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Hi everyone

So I’ve been married for 27 years and most of those years I have been the sole financial provider and involved parent. We have 7 kids, 3 are minors.
Basically a married single mom. In my older years, I’m 45, I have decided I want to work on making myself happy.
I have brought up divorce but he refuses to leave. I am looking at some consultations to start the divorce process. Honestly I don’t think he loves me and I’m just a convenience for him. There is no physical reason he can’t work, he just doesn’t. My issue right now is that he has threatened to hurt himself if we divorce and I don’t know how to handle that. Has anyone else had experience with this and did it change your decision to divorce?

Hi, I am a busy married mom and sometimes feel so overwhelmed. I have a good career and wonderful kids but life can feel chaotic with all the responsibilities. It would be nice to just disconnect here and there and have someone to chat with! Does anyone else feel the same?

I have been married for 27 years most years were not great. I had reasons I needed to stay but now I could be on my own and be fine. I just can’t find the guts to leave. I keep trying to tell him how I feel but he always turns it into something I did wrong. I know I deserve to be happy and our kids are old enough to see how he badly he treats me. I don’t know why I keep making excuses for him.How did you find the guts to leave, what was your starting point to get the ball rolling?

I have been married for 27 years most years were not great. I had reasons I needed to stay but now I could be on my own and be fine. I just can’t find the guts to leave. I keep trying to tell him how I feel but he always turns it into something I did wrong. I know I deserve to be happy and our kids are old enough to see how he badly he treats me. I don’t know why I keep making excuses for him.How did you find the guts to leave, what was your starting point to get the ball rolling?

I 45F think I want to explore an open marriage with my husband 50M. We have been married for 27 years and he is the only man I have ever slept with, he has slept with quite a few people before me. There are certain things I want to try that I think I would feel more comfortable doing with someone I don’t really know. For example, I have never had him go down on me but I am really curious to know what that would feel like. How do I even bring this up to him? Is it selfish of me to even consider?

I know his job to protect and alert so he’s going to bark at just about everything. How can I teach him to be quiet without taking away his instinct to bark and alert. I’m not looking to not have him bark at all, I just want him to know he did his job so he can stop. Plus if there’s a zombie apocalypse I need him to know when to stay quiet 🤣
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I 45 F, have been married for 27 years to my husband 50 M. I try to initiate sex, buy lingerie and set up romantic dates but he just rejects me. We haven’t had sex in almost 4 months.
I can’t prove it nor do I intend to put energy into snooping around to find out, but I feel like he is cheating.I figured if he is, I will find out eventually. He had a lot more free time than I do so he definitely has the chance to do it. He tells me it’s because I never show interest but most of the time it’s because I am busy or tired. That’s why I try to plan out these little “get aways”. I just don’t know what I am doing wrong at this point. How do you know when it’s a waste of time trying anymore?