u/SignificanceFalse465

I’ve had other internships and jobs, so this isn’t my first work experience, which is why this situation feels off.

I started this internship on June 8, and it’s now July 6. I still haven’t been paid. I knew it was stipend-based, but the payment schedule wasn't mentioned until I asked almost a month later, after spending over $200 commuting out of pocket. I was then told I’d be paid on July 15 and August 15, with a $350 transportation bonus, because she said it was unrealistic to commute 2+ hours 3x a week without being paid, and thanked me for being direct.

What also confused me is that my offer letter originally said the stipend would be paid directly by the CEO, but when I asked about it, I was told I’m on payroll. I never signed any payroll paperwork or provided any direct deposit information, so I’m a bit confused about how that is supposed to work.

Another thing that confused me was that my offer letter called it an 8-week internship from June 8 to August 14, which isn’t actually 8 weeks. When I pointed that out, I was told the internship now ends on August 20, which had never been discussed before. Part of me thinks she added those extra days to get her money's worth from the bonus she’s giving.

The role also turned out to be very different from what was described. I accepted what I believed would be a mostly remote marketing and graphic design internship, but we ended up interacting with patients, helping around the clinic, and assisting with patient exercises even though none of us have physical therapy backgrounds.

Lastly something that also stood out to me is that my boss mentioned they had over 20 interns during one summer, and only one ended up staying with the company. I don’t know why everyone else left, so I’m not trying to jump to conclusions, but after my own experiences so far I can’t help but wonder if some of them had similar concerns ….

hello, this is my first time posting on this subreddit.

i’m a 23f, and i was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder when i was 16.

because of my health insurance at the time, i never had much consistency with therapy. my therapists would often leave for better opportunities with better pay. i don’t blame them at all, but having to retell my story over and over again was honestly doing more harm than good. after about a year, i decided to stop going to therapy altogether. i was also prescribed anxiety medication back then, but i honestly can’t remember what it was called. i didn’t feel like it helped, so i eventually stopped taking that too.

over the years, my anxiety became much more manageable. i was never completely anxiety-free, but i learned to live with it. crowds, unfamiliar places, and meeting new people could still make me anxious, but it wasn’t nearly as bad as it used to be. when i was younger, i would have full-blown panic attacks where i genuinely felt like i couldn’t breathe. now my anxiety usually shows up as constantly fidgeting, overthinking everything, not being able to think straight, and getting stuck in my own head. it wasn’t ideal, but it was something i could manage.

about a year ago, my primary care doctor prescribed me 7.5 mg of mirtazapine. it was mainly because i was struggling with my appetite, but they also thought it could help with my anxiety. it’s definitely helped me eat more, but i’d honestly say it’s only improved my anxiety by maybe 10%.

the reason i’m posting is because i recently started a new job, and ever since then my anxiety has become the worst it’s been in years.

every workday i wake up really early feeling incredibly nauseous. i’m trembling, i have a hard time thinking clearly, i forget things more easily, and i stutter more than usual. i feel so overwhelmed that i struggle to function the way i normally would. i spend so much time trapped in my own thoughts that even simple tasks feel difficult.

the confusing part is that i actually like my job. i enjoy the work, my boss has been kind, and my coworkers have all been really nice. that’s why i’m having such a hard time understanding why my anxiety has gotten so bad.
the only things i can think of are the commute and the financial stress. two days a week i have about a two-hour commute each way, so i’m spending around four hours traveling on top of my workday. i also haven’t been paid yet, so i’ve been covering transportation and all of my other expenses out of pocket. i waited almost a month before bringing it up because i didn’t want to seem impatient, but i was starting to feel the financial strain. my boss told me i’ll be paid on july 15 and august 15.

it’s also a startup, so there aren’t any employee benefits. she told me i’m on payroll, but i haven’t signed any payroll paperwork or even given my bank information, which has honestly become a concern because i keep worrying that something is off about this whole thing.

i feel awful because i know i’m not performing at the level i started off at. i feel like my boss and coworkers are getting a version of me that’s constantly anxious instead of who i actually am.

i’m wondering if it’s time to talk to my doctor again because it really feels like my anxiety has become significantly worse over the past month.

Title. I immediately unliked and put my account on hibernate…. Idk if it sends a notification or not. I tried with my brother and he didn’t get a push notification but he did it see in his notifications on the app and when I unliked it went away. I really don’t wanna be seen as creepy I just wanted to zoom in on what they reposted…..

Hey, I’m a huge fan of asymmetrical games. I used to play Friday the 13th, and it was so much fun. Now I just play TCM which is made by the same people who made F13. I usually play alone, but I want to get into playing victim more but i’m like terrified of being chased and would definitely need ppl I know to calm down LOL. So if you’re down to learn the game, or you already play definitely dm me! You can also add me my psn is florses!

++ I will be getting halloween when it comes out in september so would definitely love to play with ppl for that too !

