u/Substantial-Pear9084

My ex and I broke up about 2.5 months ago. For context, He is from another country, but we were together in person and lived together for a period of time before he eventually had to move back to his home country. After that, we continued the relationship long-distance.

After the breakup, we were still talking regularly and things felt a bit up in the air. It wasn’t a clean break, and there was a sense that maybe we could work things out in the future.

Then about a month ago, we had a huge fight. He blocked me on WhatsApp, and we completely stopped talking. We haven’t spoken at all for an entire month.

Yesterday, I received a package from him out of nowhere. He lives overseas, and the package contained a bunch of my favorite snacks. He had gone out, bought all my favorite things, and shipped them over 10,000 miles away. From the shipping date, it looks like he sent it about three weeks after we had already stopped talking.

Naturally, I was confused. I messaged him on instagram and asked if he had sent it. He confirmed that he had. I then asked why he sent it, and he never responded. I messaged again, and still no response.

One detail that adds to my confusion is that I know he did something similar with a previous ex. He sent her a package of her favorite things after their relationship ended. The difference is that they were still on good terms and still talking at the time. In our case, we had not spoken for a month and had ended things on very bad terms.

To make matters worse, I was actually sick when the package arrived. I had to go pick it up from the post office while dealing with nausea and vomiting because I thought it was something else I had ordered. So the whole thing ended up being stressful and emotionally upsetting.

This is what is so confusing to me. He sent something so personal and meaningful, knowing it would get my attention, and then refused to explain it when I asked about it directly.

Part of me feels like this was inconsiderate and selfish. It feels like maybe he did it for his own closure, to ease his guilt, or to make himself feel better, while leaving me confused and emotionally affected by it.

Another part of me wonders if I’m being unfair and reading too much into it.

At this point, I’m torn between:

1. ⁠Sending a message telling him that I think this was unfair and confusing.
2. ⁠Blocking him and moving on.
3. ⁠Doing nothing and leaving the door open.

What would you make of this situation? And what do you think is the best thing to do?

Thank you for your advice 💗

TL;DR: My ex and I broke up 2.5 months ago. We kept talking afterward until a big fight a month ago, after which he blocked me and we stopped speaking. Yesterday, I received a package from him filled with my favorite snacks that he had shipped from overseas about three weeks after we stopped talking. He confirmed he sent it, but refused to explain why or respond further . I’m confused because it feels like a very personal and meaningful gesture, yet he won’t communicate. What should I do?

My ex and I broke up about 2.5 months ago. For context, He is from another country, but we were together in person and lived together for a period of time before he eventually had to move back to his home country. After that, we continued the relationship long-distance.

After the breakup, we were still talking regularly and things felt a bit up in the air. It wasn’t a clean break, and there was a sense that maybe we could work things out in the future.

Then about a month ago, we had a huge fight. He blocked me on WhatsApp, and we completely stopped talking. We haven’t spoken at all for an entire month.

Yesterday, I received a package from him out of nowhere. He lives overseas, and the package contained a bunch of my favorite snacks. He had gone out, bought all my favorite things, and shipped them over 10,000 miles away. From the shipping date, it looks like he sent it about three weeks after we had already stopped talking.

Naturally, I was confused. I messaged him on instagram and asked if he had sent it. He confirmed that he had. I then asked why he sent it, and he never responded. I messaged again, and still no response.

One detail that adds to my confusion is that I know he did something similar with a previous ex. He sent her a package of her favorite things after their relationship ended. The difference is that they were still on good terms and still talking at the time. In our case, we had not spoken for a month and had ended things on very bad terms.

To make matters worse, I was actually sick when the package arrived. I had to go pick it up from the post office while dealing with nausea and vomiting because I thought it was something else I had ordered. So the whole thing ended up being stressful and emotionally upsetting.

This is what is so confusing to me. He sent something so personal and meaningful, knowing it would get my attention, and then refused to explain it when I asked about it directly.

