When I did my friends highlights, we didn’t go that light. We went close to her natural shade. A few of the foils stayed on too long and they were almost like pale blonde almost white. She never uses purple shampoo and those streaks still look white? Is it possible to make her whole hair light and she won’t need purple shampoo?
If they can’t go to you anymore, or as often. If they asked for what products techniques would you/ can you ?
Like everyday for a 30min-1hr. Will they get damaged or fade. Will it also lighten your highlights? Also if your hair is naturally dark blonde/ dirty blonde?
If the woman is someone you’re obsessed with and perfect for you but sex was off the table indefinitely, would you stay or leave? what would you do?
Also are any of you in a relationship like that?
Would any of you be close friends with a woman, do everything a bf would do. But not have sex with her?
And be okay with that. I've seen some men act like a bf, or like a dad to a woman they are into. Like if the women is okay with being a gf but isn’t up to sex.They will be close friends or dating but okay with no sex? I'm wondering why they would do that. Is it because you don't want to be single, or do you guys see the woman as your daughter or something ?
My controlling narc parents let my 16yr sister do whatever she wants. She gets no punishment for anything. They even let her disrespect them. She’s bratty and hateful to everyone, including them. They baby her and do whatever she wants, whenever she wants.
They make sure she is able to be independent. They helped her learn how to drive. They bought her a vehicle of her choice for her birthday. They don’t want me to be independent. I’m 22 and I still can’t drive. They treat my sister like she’s older than me. They even talk to her like she’s older. They let her walk out of the house, whenever she wants no curfew. make my sister go with me. If I walk anywhere, they make her go with me. They don’t let me go anywhere alone. I’ll even walk out without her and she will be behind me.
She’s an extreme bitch to me and it’s getting worse every day. When she does serious stuff to me. I’ll tell my parents and they ignore me, or change the subject.
My sister also likes to make people feel sorry for her. She tells my other family members, that my parents are so controlling and strict to her. She tells people lies. She’s even use’s things that happens to me for her stories. She’s never even went through anything. They all believe her and spoil her with gifts and dinners. She also talks shit about me to them. My outside family doesn’t like me because of her.
It’s sickening to me. It’s actually making me sick. With her behavior, and my parents not doing shit. I’m doing everything I can working my ass off to try to move out without any help. I legit can’t do this anymore .
My narc parents don’t want me to be independent or have a life. They do everything to keep me from being independent. Yet they literally talk about me for that. Today I heard them talking about me. They said that I “have no life.” That I will life a “half ass life, doing have ass shit.”
They even said that they can’t wait for them to die, because I will have no one. Like wtf is wrong with them. Does anyone else’s parents do this to them?
Do the cash registers you use show you how much change to give back? Or do you have to do it yourself?
Are you allowed to wear different hairstyles. Like different braids, half up styles, bows, different colored hair ties.
if you usually get full highlights. If you can't get them touched up, and your roots are grown out. Do you think doing money pieces between would look natural or bad? Do you think it would make doing your touch ups harder.
Like if you know how and can do it on other people? Like is it a good idea
(22f)My parents are extremely controlling and they hate for me to be independent. They have made my life so horrible and difficult. Everyday with them is so stressful and I have no way to get out and have no friends. I don’t have a job rn, because we moved and they don’t want me to have a job anymore but they also do because they want me to pay rent for living in their house. Idk what to do because their behavior made me get away from God. I don’t even want to have a relationship with him anymore because they always use religion against me. My mom will lie to me. But then tell me that if I don’t obey my parents I’m going to hell. It stresses me out makes me so depressed and it’s hard to get out of bed in the morning. I want to have a relationship with God. Also I don’t want to because I have so much going on in my life. I don’t even know how to drive and have no one to help me. Everyday my mom also plays videos on full volume about how Jesus is coming back soon. It scares me because Ik im not in good terms. Idk some days I feel like suicide because I’m stuck and there’s nothing I can do about it. They even want to pay to get authority over me, so they can legally take control over me and what I do. They also treat my younger 16 sister as she’s older than me. They let do whatever she wants. They helped her get her license. She’s even allowed to walk out the house and go wherever she wants. It’s getting worse each day and idk what to do.