Hey everyone, last night I went to a queer bar with my two friends, both guys. I’m a female. One of my friends, who is my best friend of 10 years, is gay, while the other one is someone I met last semester, and he is straight. We took a shot of tequila, and we all instantly felt it, and then we went inside the bar. This bar consists mostly of women, but there are a few guys. We were all dancing and having fun, and later, as we became more intoxicated, I decided to dance with these two other girls, and it turned into this trio of just making out, dancing with each other or on each other. My best friend was like, pushing me into them, so he was encouraging it. My other straight friend left us and sat down.

My straight friend has mentioned before that he likes me and finds me attractive, but I have no interest in him, and I’m positive he knows that.

After some time, my best friend tells me my other friend is leaving and that he’s being a dick. So I went outside with him and saw the straight friend leaving, so I’m like, “dude, what’s going on?” “You didn’t even let me know you were leaving.” And he’s just basically saying that we can stay and that he has to work tomorrow. My best friend is visibly upset and says he doesn’t want to get in the middle of this guy and me. Saying that my straight friend is only leaving because he saw me making out with these girls or whatever. I feel like a circus clown because, before we went out, my best friend was telling me my straight friend has been saying he’s in love with me and only wants to spend time with me. That he will pay for my Uber just to make sure I get home safely and things of that nature. The spring semester isn’t that long, so I have no clue how you can be in love with me if this is our second time hanging out outside of campus.

But anyway, my best friend is like pissed off at me and saying we can’t be friends anymore. I think he’s projecting how he feels about that guy (truthfully, I think he has a crush even tho he denies it), but yeah, he was just saying that he and my straight friend had plans to go to the movies together, but my straight friend invited me instead of him. So as my best friend was getting upset, the other guy was getting mad and saying, “why are you being like that”, “ she took care of you when you were drunk last time.” “yall have been friends for 10 years”, “I think you’re just drunk” and then my best friend pushed him really hard. I’m like genuinely confused on wtf happened and how this even came to be.

And before anyone thinks I led that guy on, I literally told that guy I’m mostly attracted to women, even if I’m bi. I planned the whole thing about going to a queer bar because I’m a queer woman. My best friend was also telling me that when the other guy saw me basically having fun and enjoying myself with those two other girls, he asked him if he felt some type of way when he was sitting down, and he said, "Yeah," and that’s when he started wanting to leave. This straight guy has encouraged me multiple times to talk with girls, so why are you being so weird when I actually do? Like, everything just seems so petty and immature between them, and I’m caught in the crossfire.

I noticed that my best friend was also trying to touch his hands while we were all dancing, but he’s so persistent in saying no when I ask him if he’s jealous of me or if he likes him when I asked him before.

So how do I make this situation less intense without losing my friends in the process?

I made a post maybe 2 weeks ago about how I went to a queer bar and how no one came up to me. It was also my first time at a queer bar, and I noticed everyone was kind of sticking to their own group of friends. I got a lot of replies saying I had to be the one to initiate because women, especially Wlw, are usually more shy. Well, went to that same bar last night and made out with two girls… multiple times. Got grinded on by one of them…multiple times. Like that was so fcking hot and the only thing I regret is not asking for anyone’s number 😭. It really starts with some eye contact, yall.

I (23F) have been best friends with Dylan (M, Gay) since we were 14. Earlier this year, I met Jake (M, Straight) in college and introduced him to Dylan because we were planning a trip to an amusement park together, since it’s summer and Jake drives.

The two of them got close really fast. They have very similar humor, and I honestly don’t. A lot of their jokes were things I found uncomfortable, including racist jokes, colorism jokes, sexual jokes towards each other at times, etc. At one point, Jake made jokes about beating women and gay people. (I’m bi and a woman, so yeah, another shit “joke”) I told Dylan that Jake made me uncomfortable and I didn’t find the jokes funny, but he pretty much brushed it off as “just jokes.” What bothered me most was feeling like my concerns weren’t taken seriously and that I was made to feel like I just couldn’t take a joke.

Additional context: Jake has previously told me he has/had feelings for me. Nothing happened between us, and I’m not interested in him romantically. Anyway, eventually Jake apologized, and we all moved on. We went to the amusement park, and everything was mostly fine.

Fast forward to now. Jake asked me if I’d seen the Backrooms movie and if I wanted to see it. I had been wanting to watch it, so I said yes. That’s literally how it happened. After I told Dylan we were going, he got upset and said that, apparently, a few days earlier he and Jake had talked about going to the movies together. I had absolutely no idea about this. Jake never mentioned it to me.

Dylan started saying things like:

“He wants alone time with you.”

“That man loves you.”

“He was obviously planning it without me.”

He also told me that seeing me and Jake hang out made him not want to go out with us anymore because he would “feel some type of way.”

