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Heeey hoooi,

Ik schrijf dit omdat ik me de laatste tijd best wel eenzaam voel en echt behoefte heb aan connectie. Het doet me zo'n pijn dat ik in een land als Nederland anno 2026 nog steeds moet boymoden vanwege mijn Turkse moslimouders.

Ze weten er wel van, maar de acceptatie is er nog niet 100%. Na jaren strijd beginnen ze het nu pas een beetje te plaatsen, maar ze hebben er nog steeds mega veel moeite mee. Het draait bij hen alleen maar om: "Wat gaan anderen wel niet denken?". Die meningen van buitenaf zijn belangrijker dan mijn geluk.

Ik ben bijna 24 en buiten mijn collega's om spreek ik eigenlijk niemand. Dat houdt een keer op, waardoor de eenzaamheid best wel toeslaat.

Zijn er hier mensen die dit herkennen, of die simpelweg openstaan voor een leuk gesprek en een nieuwe vriendschap? Het maakt me niet uit of je zelf ook boymode of al veel verder bent. Stuur me gerust een chatberichtje, ik zou het heel gezellig vinden om met gelijkgestemden te praten! ✨

Hey allemaal, omdat de wachtlijst nog eeuwen duurt moet ik echt door met DIY, want mentaal trek ik dit stilstaan niet meer.

Mijn probleem is dat crypto/bitcoin me echt voor geen meter lukt. Ik heb alles geprobeerd maar het mislukt telkens.

Zijn er betrouwbare aanbieders waar je gewoon met andere betalingsmethodes kunt betalen?

(Stuur me aub een DM ivm Reddit regels) Alvast super erg bedankt voor de hulp!

Edit: Ik wil Oestrogeen, ben transvrouw

Hi everyone,
I saw a TikTok post recently that got me thinking about my gender (it was about being trans but not doing HRT, dressing a certain way, etc.).
I am AMAB and I've felt feminine for years. For a long time, I've gone back and forth on whether I'm a trans woman. Maybe I'm just androgynous, but I really don't like the word "femboy" for myself.
I do experience gender dysphoria, but I have no desire to get HRT or change my legal documents. I just want to live my life in a feminine way. Also, my dysphoria is sometimes temporarily gone. During those times, I'm okay with my body hair and facial hair, and I go masculine for a while. It keeps changing all the time.
I feel like "transfem" fits me better than "trans woman," but I'm still very confused. I don't want to force myself into a strict label, but at the same time, finding a word that fits would give me some peace of mind.
Is it valid to want to live a feminine life without HRT?
I would love to hear your advice or your point of view on this. Thank you!

Hey everyone

I am a guy from the Netherlands and I am turning 24 very soon. I come from a Turkish family and have a Muslim heritage. To be clear I am not religious and I am not a Muslim myself. Everyone else in my life knows this but I have to pretend to be a Muslim in front of my family because they would not accept it otherwise.

I am asexual and I am looking for an asexual woman for a serious relationship. I want us to build a beautiful life together. We can support each other, share a home, and be there for each other. I really want to find a life partner because I do not want to grow old alone.

I think it would be amazing to do fun things together like going on trips and vacations.

To be completely honest I struggle with alopecia which means I lose my hair. Because of this I usually wear a cap and I am a bit uncomfortable with posting photos here. I hope you can understand that.

I am looking for a relationship with no sexual contact. I also do not want children, but it´s discussable.

I live in the Netherlands and speak English well. If you live nearby or are open to moving here that is great. I am also open to relocating myself for the right person.

If this sounds good to you please send me a DM. Let us talk and see if we click.

Hey everyone

I am a 23 year old gay guy turning 24 very soon. I live in the Netherlands. I come from a Turkish family. Even though I live in a progressive country coming out is not an option with my family. I actually tried coming out to them once in the past. It went very badly and it has been a very silent and awkward topic ever since. They just ignore it now. They are already starting to pressure me with the usual questions like when are you getting married and do you have a girlfriend yet.

I am looking for a woman for a lavender marriage. Your ethnicity and orientation do not matter to me. About my background. I am not religious myself but I have a Muslim heritage. I have to act like a Muslim in front of my family. Your religion does not matter to me at all.

