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I’ve been at this job a few months. Its a fairly new restaurant. Im one of the main foh staff (21f) . It’s
mainly be me and my manager (45m) on the floor. Sometimes the owner too. So i’m barely
Working with anyone else. My manager who i liked at first, thought he was chill.

But there was an instance a few weeks ago where he kept making comments, calling me pretty in like the most random moments , saying he liked my weight, askinh me to go dancing with him. Saying i look like his ex that my skin is rlly nice. Then was rubbing my neck without permission i didnt know what to do.

Ever since then im more wary, kinda uncomfortable around him. He will stare at me for ages to the point i have to be like , yes? Just odd, i like this job but its off putting. He’s offering me the chance of being manager eventually. My bf and i came for a drink last week then the next day non stop askef me wuestions about him.

Today i was also just scraping a plate and he randomly says i look so pretty… thanks ? I doesnt seem weird but u have to know how he is , i dont know how i feel about my boss thinking im pretty, then kept rubbing my shoulder , he’s like overly touchy.

Anyway, my bf comes to my job today and waits while i finish work. He’d never been properly , they knew he was my bf cus he asked where i was. I was finishing up. All my other co workers said hi to him talked to him and my manager didnt even say anything (mind u this man is OVERLY chatty and i could tell he was acting weird ) i felt uncomfortable, he saif i can have a drink but didnt offer if my bf wanted one or anything. Mind u my co workers partner came the other day and he was talking to them.

It just felt off, my bf felt uncomfortable too. I said bye when we were leaving and he gave my bf the dirtiest look, he was all quiet and moody from when my bf came in. Odd . I was finishing up relaying tables and my bf was waiting , normally my manager will let me go when i ask but he kept nit picking and checking if everything was done its like he was tryna delay me finishing ? Also got another guy to make my drink cus my bf was at the bar and i had a weird feeling he didnt wanna make it cus that would mean he would have to talk to my bf…

Cus any other time he will get me a drink himself no issue.

Idk how to feel but its uncomfy and i shouldnt feel uncomfortablrnif my bf just wants to meet me after work? Opinons?

ive also been reading a book and i will take it to work when its quiet and read . Or on my break. He was insisting to borrow it when im done. And he would give me one of his books. Ok cool. Kept asking if ive finished it yet . When i said no he said ‘ i feel like you dont want me to have it’ no… i just didnt finish it. I did finally cus he kept asking and gave me his, this book is about murder and kidnapping. Just a book i know , but he will literally bang on about something and not let it rest . Im blunt with him and just get on with my job but it doesnt seem to work. I need this job rn .

Edit- its hard too , as him and the owner run it together. Its a pretty smallish pub but repopened and it just getting busier. I literally never work with any other staff. Even yesterday he cancelled two others and kept me cus it was quiet , told a customer that and the customer asked if im his favourite and he said yes and winked at me.

Im pretty confident and i can stand my ground but when it comes to this stuff clearly not. I get so uncomfprtablr and scared and its also the fact i dotn wanna upset him cus i need the money rn. Its a weird situation. Cus he is the only con .

Im thinking of more incidents now that i write this.

The bartender joked about him being gay and he then kept saying he is defo not gay while looking at me . Goes on about how he’s almost forgotten the anatomy of a women, stuff like this. Like stuff i do not need to know .

I’ve been at this job a few months. Its a fairly new restaurant. Im one of the main foh staff (21f) . It’s
mainly be me and my manager (45m) on the floor. Sometimes the owner too. So i’m barely
Working with anyone else. My manager who i liked at first, thought he was chill.

But there was an instance a few weeks ago where he kept making comments, calling me pretty in like the most random moments , saying he liked my weight, askinh me to go dancing with him. Saying i look like his ex that my skin is rlly nice. Then was rubbing my neck without permission i didnt know what to do.

Ever since then im more wary, kinda uncomfortable around him. He will stare at me for ages to the point i have to be like , yes? Just odd, i like this job but its off putting. He’s offering me the chance of being manager eventually. My bf and i came for a drink last week then the next day non stop askef me wuestions about him.

Today i was also just scraping a plate and he randomly says i look so pretty… thanks ? I doesnt seem weird but u have to know how he is , i dont know how i feel about my boss thinking im pretty, then kept rubbing my shoulder , he’s like overly touchy.

Anyway, my bf comes to my job today and waits while i finish work. He’d never been properly , they knew he was my bf cus he asked where i was. I was finishing up. All my other co workers said hi to him talked to him and my manager didnt even say anything (mind u this man is OVERLY chatty and i could tell he was acting weird ) i felt uncomfortable, he saif i can have a drink but didnt offer if my bf wanted one or anything. Mind u my co workers partner came the other day and he was talking to them.

