u/Some_Necessary820

I’m 20 and I am needing some advice to make myself feel better for time being.

Here are 2 things preventing me from being happy- Caring about what other people thing (ironic isn’t it?) and craving emotional bonds. Now I don’t want these things to persist because logically I know that I’d be perfectly fine without emotional attachment and care for other’s perceptions of me.

It’s a trait that’s past down for evolutionary survival- the problem is I really need these two things to stop. It’s not preference it’s just that I can’t do anything to make these things go away or be a positive.

I was wondering if anyone knows any ways to lessen all this? - like maybe substitutes or something?

I’ve been consistently called immature, annoying and unintelligent- even when I was a kid. I don’t really know how to think of myself otherwise or if I even should. What can help? I feel this weird feeling where I feel like people are watching me laughing at me when I cry especially. I don’t feel like anyone views me or my problems seriously- and maybe they aren’t. I just want peace

I’ve been consistently called immature, annoying and unintelligent- even when I was a kid. I don’t really know how to think of myself otherwise or if I even should. What can help? I feel this weird feeling where I feel like people are watching me laughing at me when I cry especially. I don’t feel like anyone views me or my problems seriously- and maybe they aren’t. I just want peace

Oh I’m definitely a terrible person, and I am more unlikable than not. There’s a reason I’m alone after all. Still feel myself craving people all the time. How do I fix my flaw? Has anyone ever get it away?

People call me emotionally stunted, immature, unintelligent, etc. To me it’s not some reach. I have been consistently rejected and treated differently. Throughout my life I’ve made friends with people younger than me- and the ones that weren’t consistently bullied me. I’m now 20 years old and I have given up my pursuit. It is best not to give myself and other people more grief than is worth.

Going into stores, events, or anything I’m doing in public or with human beings is extremely difficult for me. I feel deeply uncomfortable when people are around- especially when it’s a big group or a group of friends or couples. I can’t stand them so much so that I do my best to avoid them.
I have the desire to live alone, work alone, and hope to be in very low contact with my family.
But then I’d realize I’d still be afraid because nothing is certain. My health is terrible, my mental health is really terrible- but people don’t help at all. My worst days have been in the presence of “friends and family”.

And yet I cry regularly and fantasize almost constantly about being loved, and about being accepted and cared for. I think about being loved and encouraged, having people I COULD actually love. But I feel like it’s incredibly fictitious and just a flawed mechanism that evolution infused into my nature. I wish I could turn it off for good.

Then I think about if I was just living life I’d honestly have no purpose. Life is just really dull and excruciating. I feel like I live a mundane, good life. But I still feel pretty disconnected, careless, and emotionally unavailable to my friends and family. I have gone years without even contacting some, I isolate from the immediate ones, and I haven’t contacted some “close” family members in over a year. I just feel shame and deeply uncomfortable in their vicinity.

I just wish life was not something I’d have to have been brought into. I don’t think it was ever worth it. I’m not going to attempt or anything, but I do resent my parents for bringing me here. Childhood was pretty upsetting in a whole lot of ways and my teen years also absolutely sucked. I want to stamp out the weird and fictitious stuff I can’t seem to stop thinking about, and I want to stop crying and feeling empty. It’s just so useless and I feel like I could live perfectly fine if we didn’t have this biological flaw.

Any advice is appreciated.

Going into stores, events, or anything I’m doing in public or with human beings is extremely difficult for me. I feel deeply uncomfortable when people are around- especially when it’s a big group or a group of friends or couples. I can’t stand them so much so that I do my best to avoid them.
I have the desire to live alone, work alone, and hope to be in very low contact with my family.
But then I’d realize I’d still be afraid because nothing is certain. My health is terrible, my mental health is really terrible- but people don’t help at all. My worst days have been in the presence of “friends and family”.

And yet I cry regularly and fantasize almost constantly about being loved, and about being accepted and cared for. I think about being loved and encouraged, having people I COULD actually love. But I feel like it’s incredibly fictitious and just a flawed mechanism that evolution infused into my nature. I wish I could turn it off for good.

Then I think about if I was just living life I’d honestly have no purpose. Life is just really dull and excruciating. I feel like I live a mundane, good life. But I still feel pretty disconnected, careless, and emotionally unavailable to my friends and family. I have gone years without even contacting some, I isolate from the immediate ones, and I haven’t contacted some “close” family members in over a year. I just feel shame and deeply uncomfortable in their vicinity.

