u/She_D0esntEvnGoHere

I recently came out as queer a few months ago to my best friend. She was the first person I came out to. She was supportive initially but started ghosting me and alleged that I was rushing things and I couldn't be sure since I had 'never been with a girl' even tho I had been feeling this way for over a year (I'm bi). I can feel the friendship kinda slipping away. She did try to be friendly after this but never brought up her behaviour and now she's ghosting me again. We've been best friends for over 10 years now nd I thought that she would understand or at least try to be there for me yk. She said that she wasn't going to be my yes man nd won't hype me up about everything when all I wanted was a safe space.

Tbh don't feel super sad like I was feeling initially when she ghosted me and I'm happy. I'm not fully out to everyone yet but I feel happy. I honestly feel so good about my queerness nd I would never change the way I am. I feel so proud to be myself nd I love the community!!!!

I recently came out as queer a few months ago to my best friend. She was the first person I came out to. She was supportive initially but started ghosting me and alleged that I was rushing things and I couldn't be sure since I had 'never been with a girl' even tho I had been feeling this way for over a year (I'm bi). I can feel the friendship kinda slipping away. She did try to be friendly after this but never brought up her behaviour and now she's ghosting me again.

I don't feel super sad like I was feeling initially when she ghosted me and I'm happy I'm being myself and not hiding myself anymore. I'm not fully out to everyone yet but I feel happy. I'm so glad I'm queer!!! I feel soooo good abt myself and I'm so proud to be part of the community!!

I've been eyeing the rhode pocket blush for a while nd I'm finally gonna get one!!

I'm kinda stuck between Sleepy Girl and Teacup. For reference, I have medium tan skin (around NC40-42) nd I'm going for that flustered/cold-girl blush look (I don't want the blush to look too orange or brown lol).

I want the blush to be visible nd fresh-looking but not too bright like juice box. I feel that the shade sleepy girl might not show up well on me for the effect I'm going for nd would kinda disappear on my skin tone.

Which would suit the vibe better? Other shade recommendations are definitely welcome too. Any help/swatches would be appreciated!!

I am a beginner to makeup nd I rlly wanna invest in a good blush.

I was looking at a few blushes nd I've narrowed it down to these - the glossier cloud paint(in storm/eve/haze), rhode pocket blush in sleepy girl, rare beauty liquid blush(not sure abt the shade).

For context, I’m NC45/medium tan and I want something that’ll give a natural rosy or berry flush(not too purple) without pulling too orange on me. This is also the first time I am buying a proper blush. Also, I can't go to a store for swatches cuz I don't rlly live very close to a sephora store.

I live in a very humid place so I wouldn't want smth that is too oily nd ideally I would like the blush to stay for like 3-4 hrs(nd should be pigmented enough for my skin tone).

I've also been seeing a lot of ppl say that the cloud paints aren't the same after the reformulation so idk if I should consider getting it.

Are there blushes that are better than the ones i am considering that are in the same price range($24-$26)? Pls give me honest suggestions cuz I am rlly overwhelmed by the options nd a lil guidance would rlly help.😭(I hope I am posting this in the right subreddit)

Thanks in advance!!

I was thinking of getting Glossier Cloud Paint in Storm, but I’ve been seeing a lot of people say that the reformulated shade is more orange now, so now I’m not sure.😭

I’ve also considered getting the shade haze or eve. For context, I’m NC45/medium tan and I want something that’ll give a natural rosy or berry flush(not too purple) without pulling too orange on me.

This is gonna be my first Glossier purchase, and I really like how pigmented the cloud paints are. I was also considering the rhode pocket blush in sleepy girl, but I’ve heard the staying power isn’t great.

So is the reformulated color rlly that different nd should i get eve or haze instead or just consider getting a blush from some other brand? Is getting the cloud paint still worth it after the reformulation?

Thanks in advance!!

So I have been friends with my bestie for the last ten years nd we r very close. Nd a little over a year now I've understood my sexuality nd i understood that I was queer. I eventually decided to come out to her as I trust her the most nd I wanted her to know that part of myself as it a huge part of me nd I did not want to hide it anymore. Anyways I came out nd she was super supportive abt it nd made me feel glad about my choice to come out nd provided a safe space for my feelings.

After this I had texted her but she ghosted me nd that made me think she had changed her mind about stuff. The next day we met in person, she told me that she thought I wasn't thinking things through nd that I was too fast with my decisions nd i didn't have enough to back it up. I'm not a person who makes impulsive decisions nd I had given it a lot of thought before telling her so it was not something I was rushing nd I told her that. She didn't seem to be convinced nd i thought that we were going to lose this friendship (which was my worst fear).

After this I decided to tell my friend that what she had said was right cuz I thought that if I acknowledged that she was right we would go back to being the way we were before. That didn't happen nd it was a mistake on my part to do that. I should've stood up for myself but instead i succumbed to her.

After that she started ignoring me in front of their friends nd when we were together alone as well. It was very evident. She is not a person to initiate conversations in situations like these or apologize so I decided to confront her about it. She told me that it felt emotionally draining for her to talk to me nd she thought I was changing. I tried to apologize for being inconsistent with my feelings but we didn't really resolve anything.

Since then, it’s been this ongoing pattern for about 3 weeks - sometimes she acts completely normal and like nothing happened and then she suddenly becomes distant and ignores me again. It feels like we're stuck in a loop. It also feels like she is dismissing my feeling nd puts the blame on me nd makes me feel like i am an emotional burden.

I needed a safe space during this time nd I feel very hurt that she doesn't seem to understand that. She has never been a huge feelings person nd doesn't really communicate well nd is very avoidant so idk how she's feeling right now. She even told me that she was not a friend who would constantly hype me up abt my decisions nd would not constantly support me (when I clearly did not need her to hype me up I just needed her to trust my decision nd not ignore me the way she is).

I'm constantly overthinking abt this nd it really affects my studies which I need to focus on right now. I don't understand if I did anything wrong nd I would really like to get some clarity about that. I understand that big changes like these affect people(she thought i was changing but in reality i am still the same person) but i don't know how to go on about it.

I don't want our friendship of so many years to break but right now I feel like she doesn't care nd it has become one sided as I am the one who is constantly initiating.

I'm really sorry if this was too long i really needed to provide all the details.