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So I reported a man for paying me (17F) for sexual stuff. Had the whole police statement thing yesterday. Now, the detective involved texted me, asking how I’m doing.

I think a part of me distrusts every adult man now. The whole time, I’m just thinking, if I offered sex, would he accept? A part of me thinks every guy in his 40s would accept sex from a legal teen if they offered. (Age of consent where I live is 17 so it is legal)

I know this is stupid, and he seems like a nice guy. But now I’m a little confused why he’s texting me. Seems somewhat unprofessional?

I (18F) was about to go to a pool party, motzai shabbos. Dressed in denim shorts and a halter top. Not even a crop top, and no cleavage was really shown.

I was with two friends and we stayed for havdalah. My dad was about to start and I stood opposite him.

He said (very gruffly) “Can you move. I can’t do havdalah in front of a half naked girl.”

I’m really upset that he said that, especially in front of my friends. I hate Judaism so much. I also hate the insinuation because isn’t the point that you don’t get turned on during praying? And that would be really weird if a father gets turned on from his daughter.

I hate that my mom tells me to dress more modestly when my brothers come home so as to not make it hard for them.

I know they say immodesty makes people desensitised. But that’s good because then girls can wear what they want without their brothers getting turned on from them. But in the religious world, just showing your knees turns men on so you gotta hide them.

I hate that every time I bike around my neighbourhood, everyone stares at me. That I have to feel uncomfortable for wearing clothes that are so normal in the regular world.

My teacher once said that girls shouldn’t bike in public because it’s not tznius. So girls should miss out on an experience, so as to not turn on guys. And then they say tznius is for the woman?

I hate orthodox Judaism so much. They talk about the beauty, but none of these backwards rules that control your life are beautiful.

I don’t know what to do at this point. She’s always saying she’s going to kill herself. She self harms, but I don’t think she’s ever actually attempted.

She has autism and adhd. Definitely depressed and I suspect bpd. But refuses to take any meds or go to therapy.

Her parents know and do nothing. They can see all her texts through this program so there’s no way they don’t know.

She just said she’s going to kill herself because her boyfriend broke up with her. She said goodbye. I half want to reply back, “good bye” because I have no idea what to respond. (Yes, I know its fucked up of me but at this point its too much for me)

I dont think she would actually try and kill herself but what if she actually does?

I think she writes that stuff for attention but I can’t know for sure. I just don’t know what to do anymore.

I once called the police on another friend who said she was going to kill herself and she got really pissed. She said she was just suicidal but wasn’t going to actually. But I got scared because she had said bye and then blocked everyone in the friend group.

Yes I do regret it. And won’t do it again. Don’t have a car right now anyway and won’t have till after college, so a couple of years.

The part that confuses me is that driving drunk was so much easier than driving tired. And yet driving tired is so normalised. I know both are bad. I crashed while sleep deprived, so I’m not going to do that either.

I just don’t get why driving drunk is considered so horrible and yet it’s perfectly normal to drive with no sleep.

I’m asking this as an 18 year old, not as someone who wants to date someone young. I know people will call a 30 year old dating an 18 year old gross, but I don’t really get why.

If the 18 year old is mature and understands what she is getting into, what’s the problem? Sure, it’s weird but why is it wrong if she isn’t being pressured manipulated?

I understand if she’s been groomed, or if he’s pressuring her. But say she is the one initiating and wants it, what’s the problem?

Like today I got angry about something, and I was just yelling at the top of my lungs. Feel really bad for my mom because she doesn’t deserve that. But when I get angry, I just can’t control it.

So I was using my dad’s somewhat broken bike that was too big. The real problem was that my knees hurt so bad. I posted here and people said the seat height can also make things uncomfortable.

Well, I went to get a new bike. Bought a 500$ used hybrid at a bike shop. The guy selling it said the seat doesn’t need to be high if you’re commuting (what O use it for) and only if cycling for a while.

I’m wondering if this is true. And if it isn’t, why would he tell me it is? Now I’m scared he doesn’t know his stuff and the bike could be bad.

He had it set up where I could have my feet on the ground. I tried making the seat higher so just the tips of my toes could touch the ground, and I think it made it easier. Just confused.

At this point, my mom has pretty much accepted me. She let me go to public school and supports me in going to college. I do think she is proud of me despite not being religious.

However, I told her that I don’t really care if I marry a Jew or Non Jew.

She got really upset and now is always giving me speeches on why it’s bad. She says nothing to do with being religious, it would be hard because we don’t have the same values. She says the marriage wouldn’t last.

So, I’m wondering if anyone here has dated/married a Non Jew and if it worked out or not.

I’m 17F and recently switched to public school from private. Because of this, I’m required to take classes that I didn’t need to before. So I’m stuck taking art with ninth graders.

I do an engineering class for the art credit. The boys in the class are the most obnoxious kids in the world. I went to a only girls school and only recently started interacting with boys so have never had contact with this age of boys before.

I honestly feel like I’m in preschool. They fart, burp, and laugh so loud and are just so dumb.

They talk really loud, and make it impossible to concentrate. And I’m not saying this because I like learning.

The way this class works is that you do all the work by yourself. You just got to have it given in by the end of the quarter. Well, I’m behind and have to make it up at lunch because of these stupid kids.

Literally, everyday I resist the urge to scream at them to shut up. I honestly think of just punching them to get them to shut up.

Like why are they so selfish??

My teacher does nothing. And I just can’t deal with this.

I know this is small and I definitely have a lot more bigger problems but this is just something that tips me over the edge.