There have been other instances I’ve been taking note of, like when Jake asked me to join him to play GTA and Fortnite with Dylan. I wasn’t aware they had plans to play together, and I didn’t even know Dylan used his PS4. I’ve asked Dylan to play games with me before, but it rarely happens. I’ve also invited Jake to things like a BBQ, and he said he’d only come if Dylan was going, which made me feel like shit, like he would only hang out with me if he were somehow involved.

But back to the movies, I wasn’t hiding anything, and I genuinely didn’t know they had discussed going to the movies before Jake asked me. If Jake left Dylan out then I didn’t know about it, and I feel like I’m being called fake for that, which is crazyyyy. What also frustrated me is that Dylan started acting like I chose Jake over him. I’ve spent months asking Dylan to hang out, and a lot of the time he’s busy, working, with other friends, on dates, or just can’t make it. I’ve never gotten mad about that because people have lives…

The amusement park trip really only happened because I asked both Dylan and Jake. I’ve also noticed a bit of imbalance in me and Dylan’s friendship at times, like I’ve never met Dylan’s mom, while he’s met my family and seen my home multiple times. I told him that if I ask someone to hang out and they can’t, eventually I’m going to make plans with other people instead of waiting around because it’s the summer and classes will eventually start up again. I even told him that I almost always ask him first because he’s my best friend. Then he accused me of calling him fake and a whor3, because I mentioned he hangs with his other bestie, as he says, or people from Grindr, which he does. I was literally just explaining why I sometimes make plans with other people, just like he does.

What really gets me tho is that when I was uncomfortable with Jake and his jokes, I felt like I was told to get over it because they were “just jokes.” But now that Dylan is upset about something Jake did, suddenly it’s a huge issue, and I’m getting called fake and whatever.

So Reddit AITAH?

Hello,

I want to preface by saying my brother has always struggled with depression as a kid, and is someone who has a lot on his plate and does a lot for my family. It makes me feel terrible when I see him struggling, and his escape is alcohol instead of being honest with us or getting therapy. I try to be positive when he’s sober and not mention any of the things that happen when he’s drunk because he doesn’t learn from them or take them into account. I would like to bring up his relationship with alcohol when he’s sober, but I don’t want him to accuse me of judging him or anything, as he’s done so in the past.

He initially started with White Claws, and that’s like almost a seltzer but with alcohol in it, and he would get super intoxicated very quickly as he would drink one back to back. Then my mom spoke with him and told him to take it easy with the drinks. He did stop for a while, but he went back to drinking and switched over to white wine. I can’t remember the brand. He would get a huge bottle and finish it in 2-3 days.

My brother never abused alcohol like this; he would get drinks here and there, but it would last months. But recently his boyfriend moved in about 2 years ago, and that’s when I saw him starting to abuse alcohol. They share the main bedroom, and he works from home, so my brother is constantly there, and so is the boyfriend, who works once a week. My brother also pays a lot of the bills, and my mom and I help him out as much as we can. He’s also a student, and he constantly says he doesn’t have time. So I understand the frustration of not having time for yourself and wanting to have a drink and chill. But it’s getting to a point where it’s affecting aspects of his life.

He usually goes to a bar after work (he usually works from home, but when he wants to drink without any of my family seeing, he just goes in to work), the issue isn’t him going to a bar after work, I feel like that’s pretty standard for most people but it’s him not being able to control how much he drinks and gets intoxicated. He would also get aggressive, and my biggest fear is that if he’s intoxicated and starts something with someone outside or vice versa, it can lead to him getting hurt or hurting others. He also would forget things, including where he was going; he couldn’t even recognize who I was once. I know people say things they don’t mean when they’re under the influence, and there have been many times he has done that to me and others, but it still hurts regardless, and it hurts more knowing that’s not who he is when he’s sober. I never had anyone in my family, especially my close family, go through this. I don’t want him to feel like alcohol helps numb his emotions, as he said once. I’m terrified this is going to keep progressing, and I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m very close to my brother, and the thought of something happening to him haunts me every time I see him like that. Is there something I can do or my family can do? We’ve tried talking with him- no pressure and no accusations and he just continues to abuse alcohol.

as the title says, i’m in dire need of some queer friends lmfao I have too many hets in my circle. also, please be 21+ ❤️‍🩹

so a few things about me is that i’m bi and I do some art so if you’re artsy, we’re gonna get along just fine :) I love music, and I love artists like Lady Gaga, Don Toliver, and Brent Faiyaz, to name a few. but I’m open to getting song recs too and (I highly encourage it!)

I do play some games on the PS5, mostly casual Fortnite, Texas Chainsaw, and other single-player games like Cyberpunk and KCD.

I love LiS, TWDG, TLOU and basically all the story games and I would be very down to discuss theories. also very into tv shows like The Pitt, HotD, GOT so HBO shows(?)

no dry texters pls ☮️🫶🏽