Ideally I want us to be two great friends who share a life together. We can support each other and look like a couple to the outside world while we both live our own lives. You would be my forever person and partner in crime.

I really do not like big weddings. My preference goes to a very small gathering with just family or just a quick ceremony.

I currently live in the Netherlands. If you are open to moving here that is great. I am also open to relocating myself for the right person.

A lavender marriage feels like a great way to handle family pressure. This way we have a lifelong best friend and we do not have to face life alone.

Feel free to send me a DM if you want to chat and see if we click.

Hey everyone

I am a 23 year old gay guy turning 24 very soon. I live in the Netherlands. I come from a Turkish family. Even though I live in a progressive country coming out is not an option with my family. I actually tried coming out to them once in the past. It went very badly and it has been a very silent and awkward topic ever since. They just ignore it now. They are already starting to pressure me with the usual questions like when are you getting married and do you have a girlfriend yet.

I am looking for a woman for a lavender marriage. Your ethnicity and orientation do not matter to me. About my background. I am not religious myself but I have a Muslim heritage. I have to act like a Muslim in front of my family. Your religion does not matter to me at all.

Ideally I want us to be two great friends who share a life together. We can support each other and look like a couple to the outside world while we both live our own lives. You would be my forever person and partner in crime.

I really do not like big weddings. My preference goes to a very small gathering with just family or just a quick ceremony.

I currently live in the Netherlands. If you are open to moving here that is great. I am also open to relocating myself for the right person.

A lavender marriage feels like a great way to handle family pressure. This way we have a lifelong best friend and we do not have to face life alone.

Feel free to send me a DM if you want to chat and see if we click.

I'm 23, cis male. Since I was 15, I've questioned whether I'm a trans woman. I could never decide. I went back and forth for eight years.

At 15, I was sexually abused by an older man online. He forced femininity on me through blackmail. Sissy stuff, crossdressing, photoshopping me as a girl. I couldn't escape. My body responded even though I didn't want it, and that has confused everything since.

I still get aroused by feminine content related to what happened. That part is complicated.

Recently I realized: something in me says no to transitioning. When I imagine just accepting myself as a bisexual/gay man and letting the question go, I feel relief. I feel happy. I feel peace.

But I also feel jealousy when I see trans people or feminine content online. That part is still there.

I'm not posting to ask if I'm trans or not. I've made my choice. I'm posting to ask: has anyone else been through something similar? Trauma that got tangled up with gender questioning? How did you find peace with your decision?

I'm 23, cis male. Since I was 15, I've questioned whether I'm a trans woman. I could never decide. I went back and forth for eight years.

At 15, I was sexually abused by an older man online. He forced femininity on me through blackmail. Sissy stuff, crossdressing, photoshopping me as a girl. I couldn't escape. My body responded even though I didn't want it, and that has confused everything since.

I still get aroused by feminine content related to what happened. That part is complicated.

Recently I realized: something in me says no to transitioning. When I imagine just accepting myself as a bisexual/gay man and letting the question go, I feel relief. I feel happy. I feel peace.

But I also feel jealousy when I see trans people or feminine content online. That part is still there.

I'm not posting to ask if I'm trans or not. I've made my choice. I'm posting to ask: has anyone else been through something similar? Trauma that got tangled up with gender questioning? How did you find peace with your decision?

Hey everyone,

I am a 23 year old guy from the Netherlands. Writing texts like this is not really my thing, so I will keep it short and simple. I like to save the best stuff for our actual conversations anyway.

To be honest, I struggle with alopecia, which means I lose my hair. Because of this, I am really uncomfortable with posting photos here. Most of the time I wear a wig, and sometimes a cap. I hope you can understand that. 🫶🏻

I am looking for a relationship, but a good friendship is also very welcome. My ultimate dream is to find a life partner. Someone to do fun things with, move in together eventually, and grow old with. I just don't want to be alone in life.

Preferably, I am looking for someone who does not live too far away from the Netherlands.

If this sounds good to you, please send me a DM. Let's talk!