u/Sherbet_Lemon_913

Someone was asking about snake aversion training with an ecollar and I basically commented about the HUMANE type for the snake where they are muzzled rather than defanged, and Reddit sent me this? From real Reddit, not the mods in this sub. Can we not talk about e collars anymore? Or snake training? Maybe they were worried about the snake being harmed?

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Same school, same neighborhood, same mutual friends. Everywhere I go, there she is.

My questions are mostly around how to navigate other personal relationships while holding my own boundaries. If the other kids go to play over at the house, but mine isn’t allowed to, what do I tell my kid? I don’t want my kid to say something that could come back to bite us. Even “my mom said I’m not allowed to play here” makes me sound like a villain. I don’t really trust my kid with the details (parental drug problems, abuse, deceit, etc.) but I do think I owe my kid some kind of explanation.

When other parents ask why I’m not attending X event hosted by this mom, what do I say? Even “we don’t share the same values” comes across as catty on my end.

Basically, how do I protect my kid and hold a boundary without being a “mean girl” mom?

EDIT: I typed out this post many times, and I think it painted a clear picture of who I am so unfortunately, had to omit most details for an anonymity. But I suppose I could add, we used to know this family very well, discovered what was happening, and have now needed to pull back. As for the drugs, one adult in the home is constantly in and out of residential rehab (I don’t know the details of which substances), the other seems like a safe adult. Since they all live in the same home, I have no idea what’s lying around in the physical home environment. Nor do I trust the safe parent to explain or tell us what’s going on because there has been a pattern of deceitful behavior. So the other parents may feel sympathy for the safe parent, or feel the safe parent should not be punished for the wrongdoing of the other parent. Or feel that if the other parent has been to rehab, now the problem is solved. But since they both share the same physical environment, it’s a nope for me. The kids are elementary school aged. The other parents know but I guess don’t see it as big of a red flag as I do.

When I was pregnant I was gifted one of those color changing night lights. It’s fuchsia when the baby is sleeping, turns green at 7 AM or whatever when you want your kid to wake up. This works great for all my friends kids but was always a struggle for mine. I would have to keep walking him back to bed.

Fast forward, he’s 5 yo, he showed up at my bedside in pitch darkness one day. I asked rhetorically, what color is your light? He said I don’t know. I said then go back in your room and look. He ran back to look. He came back. He repeated: I don’t know.

We took him to the ophthalmologist and he has deutan defect.

Literally feeling like the worst parent of all time right now. The years of lecturing and thinking he was being defiant.

We really only notice it with lights. For example, crayons he can easily distinguish most colors. But for some reason, Christmas lights, the nightlight, etc. are more noticeable. Is it the same with screens? Like if he’s working on a computer screen at school will it be more difficult to tell the colors apart? As opposed to paper and ink?

I recorded a test video, it was perfect, then I hit record for real. Recorded a 15 minute music concert. Went back to watch it and it had NO AUDIO. This is just the regular camera app, not connected to anything with Bluetooth, no external mic. iPhone 16pro on latest software.

Most likely cause: just before I hit record, I held down the action button to silence my phone for the show. Could that really have done it? I tested it later at home (turned phone silent with action button, then took a video) but couldn’t get the problem to repeat itself.

The next idea, I was using an iPhone tripod. I was careful to make sure buttons weren’t being pressed on the side of the phone during the recording but I suppose it’s possible one of them was held down?

That video is lost forever, just trying to figure out how this happened so it doesn’t happen again. I would hate to walk around with a backup phone for all my kids little concerts.

My 5yo just got invited to a birthday party on the 4th of July at 7pm. Strict guest list, just my kid plus one supervising adult. Asking me to leave my other kid and husband home alone on a holiday LMAO. Couldn’t decline fast enough.

My new percale sheets right out of the box feel so scratchy. I’ve washed 3x and they still feel like a scratchy sweater. I even added baking soda and vinegar to the wash as AI suggested. The brand is quince.

Ugh I miss what target threshold sheets used to be. Kirkland was close but it started to pill. I just want a smooth cotton sheet but not shiny and hot like sateen.

My oldest kid watched me put on makeup every morning before work. I turned SAHM when I had my second kid, and completely stopped wearing makeup. Because I had no one to see it most days. But also I hated wearing it.

Now my second kid is 3.5 years old and stumbled upon me putting on the very rare face of makeup for a party tonight. “Mama what’s THAT?!” I told him what it was and asked if I looked pretty. He said “No you do NOT. Stop doing that!” And now I’m able to zoom out and see how crazy it must have looked to him that I’m coloring on my face with a brown crayon. Literally. Putting black paint on my eyelashes and pink marker on my lips. The whole time he’s begging me to stop coloring in my face because crayons are for paper only.

Here’s to the babies who only know our makeup-less faces and loungewear and everything else is out of their comfort zone.

Happy Mother’s Day!

It’s a Dogtra, but one of the cheaper ones. Nylon buckle collar. I know it’s “waterproof” but has anyone had problems with sand, salt, submerging, etc.? It’s a very busy beach with other dogs and I worry about calling him without the collar if he’s about to chase a ball into a rip current or similar.

Edit: It’s a dogtra 200c one dog system. Purchased January 2026