u/Sorry_Part_7362

I just got hired at a stand near my college n found out theyre under the same franchise as one that opened near me a week ago by where i live at home. (for reference im 40 mins-1hr from home) n i was wondering will they accommodate me when and if i leave for winter break and come back OR if i transfer and transfer back since theyre under the same franchise. i did tell them where im from and stuff in the interview and that i attend school that the hiring manager said she goes to as well but does it through online but do i ask? or will it be a no go.

i met my groomer online when i was 16 and he had just turned 25. we met up and we would just have sex but its something that has traumatized me to this day (im 19 now) because he was very pushy and would emotionally abuse me a lot and he was an alcoholic at the time. i have and had really bad bipolar disorder n bpd before we stopped talking because i would call him out on his lies and he would get mad at me for calling him a liar n blocked me on everything one day n i never heard from him for like 6-8 months. i finally built up the courage one day to message him on an alternative account and he realized who i was very quickly and we caught up to each other. i was being manic at the time i added him simply to have sex with him again i dont know why. my brain associates sex with him in a good way even though it was traumatizing i think it was my brain trying to cope. just to find out hes gotten sober, his mother passed, and hes moved out of state i was literally devastated but i just keep contact with him for my sanity i dont think i can live without him. every now and then when i get angry at him i dont know he seems to tell me how much he regrets it and feels terrible about it and sorry for traumatizing me hes a completely different person now and i dont know what to do the entire times weve been in contact with each other which has been months he doesnt even mention a single sexual thing pretends like it didn’t happen but like acknowledges it when i get upset randomly about it bc it really did traumatized me and ill be broken for ever about it i just wanted him to love me but i guess he never did and sees me a friend but i never thought that of him i really loved him and i truely think hes oblivious to that. it makes
me sad he didnt love me enough to stay in the state i am and if i didnt reach out he wouldn’t had either

like genuinely when and how am i supposed to know when that chafee ETG grant money is coming in. i applied talked to pheaa multiple times i meet the requirements for foster care etc reached out to them for the status im about to finish up my first week of school w a balance still on my acc that the grant wouldve cleared n still am basically on a cliffhanger waiting and waiting financial aid said theyd put a hold on my acc until funds hit but when will that be i applied in may was told it was processed when i emailed to check the status bur still see nothing like im so irked and stressed.

I’ve been with my foster mother since I was 12 I am 19 now she gets paid until I am 21 because of a documented disability and the case ended in “subsidized legal custodianship” meaning CPS is no longer involved; during these years she barely would provide for me leaving me to start working young at 14 and barely having transportation to work because she would refuse to take me or buy necessities for me that I would have to pay for myself and basically worrying about money really young I was left to fend for myself as she would always complain about bills to me (nobody else as though even though there were like three other people living here) (her biological daughter, her, me, and her fiancé who later came in the picture which is when she really basically left me to fend for myself) she’d complain about bills but would literally go on cruises like the next day with him. Or if I’d ask for basic personal care she’d get the bare minimum. I’d constantly have to uber and lyft to work I got fed up with them and left the house and went to live in a homeless shelter just to save up for a car (which by the way I had to pay for my own driving lessons because she promised to get me a car when I turned 16…didnt happen after her fiancé came in the picture) got my license and lived in a homeless shelter simply to save up because I was going to college as well and I needed a car for that as its an hour out and she again refused to take me or pick me up when breaks came. So i finally bought this car and came back home and while I was in the shelter and she found out she started giving me an allowance of 100$ a week (barely anything in this economy) and she would make everything about money “i can only financially suppory you until you turn 21” and then started showing me apartment listings for when im 21 because she said “it’ll be a place for you to stay” mind you ill be 22 graduating college and ill be living on campus so she was expecting me to pay for separate housing to come back to on breaks while in school and also a car payment… and now I may not even be able to go attend college because she refuses to help out as well besides the weekly allowance I BARELY get sometimes she sends it sometimes she doesnt at all and its like i dont want this to turn into a financial abuse situation as she only gives me the allowance if one of her bills arent high because “oh if you do this for me” type a thing and its like im so sick of worrying about money ive had to raise myself even before going into her care and it sucks because it seems like after 21 yes that stipend ends and she even told me at my own college orientation “oh most of my money goes to bills” including the stipend which is why i barely got the needs i needed the 6 years of living here which its just sad because whenever I basically get kicked out she is likely going to get another foster child and do the same shit to them.

Shes been reported multiple times by me and others and they do nothing. The case ended so I don’t have an active case anymore or a caseworker. For reference im in PA

I’ve been with my foster mother since I was 12 I am 19 now she gets paid until I am 21 because of a documented disability and the case ended in “subsidized legal custodianship” meaning CPS is no longer involved; during these years she barely would provide for me leaving me to start working young at 14 and barely having transportation to work because she would refuse to take me or buy necessities for me that I would have to pay for myself and basically worrying about money really young I was left to fend for myself as she would always complain about bills to me (nobody else as though even though there were like three other people living here) (her biological daughter, her, me, and her fiancé who later came in the picture which is when she really basically left me to fend for myself) she’d complain about bills but would literally go on cruises like the next day with him. Or if I’d ask for basic personal care she’d get the bare minimum. I’d constantly have to uber and lyft to work I got fed up with them and left the house and went to live in a homeless shelter just to save up for a car (which by the way I had to pay for my own driving lessons because she promised to get me a car when I turned 16…didnt happen after her fiancé came in the picture) got my license and lived in a homeless shelter simply to save up because I was going to college as well and I needed a car for that as its an hour out and she again refused to take me or pick me up when breaks came. So i finally bought this car and came back home and while I was in the shelter and she found out she started giving me an allowance of 100$ a week (barely anything in this economy) and she would make everything about money “i can only financially suppory you until you turn 21” and then started showing me apartment listings for when im 21 because she said “it’ll be a place for you to stay” mind you ill be 22 graduating college and ill be living on campus so she was expecting me to pay for separate housing to come back to on breaks while in school and also a car payment… and now I may not even be able to go attend college because she refuses to help out as well besides the weekly allowance I BARELY get sometimes she sends it sometimes she doesnt at all and its like i dont want this to turn into a financial abuse situation as she only gives me the allowance if one of her bills arent high because “oh if you do this for me” type a thing and its like im so sick of worrying about money ive had to raise myself even before going into her care and it sucks because it seems like after 21 yes that stipend ends and she even told me at my own college orientation “oh most of my money goes to bills” including the stipend which is why i barely got the needs i needed the 6 years of living here which its just sad because whenever I basically get kicked out she is likely going to get another foster child and do the same shit to them.

I got into the system when I was 12 and been with the same women since (I am 19 now) and since Ive been here shes been complaining about bills being to high because of me and only me. (Theres 4 people living here all together) i am wondering if theres any SPLC financial assistance you guys know of or what to do. Since we closed w SPLC theres no caseworker present at all. She basically soft launched kicking me out at 21 (while ill still be in college)

So this seal green 2013 toyota prius that only has 67k miles on it and its being sold for around 11.9k and im planning to put a 4.9k downpayment on it and going this Thursday to see if its worth it. Do you think that price is a bit high considering the year but I only think its like that because of the low mileage and its very hard to find a low milege prius atleast in my area most of them have like 140k+ max. I looked at the car fax and it has had regular maintenance throughout its life and only one owner and one damage report which was on the front endish of the vehicle but the dealership (a toyota dealership) had shown my the damage and its just a ripple in the car that is barely noticeable. I want to atleast keep this car for 4-6 years if possible.