My narc parents are mad that I don’t have a job right now. They also don’t want me to have a job either. When I had a job I would buy own food because, they would complain about me eating theirs. They also hated when I bought my own food and would judge me and get mad about it. Now that I don’t have a job, I can’t buy my own food. My mom runs into the kitchen every time I’m in there. She always goes over to me and asks what I’m eating. Even if I’m not eating anything. Everytime I make something to eat. She will give me evil looks. Then she will complain and say that I run through their food, even though I don’t. Tonight I had a half glass of chocolate milk. She looks at me hateful, then goes and gets my pack of gum and takes some. She literally acted like she deserved the gum because I ate food from their house. Also she literally hates that gum flavor. Recently I’ve been not eating anything all day. My mom will notice I haven’t been in the kitchen. She will get mad that I haven’t ate anything. (I think she’s mad because She doesn’t like me to be skinny. She’s said before she wished I was fat so no guys would want me.)Then She’ll try to influence to eat whatever item she wants me to eat. Usually the food is something that no one in the house likes or it’s expired. Or very unhealthy. She’s okay with me eating food like that. My narc sister knows how my mom is with me. So she makes sure to eat their food and blame it on me. My parents always believe her. Tonight they were complaining about how I ate their expensive cheese. Which my sister was the one who ate it. They said that I need to be getting a job so I can pay them money to eat their food. I really don’t understand their behavior. I also don’t know what to do about my sister.
I sell stuff online and my parents know about it. I sold some things today. When I got home My mom told me that I need to save my money, that I get from it and not spend it. ( also a few years ago when I got my first job, my mom told me to save all my money, that all the money that I make was going to be a savings fund for the end times we are in right now. She said that my money is my parents money because I live in their house) I have no job rn. I told her that and that I’m applying for a job that’s close by our house, she got mad and said that I shouldn’t work there. Then I told her that I have to work there, because I need to save money to be able to afford driving lessons, so I can learn to drive and eventually get a car. Like an adult should be doing at 22. She then shook her head, laughed at me and said that I’ll never learn to drive. My mom told me that I should wait until my younger sister gets her license this summer, to get a job. She told me that my younger sister can drive me places. That she can drive me to a job anywhere. (My younger sister is also a narc). I told my mom that I would never let that bitch drive me anywhere, I’ll walk everywhere, like I’ve been doing for years. She then gave me that narcissistic look. Then she started praying to God. Then put on Christian praise music full blast on the tv. I can still hear it in my room right now , with the door shut. She literally every time I make her mad when I make decisions she will go in her room and pray for hours and then whatever plans I had fail. So I think she prays that I will fail. I literally can’t. I really don’t get it. Also idk how you can be a Christian and treat somebody like this it’s actually demonic.
(22f) My n mom has always not liked me to have a bf ever since I was young. She would always say I wasn’t allowed. Now that I’m older, She especially hates any man who is around my age. If they come around me, try to talk to me. She does anything she can to sabotage things. To Make them not like me. Even at stores even if they don’t approach me. A few weeks ago my mom and I were in Walmart, and some guys my age we’re close by shopping. My mom said “stop smoking in my house” “you need to stop smoking all the time”. I don’t smoke btw. She thinks that saying this will embarrass me. It doesn’t. But it does make guys get away from me. The thing is my mom is okay with me being with older men. Like she found this single friend of my dad’s who is 37, she told me that I should date him. I told her that I’m too young for him. She got so mad and said that’s he’s not too old me. Last night my sister was telling my mom about how my aunt (28) is dating a 40 year old. My mom said that was disgusting, and he’s way too old for her and she’s like a kid to him. Idk how someone who is 15 years older than me at 22 is okay. But for a 28 year old someone who is 12 years older than them is disgusting? Idk if she’s actually okay with that for me or if she’s trying to get me to date him because she knows I won’t do that.
