u/SpicyMandrake

Any other daily bathers? I love my bath. Surgery 10/13 and I'm already sad thinking about going so long without a bath.

This isn't new. I've had chronic headaches my whole life. But the last year or so they do seem to be increasing in frequency and severity, and are more and more medication-resistant. I'm currently on day 3 of a nasty one that will not go away no matter what I do.

My surgery is 10/13 and it's just making me feel like dealing with that on top of the headache I will probably have on the day of surgery is going to be too much. Like beyond my limit for stress and pain.

Been stuck on a bad memory for literal decades and haven't been able to cultivate enough self compassion to accept and let it go.

It does also feel like there's a blurry line between compassion and reassurance... because I frequently find myself trying to rationalize my actions. "You were young," "It's important to see the whole context," etc.

How do you develop kindness towards yourself without leaning into reassurance, or even forgiveness (which I know is also not the goal)? What actionable steps can I take to develop self compassion? I feel like I'm trying to do it through self care and it's not making a difference.

This is just such a nuanced condition to treat. I feel like I have to police my thoughts and reactions so heavily because the line between what's a compulsion and what isn't feels so thin.

I know cystoscopes are a thing but I don't know if they do them as a part of an exploratory/excision lap.

*check, not chick lol

Please feel free to specify in the comments what your job is, because obviously that has a big impact (whether you work from home, have a physically demanding job, etc.).

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Another Redditor once told me that when seeking euthanasia, to avoid vets who use a premix of ketamine and xylazine, as it causes pain when injected.

Is there any truth to this or did that Redditor have a unique bad experience?

A few years ago someone on Reddit told me this:

"A commonly used drug is a ‘pre-mix’ a combination of xylazine and ketamine. These drugs may cause a stinging sensation when administered intravenously. Telazol (tiletamine and zolazepam) is a somewhat less commonly used drug that stings much less. Telazol not only causes a loss of consciousness but also causes loss of pain. Telazol is the one you want to find and use."

I actually saved it in my phone because I wanted to remember the names of the drugs when the time came for my babies.

But I'm also prone to anxiety and I want to know if this redditor was correct in what they told me or if this is a bit of paranoia. From research is seems like the drugs mentioned and noted as bad are commonly used. So I just want to know if anyone has had experience with this.

TIA.

Six days ago I increased from 30 to 40mg and I have been dealing with a severe constant headache since then. Medication resistant, not even responding to my prescription migraine meds. It is brutal and I don't know what to do. I have to imagine it's from the dose increase because although I do get headaches, it's uncommon for them to last this long with no improvement. It's really becoming unbearable.

Am I dying? What do I do :(

Started on 10, then went to 20, recently increased to 30 and I still don't feel like there's been a noticeable difference. I maybe notice a bit of improvement at first (placebo?) and then eventually I sort of feel the same.

Just discouraged. I see so many people on here taking 20mg and saying it's been a miracle for them.

I hate getting messages from clients along the lines of "We may need a sitter for these dates; will you be available?"

I understand that maybe their plans aren't finalized, but.... neither are mine. I can't plan my life around hypothetical bookings, especially when they are months in advance.

How hard is it to get rid of clothing moths in a cat tree? I've had moths in my house for a few months now. Been trying to get rid of them but couldn't identify their main spot. Finally I think I may have found it and unfortunately it's one of my cat trees.

It's in good shape otherwise and I've had it a long time, so I would be bummed to throw it out. But I also don't want to keep it if it's contributing to the moth problem.

Anyone dealt with this?

It's making me so damn grumpy. Daily headaches take a toll on a person.

I feel like I have constant swamp ass. I'm changing underwear multiple times a day. I've tried putting on deodorant and antiperspirant down there, but nothing seems to help.

Edit: and I do only wear cotton!

I've been on 20mg for about eight months and decided to increase. My doctor prescribed me enough to take 40mg (two 20s), but I decided to take 30mg for a week or two to help bridge the side effects. But now I'm thinking, should I just stay on 30 for longer and see if it helps? Obviously the idea being you want to be on the lowest effective dose, right?

But I also want to start seeing improvement and not have this dragging out forever.

Can't decide what to do. Thoughts?