I hate getting messages from clients along the lines of "We may need a sitter for these dates; will you be available?"
I understand that maybe their plans aren't finalized, but.... neither are mine. I can't plan my life around hypothetical bookings, especially when they are months in advance.
First time! I think I'm ready!
How hard is it to get rid of clothing moths in a cat tree? I've had moths in my house for a few months now. Been trying to get rid of them but couldn't identify their main spot. Finally I think I may have found it and unfortunately it's one of my cat trees.
It's in good shape otherwise and I've had it a long time, so I would be bummed to throw it out. But I also don't want to keep it if it's contributing to the moth problem.
Anyone dealt with this?
It's making me so damn grumpy. Daily headaches take a toll on a person.
Hey all. So when searching for a sitter, I noticed there is now an option to search for sitters with cat medication experience. This is great. However, I noticed as a sitter that I can't actually find anywhere in my service settings to indicate that I offer this. I only see yes or no questions regarding dog medication. Under the "cat details" section, it doesn't ask about meds.
Anyone have ideas?
So my sunroom builder is recommending floating LVP for the floor, which is contrary to most of the advice I've seen online. He said to avoid glue down and go with floating to avoid temperature issues. But a lot of what I see online says the opposite.
So I'm confused and just looking for advice here. Do I trust what my builder is saying or trust the advice of the internet?
Also what about something like this?
https://www.homedepot.com/p/Pro-Space-12-in-x-12-in-Acacia-Wood-Interlocking-Flooring-Deck-Tile-Brown-6-Slats-10-Pack-Covering-10-sq-ft-WDT788P10/323472272
Hey all. Just looking for thoughts and need to hear whether I am making more of this than it is. It has been my plan to enclose this porch into 3-season room, but this corner where the edge of the porch overlaps the window makes it a bit awkward as it prevents us from running the wall straight along the side of the porch and into the house.
Porch builder said we have two options. We can bring that whole wall in so that it avoids the window, but lose some square footage and end up with a ~1.5 foot slab on the outside thats not enclosed, or we can create an angle in that corner to avoid the window. I have elected to go with option 2, but now I'm having second thoughts. Every other corner will be square, so I just feel like this is going to look odd, particularly because it's on the "inside," next to the house, as opposed to the outside corner of the porch, if that makes sense.
Basically I'm afraid it will look goofy and also possibly limit my furniture choices, like if I wanted to get a small corner sectional or something.
Apologies if this is difficult to visualize.
I feel like I have constant swamp ass. I'm changing underwear multiple times a day. I've tried putting on deodorant and antiperspirant down there, but nothing seems to help.
Edit: and I do only wear cotton!
I've been on 20mg for about eight months and decided to increase. My doctor prescribed me enough to take 40mg (two 20s), but I decided to take 30mg for a week or two to help bridge the side effects. But now I'm thinking, should I just stay on 30 for longer and see if it helps? Obviously the idea being you want to be on the lowest effective dose, right?
But I also want to start seeing improvement and not have this dragging out forever.
Can't decide what to do. Thoughts?
And like, it still bothers you as much now as it did 20 years ago?
It's so discouraging.
My main theme I've had since long before I even knew it was OCD. I've just been worrying and having intrusive thoughts about this for decades. It has taken different forms but always been there.
Planning this jump but curious about if any of you experienced side effects or any difficulty. Also considering doing 30mg for a week or two as a bridge. My doctor was open to whatever.
Are we all just fucking weirdos at that time? With weird urges and no impulse control?
Edit: NOT to exclude anyone whose events are not from this time period. I have ick memories from when I was both younger and older than this too. It's just that the ones from this preteen/young teenager phase are the stickiest for some reason and it seems to be a common thread in this community and worth discussing.
Even as it relates to the same theme? I have some things that are sooooooo relentlessly sticky. Like haven't been able to unstick them for decades. And then other things that are arguable similar are not nearly as distressing.
What gives?
That's really the kicker of this stupid condition, isn't it? It forces us to try to accept things that we feel we CANNOT accept.
Mainly with intrusive thoughts and past actions/events... oftentimes these things feel like an attack to our core. They are so horrible to us that acceptance just doesn't feel like an option.
So how do we accept things that we can't accept? It sounds like a stupid question but this is what's keeping me stuck. I feel like if I could find a way to accept/make peace/etc, then maybe I could move on. But I just don't know how because I will never view these things as being okay.
For gods sake. I feel like this shouldn't have to be said. But I just had a very unfortunate bathroom/hygiene experience because I had to use a client's bathroom and they had no damn toilet paper. Not just that the roll was out... there was no toilet paper anywhere in the bathroom.