Part of me feels like this was inconsiderate and selfish. It feels like maybe he did it for his own closure, to ease his guilt, or to make himself feel better, while leaving me confused and emotionally affected by it.

Another part of me wonders if I’m being unfair and reading too much into it.

At this point, I’m torn between:

1. ⁠Sending a message telling him that I think this was unfair and confusing.
2. ⁠Blocking him and moving on.
3. ⁠Doing nothing and leaving the door open.

What would you make of this situation? And what do you think is the best thing to do?

TL;DR: My ex and I broke up 2.5 months ago. We kept talking afterward until a big fight a month ago, after which he blocked me and we stopped speaking. Yesterday, I received a package from him filled with my favorite snacks that he had shipped from overseas about three weeks after we stopped talking. He confirmed he sent it, but refused to explain why or respond further . I’m confused because it feels like a very personal and meaningful gesture, yet he won’t communicate. What should I do?

My ex and I broke up about 2.5 months ago. For context, He is from another country, but we were together in person and lived together for a period of time before he eventually had to move back to his home country. After that, we continued the relationship long-distance.

After the breakup, we were still talking regularly and things felt a bit up in the air. It wasn’t a clean break, and there was a sense that maybe we could work things out in the future.

Then about a month ago, we had a huge fight. He blocked me on WhatsApp, and we completely stopped talking. We haven’t spoken at all for an entire month.

Yesterday, I received a package from him out of nowhere. He lives overseas, and the package contained a bunch of my favorite snacks. He had gone out, bought all my favorite things, and shipped them over 10,000 miles away. From the shipping date, it looks like he sent it about three weeks after we had already stopped talking.

Naturally, I was confused. I messaged him on instagram and asked if he had sent it. He confirmed that he had. I then asked why he sent it, and he never responded. I messaged again, and still no response.

One detail that adds to my confusion is that I know he did something similar with a previous ex. He sent her a package of her favorite things after their relationship ended. The difference is that they were still on good terms and still talking at the time. In our case, we had not spoken for a month and had ended things on very bad terms.

To make matters worse, I was actually sick when the package arrived. I had to go pick it up from the post office while dealing with nausea and vomiting because I thought it was something else I had ordered. So the whole thing ended up being stressful and emotionally upsetting.

This is what is so confusing to me. He sent something so personal and meaningful, knowing it would get my attention, and then refused to explain it when I asked about it directly.

Part of me feels like this was inconsiderate and selfish. It feels like maybe he did it for his own closure, to ease his guilt, or to make himself feel better, while leaving me confused and emotionally affected by it.

Another part of me wonders if I’m being unfair and reading too much into it.

At this point, I’m torn between:

1. ⁠Sending a message telling him that I think this was unfair and confusing.
2. ⁠Blocking him and moving on.
3. ⁠Doing nothing and leaving the door open.

What would you make of this situation? And what do you think is the best thing to do?

Thank you for your advice 💗

TL;DR: My ex and I broke up 2.5 months ago. We kept talking afterward until a big fight a month ago, after which he blocked me and we stopped speaking. Yesterday, I received a package from him filled with my favorite snacks that he had shipped from overseas about three weeks after we stopped talking. He confirmed he sent it, but refused to explain why or respond further . I’m confused because it feels like a very personal and meaningful gesture, yet he won’t communicate. What should I do?

My ex and I broke up about 2.5 months ago. For context, He is from another country, but we were together in person and lived together for a period of time before he eventually had to move back to his home country. After that, we continued the relationship long-distance.

After the breakup, we were still talking regularly and things felt a bit up in the air. It wasn’t a clean break, and there was a sense that maybe we could work things out in the future.

Then about a month ago, we had a huge fight. He blocked me on WhatsApp, and we completely stopped talking. We haven’t spoken at all for an entire month.

