u/StrikingCoconut

I know that's literally childhood-era cope, "she's mean to you because she's jealous of you!" but...surely where there's smoke there's fire sometimes, right?

Me and a colleague are both going out for the same promotion, both professional women in our thirties working in medical research. Our boss called us into a meeting and basically said, "no matter what happens, you're both still very valuable and maybe there will be other positions open later for you." That colleague messaged me later and was like, "what was that?" I explained that neither of us would be petty to the other one if she got the job, but obviously our boss has seen it happen before and was trying to head it off at the pass.

Got me thinking that surely it must happen? Any experiences?

my bad. he's so much bigger! I lost so many dahlleurs!

I see it as the same as not wanting to sleep with a man who won't go down on me. I don't want to feel him mash his soft dick into me and I don't want to stick to the two positions that we have to stick with as we try in vain to keep him hard. I'd rather just not bother.

He can't stay hard with 2 Cialis. I think that is a canary in a coal mine for some serious health issues that I've begged him to seek treatment for. But ultimately it's not my problem. If he wants to ignore those signs and potentially miss out on his children's futures, so be it. He's only 47, he's too repressed to enjoy sex. But that's not my problem any more.

He's unemployed, so if I left I'd still have to support him (I've always made more). When the kids are older I'll probably go outside the marriage. I just don't have room in my heart to fix yet another problem for him.

Hi!

We live in Merrickville and have a little jet boat, but we've never brought it up to the city and want to change that this summer. Can anyone recommend good launches around town, free or paid? Where's your favourite place to put in around town?

Okay, so I listen to the I hate Bill Maher podcast and something that the suspects happens quite often on tapings of Real Time is that Maher is a septuaginarian and his dentures become dislodged in his mouth and he has to adjust them.

I think the dentures are a unifying theory of why Bill Maher has become increasingly angry at young people and his increasing Zionism and conservatism is downstream of his anger as his fading youth, which his dentures constantly remind him of.

The dentures are a continual reminder of his quickly vanishing mortality. That's why he gets stuck on battles that have been lost long ago. You really can't ignore things that are happening in your mouth. And for Maher, who only wishes he was young again, having his dentures dislodge, especially on air, must be humiliating and terrifying.

Maher’s identity has long depended on several intertwined fantasies:

• perpetual youthfulness
• sexual relevance
• verbal sharpness
• bachelor freedom
• being culturally ahead of the curve rather than left behind by it.

Unlike some aging public intellectuals who transition into elder gravitas, Maher’s brand was built on being the eternally smug, libidinal, sharp-tongued guy at the party. He cultivated “I’m still cooler than everyone else” energy for decades.

The body eventually rebels against that fantasy. And the mouth is symbolically brutal because it’s tied directly to:

• speech
• charisma
• sexuality
• attractiveness
• social confidence
• control

A deteriorating mouth is hard to sublimate away intellectually. You can hide aging in many ways. But if your teeth shift while speaking on camera, your body is interrupting your persona in real time. You can ignore bad knees or arthritis some of the time when you're sitting, but it's wayyyyy harder to ignore stuff going on in your mouth, especially if you make your living with it.

A lot of Maher’s recent rhetoric has the emotional texture of someone arguing against time. He often sounds angry that history continued moving after the version of modernity in which he felt maximally culturally competent.

So when younger cultural norms emerge that he doesn’t intuitively grasp, it’s experienced as narcissistic displacement. “The culture no longer recognizes me as the effortlessly cool center.” The body aging at the same time intensifies that experience.

There’s something almost unbearably symbolic about dentures specifically in a television performer:

• artificiality replacing natural vitality
• maintenance replacing spontaneity
• management replacing ease
• prosthetic control trying to preserve the image

Especially for someone who values effortless coolness.

You can compare this to performers who age more gracefully because they reorient their identity around mentorship, depth, wisdom, craftsmanship, or serenity. Maher has largely resisted that transition. He still often positions himself as the clever rogue bachelor fighting “kids these days.”

That creates tension because the audience can perceive the aging even if the performer psychologically resists integrating it. This plays in to all of his wei8rd stuff about health too !

the body interrupting the performance

mortality interrupting the persona

age interrupting irony

He'd never seen it and I love it. I told him that guys *can* watch it but it's not *for* them. It's a film for women.

Anyway, by the time we got to the part scene where Demi Moore is doing and re-doing her makeup, he paused it and said "okay I see what you're saying about how this is a movie for women. This isn't something I can relate to at all."

I told him that probably the most common response to this film that I see online was that *every* woman can relate to that scene in some way. I feel that way sometimes. We talked about how there's no subtlety in the film because the way that women hate themselves is not subtle at all. The things women do make themselves beautiful can be incredibly over the top and damaging.

It just shows that in some ways the genders are completely different realities.

I ordered from the Georgia warehouse, paid my duties through APC and ThredUp just...hasn't shipped it. Has anyone else had this experience where they're just not sending packages?

Can I talk about something that's really bothering me?

So our house is 150 years old and we don't have an eat-in kitchen. It's not the kind of kitchen for hanging out in .We have a formal dining room where we eat dinner. My husband and I split cooking 50/50. I do Monday, Wednesdays, Fridays and alternate Sundays. He does Tuesdays, Thursdays saturdays and alternate Sundays.

Typically one of us cooks and the other watches our 18 month old son. When my husband is cooking I read to the kid or take him up to his playroom or play with his toys with him.

Generally my husband does the same but quite often allows the kid to wander into the kitchen while I'm cooking. My husband will then just kind of turn off his brain to the toddler but as if he's handing him back to me even though I'm occupied.

This means kiddo frequently wants me to pick him up. He gets kind of underfoot while I'm in key moments of cooking and my husband is generally in the way. Kiddo has a toddler tower but he could only stay in it for brief periods because he tries to climb out of it onto the counter.

I have told my husband that I don't like kiddo being in the kitchen while I'm cooking and can he please take him somewhere else? He understands that he needs to do this but it just keeps happening. Tonight the kid was roaming around and wanting uppies while my husband stood right in front of my prep area reading a flyer 🤬🤬.

It's he's not strict enough about it and it really annoys me

I guess this would be a question for anyone who's a little bit more tapped into the right wing media matrix. I don't know if that applies to anyone here.

I've been thinking about this with regards to Hasan in recent weeks. I saw a clip of him talking about how Fox News did four stories about him in one day. I think he just attracts attention and that's why they talk about him incessantly. But then on the other side of things, Trump himself and right-wing politicians are in a constant beef with mainstream media like CNN, NBC and I guess CBS like 60 minutes.

What I never hear is the right-wing freaking out about something John Favreau said or any of those Crooked Media guys. They must have millions of listeners, surely. They seem hugely influential with the libs. But yet they get pretty much no reaction from what I can see from the right wing. For sure Fox News is not doing four stories a day about Dan Pfieffer.

It must be because they're so clearly not a threat to anyone, right?