22f i have no friends. I have controlling narc parents and I still live at home and I don’t know how to drive and can’t drive. A 9 year old kid on the neighborhood was hanging out with my little brother and I would babysit them when my parents left. Then the 9 year old girl wanted to be my friend. She will come over to just hang out with me. She’s one of those mature 9 year old kids so she’s not too childish I mean she isn’t but she likes to do nails and art and things and knitting I am naturally childlike in my personality. When she comes over we do board games, nails, hairstyles, making stuff, jewelry, coloring with her those are things that I already do. And I have fun it’s fun. I don’t see her as a real friend. But it’s fun to hang out. Today she wanted to go to the park we’re close by. I was just going to walk around but then we actually played not like pretend games but just walking around and finding things. But I realized definitely it might be weird. I mean fr- I did have fun playing and I’m pretty childish. Idk but i realized should I not hang out with her because tbh im like so old. But im very immature at some things. Like I like doin what younger kids do🤣 like we made slime at the park it was so fun but yall I personally don’t care what others think but idk I feel
Like it might look bad because when I look at it from an outsider i would think a 22 year old playing games at a park with a 9 year old is weird af- idk like maybe it’s only fun because I legit never talk to anyone usually and have no friends and stay inside all day
(22f)I need to drive, so I can get a better paying job, have independence, maybe move out. I have no friends and no family besides, my narc parents and narc sister. And I mean I have NOBODY like not a single person in my life. I don’t know how to drive, they won’t teach me. They told me when I was 15 that they will never teach me. I’ve asked as I’m older they still won’t. I have no one to teach me. I moved to a new place with my family. I can only get a job I can walk to. There is only 2 places in walking distance, they are not hiring right now. They are very low paying jobs, and rarely have hires. Only part time available as well. Driving lessons in my area are very expensive. With the jobs that I can get it, I calculated everything and it will take me a couple years to be able to afford the driving lessons. And that’s with me saving everything and not spending ANY money at all except for my phone bill and my rent. I have to pay my parents $300 in rent every month. Also my narc parents taught my sister to drive when she was 13. She is now the age to get her license, they are helping her: telling her to study for her permit, and even letting her use one of their vehicles. Tonight I was talking with my mom, how I really need a job but they aren’t hiring right now. I told her I wish I could drive. She told me that I can’t ever drive. She said “how are you going to get the money for a vehicle.” She said how are you going to pay for insurance it’s all expensive. She told me that my job won’t be able to afford all of that. That I should just walk to work that it’s too expensive to drive and not worth it. I told her first I’m going to save for driving lessons. Then after I get my license I’ll go from there. Then I said why can’t I drive but my sister can? I said she will have to pay insurance too? How is driving too expensive for me but for her it’s not? Then She made a mad face and got quiet. When I lived in another area. It took me years of trying to find money and get a ride to get a ID, so I could for a job. I got a job but it was very low paying, having to pay $300 every month. I barely had money left. Instead of saving I spent it on Clothes and shoes for work. I needed them because i legit had children’s clothes, with unicorns and kid stuff that I’ve had since a kid. ( my parents stopped buying me clothes at 14, when I did online school because they told me that since I don’t go to public they won’t be buying me any clothing.) I also saved to get my permit, so I can be able to do driving lessons. I have no job currently. I only have a very little savings that im using for being able to pay my phone bill. I don’t have to pay my parents rent rn because I don’t have a job. They told me that I need to get a job fast, so I can pay rent again. They said that I can’t live in their house for free too long. I’m really disappointed that I spent basically all my money on clothes and shoes. I didn’t even buy enough because I had to buy everything online and it’s very expensive. I still need clothes and shoes today, but I’m going to save money, idc anymore. I really don’t know what to do any and i feel like giving up. I’m actually starting from the bottom. My family basically threw me in the trash. And for some reason they help my sister.