Lack of grandparents for your kids?
I wanted to see if anyone can relate. I grew up very close to all 4 of my grandparents and spent holidays, birthdays and often random weekends with them and I loved it as a child.
Fast forward now, my wife and I (both 32) have a 1 year old boy and his grandparent situation is…not great unfortunately. We also don’t live in the state we grew up in so we aren’t close to family either and moving back isn’t an option (HCOL).
Cons:
My wife doesn’t talk to her dad much (neglected her much of her adult life, alcoholic) and he’s never met our son.
My mom who I thought was going to be a wonderful grandmother and a focal point in my son’s life just hasn’t been there for us starting at the end of my wife’s pregnancy. One thing has led to another and she has yet to meet our son. We also haven’t spoken since early May. She had a plethora of issues that she needs to figure out and this is really upsetting to me as I never expected things to be like this ever.
Pros:
My Dad has visited a bunch since he’s been born and has spent time with us, but comes alone as we have issues with my mom. He’s in a tough situation and I feel for him as well because he has to deal with my mom.
My wife’s mom has been absolutely wonderful. Visits us frequently and spent a whole month with us in the very beginning as my wife had a major complication after her C-section. She’s a true grandmother and is amazing.
With all that being said, I guess 2/4 grandparents are better than none I just long for I guess “both” grandparents to be deeply involved, together? Idk.
I’m also an only child so he’ll have no aunts or uncles from my side and just a half brother on my wife’s side.
Anyone else in a situation like this?