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What do you think of Sherlock's addiction arc? Opinions? (all welcome!)

Personally, I love it - I think it brings loads of depth to his character and removes him from simply being a genius detective with a cool talent which to me is boring. I love the concept of him having a traumatic childhood that leads into a lot of his destructive, self-hating tendencies. It humanizes him.

That said , Moftiss made a mess of it. As someone who grew up around addiction, the way they wrote it into the series is frankly offensive. I don't like how they portrayed him as "choosing" to use, coming and going with it voluntarily as he pleased. That is literally not how substance abuse works. And then the complete lack of a real detox in S4 really did it in for me lol. No one coming off hard drugs is sitting in a chair quietly drinking tea.

I still love the concept. I wish they'd done a better job with it. It felt like an afterthought in S3. If they'd actually done research and written it properly, and weaved it into moments all throughout the entire show starting in S1, it could have been a really powerful character arc. Sadly...

I am trying to get back into it. All I did was draw 24/7 growing up (constantly in trouble at school because of it). I stopped sometime in college and never have again since (now 34).

When I used to draw, it was animated fandom art for whatever my hyperfixation was at the time.

I am not into fandoms anymore. I love Sherlock, but I am tired of hyperrealism and don't like "cartoonizing" live-action characters. I am not into landscapes or 'abstract' types of art. I like to portray emotional scenes but have no idea where to start and no style. I open a canvas and just stare at it, eventually abandoning it and entering another no-draw phase for months/years. People tell me to "just start drawing and see where it takes you" but I can't do that successfully. My brain refuses to put pen to paper if I have zero ideas/direction.

Any ideas or even just solidarity welcomed!

So I am in contact with a DJ (thanks everyone on my previous post who helped with this) and he's going to give me a call tomorrow to discuss my "vision".

I've only been to one wedding in my life, that was extraordinarily tiny with no DJ so I have no idea what to say to him. If you discussed something similar with your DJ, what did you say?

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I'm trying to figure out how to dress this spot up more so it's not just the basic retaining wall. It's already beautiful to begin with but the 'alter' spot itself is pretty bland. I need some creative ideas that are achievable on a tight budget. Florals are outrageously expensive for no reason and we aren't allowed to use fake ones for obvious reasons. Is it hopeless lol? If anyone has creative thoughts I'd appreciate them. Thanks!

(censored the title because stupid things get removed for stupid reasons lol)

Tailgaiting and overall aggressive behavior on the road really piss me off. I kind of thought.... maybe let's not provoke. Let's gently suggest instead.

So I got a sticker that says, "drive safe, someone loves you". I still get tailed, but it's SIGNIFICANTLY less than before. So if you're looking for a way to get raged drivers to take a step back and think about wtf they're doing, this helps a lot.

Edit: I'm not asking for advice or your opinion and/or assumptions on my tailgating experiences, or what you do in tailgating situations. My post is: hey, this is a nice sticker that just sends a message, and is not me interacting with that driver in any way, shape, or form once the sticker has been placed.

It's simply there as a reminder to that person and that is literally it. This a classic case of someone posting something basic, "hey I got this sticker", and people coming up with what they think is my entire life story. There is basically no call for negative comments whatsoever, because I have not indicated anywhere that anything negative is occurring (the opposite in fact, seeing as my actions have had a positive effect).

I had a goal of cutting social media and phone use. I achieved that, for a while had a lot of replacement behaviors (the typical hobbies/activities everyone lists) but slowly over time it turned into a laptop addiction. So still have excessive screen time, the device just changed.

I still have no social media except reddit. I will literally scroll through random shit that I've already seen 17 times. I'll flip through random files in my google drive. Literally anything to avoid doing anything else. I have ADHD severely (actually diagnosed by a psychiatrist) so that doesn't help. Doing the replacement activities is exceptionally hard. Even if for some reason I don't have access to the devices, I will pace, stare at walls, stim, and otherwise still do nothing but just without a screen. My brain is not interested in cleaning, working out, reading (never liked reading), or any of the typical things people do that are screen-free. I do get into moods where I do these things but it never lasts more than a few days. I do work out, I am a runner and I am in shape, but it's something that I can only do so often without getting injured.