I realize we are there to care for your pets, but please recognize that we also have basic human needs.
I have not had success with finding an in-person therapist, and I have paranoia about doing virtual therapy, so I thought about trying something like this.
I'm specifically considering Nathan Peterson's. Looking to get any feedback. TIA!
So with any theme, real event included, I understand the main approach to treatment is to not engage with the thoughts when they come up. Do not ruminate, do not try to solve it or understand it or dig into it in any way, etc.
However, for many of us dealing with real event, these memories are traumatic and distressing. Obviously... that's why they disturb us so much. I'm not talking about people who obsess about extremely innocuous things that are objectively minor. I'm talking about those of us who have events that were actually traumatic, scary, disturbing, highly questionable, etc.
So here's the rub. If OCD wasn't involved here, and we were looking at someone who is simply dealing with traumatic past memories that they can't get over or move past, the approach would be to dig into these memories and work to find peace with them.... that is typically the approach to trauma. Right? But so in our case, we're actively letting the trauma remain unresolved because we are refusing to approach it as trauma, but rather as "just OCD."
Also, I continuously struggle with how counterintuitive it feels to "not engage" in any way mentally. Think about it... for nearly every other thing we do day to day, our brains are involved in helping us make decisions, think things through, problem solve, try to understand things, think about how things could've been different, etc. literally on and on. Our brains are highly analytical, that's like a huge part of their job. And it's also why "not engaging" feels like the opposite of what we should be doing to resolve icky feelings.
So bottom line, when real events are traumatic, not mentally engaging in any way feels like the opposite of what we should be doing. Both because trauma doesn't get resolved that way, and also because deliberately refusing to engage feels like the opposite of the way our brains work.
I really hope this makes sense. But anyway. Real event is really really really hard. How do we process fucked up things without ever engaging?
I have been stuck on this ride for literally decades and I still haven't figured it out.
So with any theme, real event included, I understand the main approach to treatment is to not engage with the thoughts when they come up. Do not ruminate, do not try to solve it or understand it or dig into it in any way, etc.
However, for many of us dealing with real event, these memories are traumatic and distressing. Obviously... that's why they disturb us so much. I'm not talking about people who obsess about extremely innocuous things that are objectively minor. I'm talking about those of us who have events that were actually traumatic, scary, disturbing, highly questionable, etc.
So here's the rub. If OCD wasn't involved here, and we were looking at someone who is simply dealing with traumatic past memories that they can't get over or move past, the approach would be to dig into these memories and work to find peace with them.... that is typically the approach to trauma. Right? But so in our case, we're actively letting the trauma remain unresolved because we are refusing to approach it as trauma, but rather as "just OCD."
Also, I continuously struggle with how counterintuitive it feels to "not engage" in any way mentally. Think about it... for nearly every other thing we do day to day, our brains are involved in helping us make decisions, think things through, problem solve, try to understand things, think about how things could've been different, etc. literally on and on. Our brains are highly analytical, that's like a huge part of their job. And it's also why "not engaging" feels like the opposite of what we should be doing to resolve icky feelings.
So bottom line, when real events are traumatic, not mentally engaging in any way feels like the opposite of what we should be doing. Both because trauma doesn't get resolved that way, and also because deliberately refusing to engage feels like the opposite of the way our brains work.
I really hope this makes sense. But anyway. Real event is really really really hard. How do we process fucked up things without ever engaging?
I have been stuck on this ride for literally decades and I still haven't figured it out.
How? Just how...
How do you accept that you did something abhorrent, or immoral, or illegal, or "abnormal?"
How do you actually accept something that you can never be at peace with?
"Just accept it" is just words... how do you actually do it?
Small thing about real event that is hanging me up... want to know if anyone else has experienced this too. Obviously there are tons of nuances and specifics that cause us to get hung up on real event memories... thats kind of the whole thing. But one thing thats sticking for me lately is.... what if I DID know better at the time?
On other posts about this, I see a lot of people saying "you were a child, you didn't know better," or "I was clueless and had no idea what I was doing or that it was wrong."
But I remember feeling negative feelings about my real events AT THE TIME it was happening. I remember when I did these things I felt sick and anxious about it. I was sneaky... like I didn't want to get caught because I knew it was wrong.
So what do I do with that? It's one thing when you can be like, yeah I had no idea what I was doing or that it was wrong. It was innocent at the time, etc. But what if you did have at least somewhat of an understanding, and did it anyway? Obviously this adds to the complexity of wanting to understand why this happened and not being able to.