u/Sensitive-Maybe7237

I recently graduated got a 6-month SDE internship paying ₹25k/month with a performance-based PPO (I've heard around 80–90% get converted if they perform well). At the same time, I have an opportunity to take a teaching job in a Tier-2 city paying ₹50k/month. My family's financial situation isn't great, so the extra income would really help.

I'm not a pro coder—I started doing DSA because my friends did, but I eventually fell in love with solving problems. Should I take the internship and try for the PPO, or choose the teaching job and prepare for SDE off-campus interviews on the side? I'd really appreciate your advice.

Edit Intern location is in Bangalore, Whitefield almost all are saying you will have to ask parents for money

I was in a relationship with my girlfriend for the past 3 years. In the beginning, everything was going well.

For some context, I recently graduated and joined as a Software Engineer with a package of 6 LPA. My girlfriend has been preparing for government exams for the last 3 years but hasn't been able to clear any yet. I had suggested multiple times that she consider exploring other career options as a backup, but she has always been determined to continue preparing for the same exam.

Last October, her mother approached me about marrying her. I told them that once I got a job, I'd be ready to discuss marriage seriously.

After I got my job, instead of being happy, my girlfriend seemed disappointed because of my salary. We started having frequent arguments, and she became distant, giving me cold replies. I assumed she was stressed because of her exams, so I ignored it.

After her exam in May, she moved into a co-ed hostel with one of her friends. I asked her why she wasn't going back home, and she got angry, saying I had a backward and cheap mindset. She even said she didn't want to continue the relationship. Again, I thought it was just exam stress and didn't react much.

Last week, her brother called me to ask if I was serious about marrying her. I happily said yes. I also told him that since I'm just starting my career, I won't be able to spend a huge amount on the wedding, so I'd prefer a simple ceremony. He seemed completely okay with that.

But when I shared this with my girlfriend, she got furious. She said she's getting better marriage proposals and wants a grand wedding. She said she doesn't want to marry someone like me. I suggested postponing the wedding by a year so I could save more money.

Her response completely shattered me.

She said she'd rather marry someone who is rich and well-settled. She even told me that if I wanted to marry her now, I'd have to arrange ₹10 lakh.

I was completely numb after hearing that. I told her it's better if we break up and wished her a happy married life.

But inside, I'm broken. I can't sleep properly. I can't eat. It's hard to accept that a 3-year relationship could end like this, and that she could so easily say she doesn't want me anymore.

A part of me keeps thinking about taking a loan just to marry her, but another part of me knows that starting married life under financial pressure just to meet someone's expectations may not be the right decision.

TL;DR: 3-year relationship. I recently got a 6 LPA software job and agreed to marry after getting employed. My girlfriend became distant because of my salary, later said she wanted a rich, well-settled husband and a grand wedding. She even asked me to arrange ₹10 lakh if I wanted to marry her now. I ended the relationship, but I'm heartbroken and wondering if I made the right decision or if I should have tried harder.