u/Sad_Specialist_7970

I [24F] am too poor to marry my boyfriend [23M]

I (24F) have been dating my boyfriend (23M) for almost 3 years. We're serious about a future together. For some context, we're both Indians so the culture here makes things really hard when it comes to dating. We've been discussing our future together and our biggest issue is that ever since his parents have been aware of our relationship, they've been against it. Thing is, they don't even know me as a person, but his parents, especially his father, wants him to marry rich. Which is something I'm not. I don't have familial wealth. My father never graduated and hasn't been working for the last 8 years. The house runs on money pitched in by relatives and some money that my mother makes from taking tuition for kids. His father has a small scale architecture/construction firm and wants my boyfriend to take over after him. My boyfriend and I are both architects. We're graduating architecture school this August. But his father wants him to marry into a wealthy family so that it helps him with networking and getting contacts to further the business. His parents will never agree to our relationship simply because I don't come from money. My boyfriend's only choice is to choose between his family and me. And it's not just his parents, but the whole extended family gets involved because for some crazy reason, that's just how his family functions. Anyway, the only way that this ends is if he chooses between the two of us, and I'm not even entirely sure if he'll choose me, although he says he will, but even if he does, I'm afraid he'll come to despise me sometime in the future for being the reason why he lost his family. I really don't want to end this relationship with him, but each day is getting harder and I just don't know what to do. I don't know if I'm seeking advice or comfort. I just don't have anybody to talk to about this and.. hopefully someone can help me through this? I don't know. I'm sorry, I'm just really hurt, confused and feel like I'm worthless. This isn't something I can change. This isn't something I control. I'm not trying to put my boyfriend down or brag about myself, but I've studied in better schools than him, we went to the same college and it's the best in the city. My CGPA is more than a whole point greater than his, I have better communication and conversational skills, and yet, it all just comes down to the money I have or the money my family has. It's just very frustrating. I feel lost.

TLDR; Boyfriend's family thinks I'm not wealthy enough to marry him irrespective of my character and qualifications

I [24F] am too poor to marry my boyfriend [23M]

I (24F) have been dating my boyfriend (23M) for almost 3 years. We're serious about a future together. For some context, we're both Indians so the culture here makes things really hard when it comes to dating. We've been discussing our future together and our biggest issue is that ever since his parents have been aware of our relationship, they've been against it. Thing is, they don't even know me as a person, but his parents, especially his father, wants him to marry rich. Which is something I'm not. I don't have familial wealth. My father never graduated and hasn't been working for the last 8 years. The house runs on money pitched in by relatives and some money that my mother makes from taking tuition for kids. His father has a small scale architecture/construction firm and wants my boyfriend to take over after him. My boyfriend and I are both architects. We're graduating architecture school this August. But his father wants him to marry into a wealthy family so that it helps him with networking and getting contacts to further the business. His parents will never agree to our relationship simply because I don't come from money. My boyfriend's only choice is to choose between his family and me. And it's not just his parents, but the whole extended family gets involved because for some crazy reason, that's just how his family functions. Anyway, the only way that this ends is if he chooses between the two of us, and I'm not even entirely sure if he'll choose me, although he says he will, but even if he does, I'm afraid he'll come to despise me sometime in the future for being the reason why he lost his family. I really don't want to end this relationship with him, but each day is getting harder and I just don't know what to do. I don't know if I'm seeking advice or comfort. I just don't have anybody to talk to about this and.. hopefully someone can help me through this? I don't know. I'm sorry, I'm just really hurt, confused and feel like I'm worthless. This isn't something I can change. This isn't something I control. I'm not trying to put my boyfriend down or brag about myself, but I've studied in better schools than him, we went to the same college and it's the best in the city. My CGPA is more than a whole point greater than his, I have better communication and conversational skills, and yet, it all just comes down to the money I have or the money my family has. It's just very frustrating. I feel lost.

TLDR; Boyfriend's family thinks I'm not wealthy enough to marry him irrespective of my character and qualifications

I (24F) have been dating my boyfriend (23M) for almost 3 years. We're serious about a future together. For some context, we're both Indians so the culture here makes things really hard when it comes to dating. We've been discussing our future together and our biggest issue is that ever since his parents have been aware of our relationship, they've been against it. Thing is, they don't even know me as a person, but his parents, especially his father, wants him to marry rich. Which is something I'm not. I don't have familial wealth. My father never graduated and hasn't been working for the last 8 years. The house runs on money pitched in by relatives and some money that my mother makes from taking tuition for kids. His father has a small scale architecture/construction firm and wants my boyfriend to take over after him. My boyfriend and I are both architects. We're graduating architecture school this August. But his father wants him to marry into a wealthy family so that it helps him with networking and getting contacts to further the business. His parents will never agree to our relationship simply because I don't come from money. My boyfriend's only choice is to choose between his family and me. And it's not just his parents, but the whole extended family gets involved because for some crazy reason, that's just how his family functions. Anyway, the only way that this ends is if he chooses between the two of us, and I'm not even entirely sure if he'll choose me, although he says he will, but even if he does, I'm afraid he'll come to despise me sometime in the future for being the reason why he lost his family. I really don't want to end this relationship with him, but each day is getting harder and I just don't know what to do. I don't know if I'm seeking advice or comfort. I just don't have anybody to talk to about this and.. hopefully someone can help me through this? I don't know. I'm sorry, I'm just really hurt, confused and feel like I'm worthless. This isn't something I can change. This isn't something I control. I'm not trying to put my boyfriend down or brag about myself, but I've studied in better schools than him, we went to the same college and it's the best in the city. My CGPA is more than a whole point greater than his, I have better communication and conversational skills, and yet, it all just comes down to the money I have or the money my family has. It's just very frustrating. I feel lost.