It just felt off, my bf felt uncomfortable too. I said bye when we were leaving and he gave my bf the dirtiest look, he was all quiet and moody from when my bf came in. Odd . I was finishing up relaying tables and my bf was waiting , normally my manager will let me go when i ask but he kept nit picking and checking if everything was done its like he was tryna delay me finishing ? Also got another guy to make my drink cus my bf was at the bar and i had a weird feeling he didnt wanna make it cus that would mean he would have to talk to my bf…

Cus any other time he will get me a drink himself no issue.

Idk how to feel but its uncomfy and i shouldnt feel uncomfortablrnif my bf just wants to meet me after work? Opinons?

ive also been reading a book and i will take it to work when its quiet and read . Or on my break. He was insisting to borrow it when im done. And he would give me one of his books. Ok cool. Kept asking if ive finished it yet . When i said no he said ‘ i feel like you dont want me to have it’ no… i just didnt finish it. I did finally cus he kept asking and gave me his, this book is about murder and kidnapping. Just a book i know , but he will literally bang on about something and not let it rest . Im blunt with him and just get on with my job but it doesnt seem to work. I need this job rn .

Edit- its hard too , as him and the owner run it together. Its a pretty smallish pub but repopened and it just getting busier. I literally never work with any other staff. Even yesterday he cancelled two others and kept me cus it was quiet , told a customer that and the customer asked if im his favourite and he said yes and winked at me.

Im pretty confident and i can stand my ground but when it comes to this stuff clearly not. I get so uncomfprtablr and scared and its also the fact i dotn wanna upset him cus i need the money rn. Its a weird situation. Cus he is the only con .

Im thinking of more incidents now that i write this.

The bartender joked about him being gay and he then kept saying he is defo not gay while looking at me . Goes on about how he’s almost forgotten the anatomy of a women, stuff like this. Like stuff i do not need to know .

I’ve been at this job a few months. Its a fairly new restaurant. Im one of the main foh staff (21f) . It’s
mainly be me and my manager (45m) on the floor. Sometimes the owner too. So i’m barely
Working with anyone else. My manager who i liked at first, thought he was chill.

But there was an instance a few weeks ago where he kept making comments, calling me pretty in like the most random moments , saying he liked my weight, askinh me to go dancing with him. Saying i look like his ex that my skin is rlly nice. Then was rubbing my neck without permission i didnt know what to do.

Ever since then im more wary, kinda uncomfortable around him. He will stare at me for ages to the point i have to be like , yes? Just odd, i like this job but its off putting. He’s offering me the chance of being manager eventually. My bf and i came for a drink last week then the next day non stop askef me wuestions about him.

Today i was also just scraping a plate and he randomly says i look so pretty… thanks ? I doesnt seem weird but u have to know how he is , i dont know how i feel about my boss thinking im pretty, then kept rubbing my shoulder , he’s like overly touchy.

Anyway, my bf comes to my job today and waits while i finish work. He’d never been properly , they knew he was my bf cus he asked where i was. I was finishing up. All my other co workers said hi to him talked to him and my manager didnt even say anything (mind u this man is OVERLY chatty and i could tell he was acting weird ) i felt uncomfortable, he saif i can have a drink but didnt offer if my bf wanted one or anything. Mind u my co workers partner came the other day and he was talking to them.

It just felt off, my bf felt uncomfortable too. I said bye when we were leaving and he gave my bf the dirtiest look, he was all quiet and moody from when my bf came in. Odd . Idk how to feel but its uncomfy and i shouldnt feel uncomfortablrnif my bf just wants to meet me after work? Opinons?

Edit- i also forgot . Ive been reading a book and i will take it to work when its quiet and read . Or on my break. He was insisting to borrow it when im done. And he would give me one of his books. Ok cool. Kept asking if ive finished it yet . When i said no he said ‘ i feel like you dont want me to have it’ no… i just didnt finish it. I did finally cus he kept askinh and gave me his, this book is about murder and kidnapping. Just a book but he will lit bang on about something and not let it rest . Im blunt with him and just get on with my job but it doesnt seem to work. I need this job rn .

Hi, i hate asking for money as i like to be independent . I’m 21 and i do have a job , i recently switched jobs , had to leave my other one for various reasons. Ive had one pay check so far but it wasn’t a full month , i had to use most of my pay on paying my mum back . My last £200 had to be used to get new tyres on my car , as i have no way of getting to work without it . I also had to pay for new glasses as my eyes have been hurting badly , they said i have an issue with my eye muscles not working well together so had to get a new prescription which cost £75 for the test and new glasses .

