clue what I'm doing. I don't understand why I struggle so much understanding docker and Linux considering I've been trying to use them for years now. I don't even know what to look up to learn how to solve my issues. I'm just wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience?

So I'm in a weird situation where I can't really make much smell cause my mom will get upset and I've worked around it mostly but I can't figure out veggies. I love steamed veggies and cooked in soy sauce but I can't make them like that because of the smell. any suggestions for veggies I can make that won't make much smell or do I just have to batch cook them when I'm allowed?

EDIT: thanks so much for the advice and support honestly. Didn't really realize how not normal this is cause it's always been like this. 🩷

I currently am running kubuntu and my wifi speed is really slow like under 30mbps. I've tried changing the power savings settings for it and I've stared at the Intel driver page and just don't understand how to install it or update it or anything 😭. any help is appreciated

So this morning I woke up and played some games with friends on call, pretty normal thing to do. I got a call from my gf about plans and it was about as normal as it can be. Well when I walked downstairs my mom asks who where you talking to? I just said a bunch of people which is true. About 5 minutes later she asks "who did you say I love you to?" LIKE WTF MY GF OBVIOUSLY. I'm 21 and I was in my room with the door closed why in the world is she not only listening in but quizzing me on it. I said my gf and she responded with "awe you love her?" 😐 Bro ofc I do what kinda condescending question is that. For years I've had a feeling she was listening but never any proof so I just figured I was paranoid but no... And I genuinely didn't say anything of substance. Like I wasn't yelling stuff or being mean just playing games with friends. I've genuinely never felt more disgusted at a person in my life and now I feel like I can't talk at all when I'm home. Like the things I'm able to do at home are shrinking really fast. Anyways I left immediately after she said that stuff and had a lovely day with my gf so life's not all bad 😁🩷

I 21m live with my dBpd mom and I'm currently unemployed and on summer break. She goes to work at 8pm and I'm feeling so stuck. I have to wait almost the whole day to feel comfortable in the house. It feels like all my friends are busy and idk what to do. I end up trapped in my room but I can only sit for so long (back issues). I don't wanna spend my whole day avoiding and trying to escape reality. Thanks as always y'all are great 🩷

My dBPD mom has always been critical of how I look and I've realized it's absolutely destroyed my self image. She's always been critical of my hair so I wear a hat almost 247 and shes super critical of my posture and it's really gotten to me. I refuse to look in a mirror or even go in the bathroom with the light on. I can't make myself buy new clothes or wearing anything but old worn out work clothes. I recently lost 30lbs since my surgery and with summer coming up I really really want to try and feel comfortable out in the world. I'm on buspirone which really helped with depression but it's still rough. I know I need a haircut but I'm just way too scared. I hate that they have a huge mirror right there. Idk I just wanna stop living my life doing everything to avoid any attention. Any ideas are helpful y'all are always so great, thanks!

So I've gotten to the point with my BPD mom where I don't tell her anything meaningful about my life. Everytime I have something good to say she instantly ruins it for no reason. I don't have any other family nearby and I've always shared a house with her. It just feels so isolating because I'm doing really good for myself and I just can't tell anyone the stuff I'm proud of, I just have to lie and pretend like I did nothing for myself. How do y'all deal with this feeling? Recently I actually could not believe just how childish she could be. Her AC broke so I bought a used one for her and made a frame outta wood to fit it and she wouldn't talk to me for an hour and nonstop arguing cause apparently it was so bad. It took me like 3 hours to pry a half assed thanks out. It's so fucking frustrating because I did everything right, usually id complain or wait a while to do something but I didn't and she still has the nerve to look me dead in the eye after I fixed her problem and complain it's not good enough.

I 21m am disabled slightly (spinal issues) I can do most things but sitting and lifting are difficult and dangerous. I'm in full time online college and my mom wants to make me move to the garage and have other people move in so she can live somewhere else? I finally got a standing desk cause sitting for school has been difficult and she told me to leave it in the garage cause I'll move down there?! Like no I need to do my schoolwork now and it's my desk. She's being so absurd and I just can't say anything or it's worse. She also was talking to my gf weird when they were alone, she was like oh he can do all your finances and make your resumes cause he does for me. Like apparently I don't get a say in doing people's financial work in her mind. I'm so just so exhausted with her. Luckily I have some stuff planned tomorrow so I can avoid her but still.

My 2018 sv650 has a little under 10k miles and on the freeway no matter what I try it feels super unstable and I'm constantly weaving around. It's difficult to go faster than 70 cause how unstable it feels. I thought it was my front tire cause it was cupped but I just replaced it and it's still about the same. Any ideas on what it could be? I was thinking maybe head bearing loose? Thanks!