Please help, because I'm at my wits end. Ideally someone with ADHD or another executive dysfunction disorder because it's hard for neurotypicals to understand how hard this is compared to the average individual trying to do this. I am sick of spending 8+ hours of my day on my computer.

We're hiring a quartet for the ceremony, but are already over budget without his suit, cake, and without a DJ. I can't find any DJs in my area under 1500. Simply not doable for us. We're already in the negative without other necessities 😭 And for the record, we are DIYing as much as possible. I am doing all stationary myself, for example.

Did anyone have a successful reception with no DJ? How did you operate music? Did a family member/friend take care of it for you?

Grading has been a struggle for me to really get a proper grasp on the past 3 years teaching 2nd grade.

Do you enter assignments into a grade book? What do you do for kids who don't finish assignments or turn them in? Do no-names get a zero that contributes to their grade? How do you turn your grade book into a report card grade? (we do 1,2,3,4 with 1 being fail and 4 being exemplary)

I am genuinely really tired of people being nasty and saying horrific things to strangers for no reason whatsoever. I mean this both IRL and on reddit. We are all struggling out here, just trying to survive and function in what seems to be a slowly crumbling and deteriorating society. No one needs to be told to "staple their fingers to a table" for asking a random question about nothing serious in any way. Utterly harmless stupid shit. Or to "go __ yourself", or "you deserve to get in a car crash", or "you don't deserve anything good in life". Like............... ok.

Why though?? I don't get it. I don't get what comes about from being so horribly cruel to someone you don't know, for no reason at all. It's just draining. And having ADHD/a severe sensitivity to people's perception of me and being attacked for no reason at all is damaging. I shouldn't care, I wish it was easier not to. But when it's just a day-in-day-out thing, at some point it just gets hard to ignore.

I genuinely just want to know what other's opinions are on this. I have no familiarity with weddings because I have literally been to one in my entire life (crazy, I know). And that one singular wedding was RSVP by website, I didn't receive a physical invite - the invite was her sending me the website. We plan on sending out physical save-the-dates, but I feel like the invite/RSVP process being digital would just be so much easier both on us and the guests.

I have a love hate relationship with summer break. On one hand, I really appreciate the break and not having to wake up early (hate mornings, always have). But on the other, the lack of structure crashes my mental health to the ground.

I have ADHD inattentive type (diagnosed, not medicated) and a lack of forced structure messes with me. And most people think, "well, just create a routine and follow it." but what people don't get is that the executive function issues that come with ADHD can be severe. I need something that will have a severe immediate consequence if it isn't done. Like losing my job. I can't even get myself to do taxes until the day before and there is the looming deadline - I was the same all through school with schoolwork.

I am surrounded by teachers living their best life and I feel really odd sitting over here with deteriorating mental health. I can't get myself to do simple things, like working out or house chores, because there is no sense of urgency or consequence. Trying to get myself to do tasks, even if they are desired tasks that I literally want to do, is like trying to nail jello to a wall.

Just venting. And wondering if anyone else feels this way. I'm not looking for advice, because there is basically nothing that can be done about this, but some solidarity would be nice. I feel like I am the only teacher on earth who hates summer break.

Tiny little unassuming place tucked away in a residential area with the best sushi I have had in the U.S. - as someone who lived in Asia for 5 years. It's always a wasteland when I go in there and they need more business full stop.

One of my least favorite things to deal with right now is constant novelty seeking. I don't know how people have an interest, an aesthetic, a personality, a room design/layout, a car, a hobby, an anything at all that they just...have. Constantly. It never changes. They don't need to rearrange their room or change the aesthetic every 2 weeks. They don't need to change the appearance/themes of their screens every other day. They just know who they are and stay that way. I'm jealous.