I just wish life was not something I’d have to have been brought into. I don’t think it was ever worth it. I’m not going to attempt or anything, but I do resent my parents for bringing me here. Childhood was pretty upsetting in a whole lot of ways and my teen years also absolutely sucked. I want to stamp out the weird and fictitious stuff I can’t seem to stop thinking about, and I want to stop crying and feeling empty. It’s just so useless and I feel like I could live perfectly fine if we didn’t have this biological flaw.

Any advice is appreciated.

Going into stores, events, or anything I’m doing in public or with human beings is extremely difficult for me. I feel deeply uncomfortable when people are around- especially when it’s a big group or a group of friends or couples. I can’t stand them so much so that I do my best to avoid them.
I have the desire to live alone, work alone, and hope to be in very low contact with my family.
But then I’d realize I’d still be afraid because nothing is certain. My health is terrible, my mental health is really terrible- but people don’t help at all. My worst days have been in the presence of “friends and family”.

And yet I cry regularly and fantasize almost constantly about being loved, and about being accepted and cared for. I think about being loved and encouraged, having people I COULD actually love. But I feel like it’s incredibly fictitious and just a flawed mechanism that evolution infused into my nature. I wish I could turn it off for good.

Then I think about if I was just living life I’d honestly have no purpose. Life is just really dull and excruciating. I feel like I live a mundane, good life. But I still feel pretty disconnected, careless, and emotionally unavailable to my friends and family. I have gone years without even contacting some, I isolate from the immediate ones, and I haven’t contacted some “close” family members in over a year. I just feel shame and deeply uncomfortable in their vicinity.

I just wish life was not something I’d have to have been brought into. I don’t think it was ever worth it. I’m not going to attempt or anything, but I do resent my parents for bringing me here. Childhood was pretty upsetting in a whole lot of ways and my teen years also absolutely sucked. I want to stamp out the weird and fictitious stuff I can’t seem to stop thinking about, and I want to stop crying and feeling empty. It’s just so useless and I feel like I could live perfectly fine if we didn’t have this biological flaw.

Any advice is appreciated.

Going into stores, events, or anything I’m doing in public or with human beings is extremely difficult for me. I feel deeply uncomfortable when people are around- especially when it’s a big group or a group of friends or couples. I can’t stand them so much so that I do my best to avoid them.
I have the desire to live alone, work alone, and hope to be in very low contact with my family.
But then I’d realize I’d still be afraid because nothing is certain. My health is terrible, my mental health is really terrible- but people don’t help at all. My worst days have been in the presence of “friends and family”.

And yet I cry regularly and fantasize almost constantly about being loved, and about being accepted and cared for. I think about being loved and encouraged, having people I COULD actually love. But I feel like it’s incredibly fictitious and just a flawed mechanism that evolution infused into my nature. I wish I could turn it off for good.

Then I think about if I was just living life I’d honestly have no purpose. Life is just really dull and excruciating. I feel like I live a mundane, good life. But I still feel pretty disconnected, careless, and emotionally unavailable to my friends and family. I have gone years without even contacting some, I isolate from the immediate ones, and I haven’t contacted some “close” family members in over a year. I just feel shame and deeply uncomfortable in their vicinity.

I just wish life was not something I’d have to have been brought into. I don’t think it was ever worth it. I’m not going to attempt or anything, but I do resent my parents for bringing me here. Childhood was pretty upsetting in a whole lot of ways and my teen years also absolutely sucked. I want to stamp out the weird and fictitious stuff I can’t seem to stop thinking about, and I want to stop crying and feeling empty. It’s just so useless and I feel like I could live perfectly fine if we didn’t have this biological flaw.

Any advice is appreciated.

It seems kinda weird and boring and pointless. Can someone explain what the point is? I’ve asked people around me and they usually say things regarding family, friends, and relationships and I don’t really understand any of those things because I don’t really think that’s something I would point to a “purpose of life”. Some say passions but I don’t have any. I feel basically the exact same no matter what I do. Can someone give me the answer?

It seems kinda weird and boring and pointless. Can someone explain what the point is? I’ve asked people around me and they usually say things regarding family, friends, and relationships and I don’t really understand any of those things because I don’t really think that’s something I would point to a “purpose of life”. Some say passions but I don’t have any. I feel basically the exact same no matter what I do. Can someone give me the answer?

I’m tired and I wish my emotions didn’t exist. Life is really cruel.