Yesterday, I received a package from him out of nowhere. He lives overseas, and the package contained a bunch of my favorite snacks. He had gone out, bought all my favorite things, and shipped them over 10,000 miles away. From the shipping date, it looks like he sent it about three weeks after we had already stopped talking.

Naturally, I was confused. I messaged him on instagram and asked if he had sent it. He confirmed that he had. I then asked why he sent it, and he never responded. I messaged again, and still no response.

One detail that adds to my confusion is that I know he did something similar with a previous ex. He sent her a package of her favorite things after their relationship ended. The difference is that they were still on good terms and still talking at the time. In our case, we had not spoken for a month and had ended things on very bad terms.

To make matters worse, I was actually sick when the package arrived. I had to go pick it up from the post office while dealing with nausea and vomiting because I thought it was something else I had ordered. So the whole thing ended up being stressful and emotionally upsetting.

This is what is so confusing to me. He sent something so personal and meaningful, knowing it would get my attention, and then refused to explain it when I asked about it directly.

Part of me feels like this was inconsiderate and selfish. It feels like maybe he did it for his own closure, to ease his guilt, or to make himself feel better, while leaving me confused and emotionally affected by it.

Another part of me wonders if I’m being unfair and reading too much into it.

At this point, I’m torn between:

1. Sending a message telling him that I think this was unfair and confusing.
2. Blocking him and moving on.
3. Doing nothing and leaving the door open.

What would you make of this situation? And what do you think is the best thing to do?

TL;DR: My ex and I broke up 2.5 months ago. We kept talking afterward until a big fight a month ago, after which he blocked me and we stopped speaking. Yesterday, I received a package from him filled with my favorite snacks that he had shipped from overseas about three weeks after we stopped talking. He confirmed he sent it, but refused to explain why or respond further . I’m confused because it feels like a very personal and meaningful gesture, yet he won’t communicate. What should I do?

I received a nuisance call from an unknown number. The caller was speaking using a masked or distorted voice, so I couldn’t make out some of what they were saying. However, I clearly heard them mention the location of my house before they continued talking about unrelated nonsense, so I ended the call.

The same number called again shortly afterward. I answered, and as soon as I did, the caller started speaking in abusive and vulgar language.

I’m concerned because I live alone, and the fact that they mentioned the location of my house makes me worry.

What can I do in this situation? Can I report this to the police, and would they actually take any action? If not, is there any legal way to find out who the caller is? (Tried true caller, didn’t work) Also, what protective measures would you recommend I take to ensure my safety?

Thank you!

My ‘32F’ boyfriend ‘36M’ keeps saying that he’s not sure that we’d work out in the long term. He doesn’t outright say it all the time, but it comes up sometimes during certain conversations or situations.

What he tells me is basically this: if he was 100% sure about me, then we’d already be married. He says that’s how I’d know he was truly sure about me.

I don’t know why, but this really bothers me.

I just feel like the reason we’re not married yet would be because it’s not the right time yet. Like, there’s a time and place for everything. Not because I need more time to be ‘sure’ about him.

We’ve been dating for 9 months and living together for 5 months, and he still says things like this.

So I don’t know… am I overthinking this, or is this actually a red flag?

EDIT: it was his idea we live together and he pushed for it.

Hey everyone,

I’m planning to build a house soon, and I’ll be handling the whole process on my own as a woman. I’m feeling excited but also a bit anxious, especially about making mistakes or getting taken advantage of.

I’d really appreciate any advice from people who’ve gone through this before. What are some things I should watch out for when dealing with contractors, builders, or suppliers? How do you protect yourself from being overcharged or misled?

One of my biggest concerns is material quality. How do you actually tell if things bricks or sand are good quality? Are there specific checks, tests, or trusted ways to source these materials?

I’m also a bit worried that since I’m doing this on my own, the builders might try to take advantage or cut corners.

Any tips, red flags, or general guidance would mean a lot. Even things you wish you knew before starting your build would be super helpful.

Thank you so much :)