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Today on the way home from work, I asked my husband if it was ok if I stopped at a store about a 20 minute drive out of the way before coming back. He responded “I have never told you you can’t spend money or go places, you’re acting like I’m horrible and controlling”

I was simply asking to see if he had plans for my usual return time, since he would never voluntarily tell me his plans. Just trying to be respectful and let him know my plans and make sure I wasn’t going to inconvenience him.

Do avoidants truly see letting someone know where you are/your plans as being controlled? Has anybody else experienced anything like this? Is me asking first instead of just doing what I want triggering somehow?

I have a buried power line that supplies my house. A few years ago a cherry pit turned into a seedling about 2 foot away from the line. I let it grow that summer without thinking about the line and I can’t believe how insanely fast this tree has grown. It’s now about 10 feet tall. I’m wondering about the roots interfering with the line. What kind of potential damage and dangers am I looking at here and how can I check? (And this is my dumb bonus question of the day- do you think proximity to this line made the tree grow so fast? Like a supercharged plant haha. I had a tomato seed grow into a monster in the same place one year! ) I hate that I have to cut this down because it’s a nice little tree!