I have good stuff in life but something I strongly lack is emotional connection. I have parents, I have a brother, I have friends and yet every single one has a really strong disconnect. I’ve become selfish, avoidant, very anxious, and nihilistic. I’m having an existential crisis and have a hard time enjoying things.

I keep trying to find “proof” or something believable that points to an afterlife because truly I hate this life with a passion. I have so much love but I don’t have anywhere to put it. It’s lonely and with my mental and physical issues it’s hard because people “close” to me aren’t empathetic enough to even try and understand.

A ginormous issue is my homosexuality and as much as I try to get them to understand they don’t really care to try out of fear of “looking bad” or “supporting ungodly stuff”. My friend is uncomfortable with me being homosexual and then proceeds to sexualize homosexuality but “only in fiction”, my family doesn’t really care about my mental health especially in regards to the constant homophobia that their religious leaders spew.

I am tired. It’s like my emotions want love, connection, acceptance, a person TO love, and people who are okay with boundaries, talking about our feelings (people in my life are very surface level).

I know some of this is my fault- of course if I’m so bad at getting these things- it’s something I need to work on.

I just kind of wish I had a community and people to go to who could back me up and to be emotionally invested with. Life is lonely and boring. I tried going to a festival a few blocks away but it was boring because I had nobody to spend it with. It just seemed like watching a movie with it muted, sure there are pretty colors but there’s not context to the colors or real memories to be had. I feel like I was build for connection and community and yet it’s just kind of nonexistent- not for my brother tho he has the whole church.

Anyways if anyone is also dealing with isolation how do you cope and get through life like this? Do these feelings and needs go away? I am wondering that if I grow older these feelings will slowly fade. Any advice appreciated.

I have good stuff in life but something I strongly lack is emotional connection. I have parents, I have a brother, I have friends and yet every single one has a really strong disconnect. I’ve become selfish, avoidant, very anxious, and nihilistic. I’m having an existential crisis and have a hard time enjoying things.

I keep trying to find “proof” or something believable that points to an afterlife because truly I hate this life with a passion. I have so much love but I don’t have anywhere to put it. It’s lonely and with my mental and physical issues it’s hard because people “close” to me aren’t empathetic enough to even try and understand.

A ginormous issue is my homosexuality and as much as I try to get them to understand they don’t really care to try out of fear of “looking bad” or “supporting ungodly stuff”. My friend is uncomfortable with me being homosexual and then proceeds to sexualize homosexuality but “only in fiction”, my family doesn’t really care about my mental health especially in regards to the constant homophobia that their religious leaders spew.

I am tired. It’s like my emotions want love, connection, acceptance, a person TO love, and people who are okay with boundaries, talking about our feelings (people in my life are very surface level).

I know some of this is my fault- of course if I’m so bad at getting these things- it’s something I need to work on.

I just kind of wish I had a community and people to go to who could back me up and to be emotionally invested with. Life is lonely and boring. I tried going to a festival a few blocks away but it was boring because I had nobody to spend it with. It just seemed like watching a movie with it muted, sure there are pretty colors but there’s not context to the colors or real memories to be had. I feel like I was build for connection and community and yet it’s just kind of nonexistent- not for my brother tho he has the whole church.

Anyways if anyone is also dealing with isolation how do you cope and get through life like this? Do these feelings and needs go away? I am wondering that if I grow older these feelings will slowly fade. Any advice appreciated.

I am a woman (20) who has just gotten back from a trip to a place Called summit ministries. Pretty much all of my family members on both sides are Christ followers. I deconstructed at 13 and I assumed this was a just a place to ask questions about Christianity as my uncle from the Philippines wanted me to go and payed for the experience. I’m having deep sadness, existential dread, shame, love, and deep regret. I had accepted god back into my heart. I met so many wonderful people there. It was difficult for me because I’m a lesbian and homosexuality was compared to awful things. I feel like god is there in my heart and mind, but at the same time I almost doubt he exists. A god who loves us, and Jesus who loves us so much he died for us seems too good to be true. Reunion with dead loved ones and seeing all of my friends in heaven seems too good to be true. I am desperate for meaning, desperate for certainty, love, and a plan set out for my life, but I feel like it’s all too good to be true. I want a loving god who cares for me and my family. I want to see them in heaven. I feel like maybe we just rot and die though with eternity without love for us. I am also petrified and guilty for my homosexuality and the sins I’ve done. I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt, sadness, and regret because I want to love god. Children die though, people are murdered, abused, and tortured. I don’t know how to grapple with any of it Christian or not. Someone please help me.