Right now, my burnout is primarily stemming from my job. I am a 2nd grade teacher, and I LOVE my job, but I have to constantly change everything. My classroom needs rearranged, the theme needs to change, I need a different lesson planner/notebook, I need new procedures, I need to change my work wardrobe, I need to change my lanyard, I need to completely redesign the look of my teaching slides. I spend HOURS doing these things. Particularly the lesson planner and slides. I use them for a few weeks and need to change them again. I even want to switch schools sometimes just for the change of scenery even though I love my colleagues and school and have no good reason to move.

I have been like this since as early as I can remember. I remember trying to rearrange my bedroom when I was like 6 years old.

I don't mind changing things up. It's just exhausting, time consuming, and costs a lot of money (and wastes it). It's ironic too how I do not respond well at all to actual life changes, like having to change jobs (by force, not choice), losing a colleague at work, adjusting to something that happens that changes my routine, etc.

I just need to know what anyone else has done to combat this if you too experience this. I am in my mid thirties and desperate for stability and consistency. My brain just refuses to cooperate.

Horray!!! Finally. Only took, what, 2+ years?

I want to preface this by saying I am not depressed. I am neurodivergent, but have a job I love and am physically active. When I get home, all I want to do is sit down and watch youtube. My house is perpetually dirty because I get a spark to clean maybe once a year. My livingroom sits collecting dust because I am always in my bedroom which is also a mess. My lack of executive function to clean carries over to cooking as well. I cook maybe twice a week on a good week, usually I'm digging through pantry stuff and eating whatever I can find that is easy even if not the healthiest or nutrient dense enough. I am about to turn 34 and most days I low key still feel like the 16 year old me always staked out in my bedroom on my computer.

It's not like I can't do shit - I clearly am committed to my job and do it well, and I usually workout 3-4 times a week. So it feels like laziness, but really I know it is related to my ADHD and executive dysfunction with non-preferred tasks.

I just can't seem to be better about this. I can't just carry on neglecting my health and the state of my living space.

I had really excellent admin the past 2 years, who are both leaving and going back to teaching. It was a huge shock to everyone and has been emotionally really hard to accept. Now that the initial grieving stage has passed though I've begun to reflect. I was with them 2 years (they've both been there for 7) but each of those years felt almost like a different school with how dramatically things changed. People constantly get moved grade levels against their will instead of someone being hired for that vacancy. And often aren't told they're moving until a week out from the last day of school. One of my colleagues just found out yesterday with less than a week left. Our entire special area/lunch/recess schedule changed dramatically from last year to this year. And now, with 6 days to go, they have already made huge shifts for next year to leave us off with.

I see other teachers who have been in the same spot for 5+ years with nothing about their schedule ever changing. I am just wondering how normal/common my situation is. I just assumed it was everywhere but now that I am observing other schools from afar I see that it may not be the case even within my own district.

I am a teacher and looking into possibly starting a run club this next school year. It would be something very laid back and meant for fun, not competition. Problem is, my school doesn't have a track. There is a paved path that circles the building but it is for the car rider line so it is full of cars before and after school. I am going to talk to my admin obviously, but also wondering if anyone has unique/creative ideas to accommodate the club without a track.

I am pretty solid in my belief that most people, in my experience, do not have anyone else's best interests in mind. They are constantly ruining everything. Crime, violence, making fun things not fun, being just a deliberate jerk, etc.

That said, I can be very spiteful and nasty about it. I really want to be that person that just 'kills them with kindness' but every time I try it's like literally gritting my teeth because it doesn't feel like that person deserves it.

Can anyone say something that will get through to my stupid brain that being a bitch back isn't helping anything? And that not reacting (outwardly) is the best route to not provoke and work myself up even more than I already am at their assholery?

Hey all. Out of the blue my memories page has started showing me the same posts. I've seen the same posts "on this day" for like 5 days in a row now with the date on the post changing. One post was posted April 28, and has showed up every day since then with the date changing each day accordingly 29/30/May 1st and now 2nd. There's also somewhat variety in the posts - about 60% the same posts from the past few days, and the other 40% posts actually new maybe from this actual date but every time I refresh something different shows.

Never had this happen before and I'm so confused. I don't know when it started because I was off FB for like 7 months for a break, and just logged back in and it's like this.