u/Silly-little-guy

Title self explanatory but ill specify.

Its been 6 months since the relationship ended- it was both of our first relationship, and we'd been together since we were freshly 18. (22 now) so it was a long time thing. Im over it in many ways, and I thought I was over it in more ways BUT

3 days ago I got a new butch roommate- this is an absolute dream and im so excited however they have a femme gf. I have lots of butch femme friends, and my other roommate (trans guy) does have a girlfriend so its not like im not used to overhearing couples in my space but something about that particular dynamic broke something in me.

It was the first time she slept over last night and this morning I miss my ex just so much. Its such a special thing to be a butch loved by a femme, and i just dont know how long itll ve til this doesnt bother me

Have any of you guys gone through something similar? Any advice?

Pretty self explanatory as title says... i sprained my wrist arm wrestling and now need to take time off- roughly how long should I take off from lifting?

Was talking with my femme friend and she finds cats to be very femme which is a classic. I find dogs to be incredibly butch!! I think they really represent butch values!! Particularly bully breeds- however dogs are also my special interest so that may be it!!

Anyways, all this got me wondering if any of you guys have an animal you associate with butchness- and if you do, why? also if you are femme and have an animal you associate with your femme identity im curious about it to?

Hi everyone!!

My mental health has been slowly getting worse and worse over the past few months- this may be some sort of delusion or may be reality, but how do i get the help I need without my friends hating me? Im a fairly well loved and popular person and id like to maintain that, but i fear opening up or seeking the help I need may interfere with that- is there anyway to be more secretaries about th8s stuff? Thank you!!!

Hi everyone!!

I am a bad dancer- like a really REALLY awkward and bad dancer- ive been teased about it all my life!! It was fine when I was a kid, but now im an adult going to clubs and such and its very very embarrassing - id like very much to be able to enjoy raves and clubs like the rest of my peers- where can I start? Like give me the BEAR bones like really BEAR bones- im truly hopeless!!!!

I want to clarify before I start I am VERY happy with what t has given me so far. Its awesome to finally feel more like me in my body.

That being said, I find myself feeling really insecure everytime I put my gel on at night. I want the changes but it feels like if I get them ill loose being attractive. That ill become ugly and undesirable in some way. I am not traditional attractive but I am quite attractive by lesbian standards- it feels like I have to choose between that or being myself. Too choose between being loved and desired and being myself.

Furthermore, im a very butch4femme kind of butch and thats making it even worse. I feel like femmes will not want me if I keep going through with this, but it would kill me to stop.

Idk any perspective on this would be great or I guess reassurance from butches on t that femmes are still into you would be great

Hi everyone,

I have been recently going through medical issues that have kept me out of the house for most of the day, and made me tired and angry when I am home. They've also made me struggle to sleep quite alot. My usually sweet kitty has recently not been letting me sleep, and because of my medical issues the only contact I have with her most days is during the night. She wont stop screaming and hitting me, and when im already having a really hard time sleeping its become quite a problem. Ive really started to resent her almost im just so tired. I havent yelled at her but I have spoken to her a bit unkindly recently because of it, which i do feel awful about. Does anyone have any advice on a. Managing the screaming or b. Dealing with frustration at your cat? I love my cat and I feel awful that i dread coming home to her as of late

Hi guys, im having a problem that im sure is going to make some of you jealous- (its making my friends irl jealous) I am a butch whos primarily into femmes, but i have recently been overflooded both in person and online by other butches and mascs hitting on me. I want to make it clear that I am NOT uncomfortable about this- i love my fellow butches and think butch4butch is wonderful! (Ive had a few butch4butch encounters and enjoy it from time to time, but tend not to engage anymore as butch4butch is not what im looking for longterm at the moment and i dont want to make my fellow butches feel like im only using them for sex!)

When I approach femmes or swipe on them Its just like NOT working I dont know 😭😭 so femmes on here, what are you guys into and butches what do you guys do to attract femmes?

Hi everyone!!

I just took my very first dose of t- and ive made the decision to not tell a single person in my life about it :)

Im generally an open book, and i have lots of supportive family and friends but I guess to me its like- this feels so personal! Who's too say my butch body didnt just suddenly start changing in the ways it will change?

Im sure as the changes come ill have to tell the people in my life but right now im just very happy with my little secret- I feel very grateful to be butch, and very grateful to have the opportunity to be able to take control of my body like this- it feels like soon it might actually start feeling like the body ive always wanted :))

Hello!!

Im a Canadian visiting vermont with American friends in a week- i recently did some manual labour for them and as payment they are taking me to chillis. This will be my first and one of probably very few times at chillis- i want to get the triple dipper because thats what i see all over my tiktok and instagram but i worry it wont actually be good-what should I get?

Hey!

This starts off with a bit of an embarrassing story haha ive been usually packing by just safety pinning my packer in a sock to my underwear but recently i guess the safety pin broke or something because it fell out while I was in a changing room!! Luckily i was alone and just picked it up and stuffed it in my pocket LOL but ive been a bit paranoid to wear it out ever since obviously!!

So im just wondering how the butches who pack her pack- do you use packing boxers or something else? If you do use packing boxers, is there any brand u recommend?

I have awful bottom dysphoria so I would very much like to continue packing but the idea of my dick falling out is mortifing. Any advice is super welcomed!!

Thank you!!