I’m down to £15 and thats in cash to last two weeks before payday , idk how im gonna get petrol or food .I live with my grandma she is unable to give me money as her only money is her pension and cannot afford until next month to lend me any , which by then i will be paid . My mum can’t and i’m not close enough with other family members to the point i could ask them for money. I hate telling people im struggling but i am.

Even just £5 from a few people would help me out significantly . I dont expect people to want to give money to a stranger but its worth a shot. Im straight up with the fact i do have a job , just struggling to tide through until payday

My paypal is https://www.paypal.me/Onlyhapp

Have a good day💞

This is something i struggle with, also a little on my lower legs . No matter how much i shave it is nevee smoothe always stubble. I want my armpits to be light and smoothe. Since losing weight its even harder to get to my armpits . Help girls

I’m 21f, i started a new job a month ago maybe. It’s in a restaurant. I just got my food and bev supervisor certificate with a distinction so was looking for a new environment .
Anyway , i digress .
I have two managers, both who are nice to me . Kinda to nice, they tend not to be as nice to the male staff??

Anyway , i was on with one manager today. He always winks and stuff and says hello gorgeous but that didnt bother me it was just friendly uno?

Anyway today, he kept making comments saying im very pretty. That i look like his ex, asking about my race . (I’m mixed) . Then was talking about my weight , saying he likes my weight and if i wanna go salsa dancing with him?

Then later my nevk was hurting he asked whats wrong and without asking starts rubbing my neck. I didnt really know what to do .
I felt so uncomfortable. Idk if im being dramatic or if i should look at finding something else ….

‘I meant am i overreacting’ i was writing this quick’y at work.

I dont have enough karma yet to reply to comments , so dm me if u want. My response to the hr comments though, he is hr . So i dont really know what to do

This question grinds my gears. Im 21f mixed race . Black and white . I was born in england and have ALWAYS LIVED HERE. Why do people think its ok to ask this constantly ?

Where are you from? ‘ england’ , Noo where r u originally from? …. ‘England’ .

Im a waitress and an all white table of 5 sit down the first think they ask me is that… then said oh because my mum is from south africa.. ok cool? And then continues to say she has Jamaican friends . Im not Jamaican and also idc.
I’m from guinea but dont know anything about my black side really.

I cant count how many times ive been asked this , i cant stand it pls stop asking people this , it just feels offensive. Most people dont mean is badly but it makes me angry.

I’m 21 and started working at 17 . I got my first job at tesco , hated it was very depressed and used to sh in the bathrooms in my break. Then the co-op , awful . I then went to uni and left due to an operation. I then landed a job at a hotel, i was there two years. By far my favourite job ever , i was foh and then went into the kitchen as i got on with then well. It was the most fun job (not the job itself) but the people i worked with it was like a family. Then things got toxic, i was burnt out .

Tired working 60hr weeks (weirdly less burnt out than when i was foh though doing less hours) . I landed with 2 amazing co workers in there , but not so nice head chefs.
Things werent the same anymore , everyone was getting sick of it . I left the job, no plan . Weirdly felt at peace .

I found another job in under 4 weeks , got a lot of interview offers so i felt good. Just started this new job which is another waitress job. I cant help but feel i rushed into it, mainly because its only been a few days but i broke down in my car after because i kept making mistakes and i was anoyyed at myself and came to the realisation i just cant do serving or customer facing jobs in such intimate context. I think i have adhd and idk how to go about getting diagnosed , i struggle with impulsivity which i wont get into theres to many examples. I always feel unfulfilled in life .

This job isnt hard , infact its less hours than my last job and rhe same pay from what id get doing a 60hr week…but i know in my heart i cant do this.
Ive been happier since i left my last job but idk if i can deal with a job where i dont want to go in and i feel im performing all day thats what i did when i was foh at my other place and i was rhe most unhappy ive ever been.

I only have experience in customer service and hospo also a apprenticeship in food/bev supervising in a distinction. Which i regret bow because i feel im trapped in this and its the only job i can easily get .
I was a remote job, something that its not so performative and wont kill my soul.
Im so scared for the future , but mainly because im scared of being unhappy again . Maybe its my antidepressants that are working well but . Im a naturally shy person , i can put it on when i need to but after a while it drains me because its not me at all.

I need help to get into something else, indeed sucks and idk where to apply or how to get into a different direction. My town is also small and barely has opportunities . This cannot be life , i cant wrap my head around working to live i want to just live .

Do i give this job a month ? A chance ? Or do i find something else quick. If so how😭and what can i do rhat doesnt involve people